My best friend (we'll call her Jane) has been acting very strange for a while now. I noticed a change in her behaviour in the middle of last summer. Jane will randomly get very quiet and really depressed. Jane told me that she feels like no one understands and that she is alone. She says she feels empty. Jane is very confused as to why she feels this way and can't think of a reason why. Her parents don't have any clue who she is and they are very protective of her; they don't even let her dress the way she wants to. The other day I spent the night at Jane's house and I noticed she had cuts on her wrist. I asked her about it and she made me swear not to tell anyone. I told her she needed to get help but she told me that she didn't want help. Her parents have no idea that any of this is going on and I have no idea what to do. What is wrong with her and how do I help?
2007-02-02 05:09:33 · 14 answers · asked by stegosaurus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree with you that she needs help. She sounds like she's really going through something rough. Maybe if you could get her to go to her own doctor, he/she could possibly try your friend on an anti depressant as well as referring her to a good counsellor. Having lost a friend to suicide, I know now how important it is to pay attention to the warning signs. I wonder do her parents not notice anything wrong? If you feel that you need to tell someone about Jane's behaviour, then please do. What about your own parents? Even if Jane gets angry with you, it's better than losing your friend forever. Take care and good luck.
2007-02-02 05:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by imnot_thegirl_nextdoor 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First talk to her parents and a counsellor at school. She could cut too deep and die. As for her feelings of loneliness and helplessness, I hate to say it but it really is just a faze and a lot of hormones are kicking in. Some kids handle this well, others don't. I have 2 girls, both of which hit puberty quite some time ago, one is depressed and looking to self-destruct, the other is handles things with grace. It's call 'growing up', but she really should talk to someone about her cutting. It's wrong to do that and again, I'm sure no one wants to bury her if things go wrong when she cuts too deep one day.
2007-02-02 05:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs professional help. What she is doing is called cutting. The only way she may get the help is for you to tell some one, even if it means loosing your friend. She at least will get the help she both needs and deserves. She may hate you for it at first but some day she will thank you for being a true friend that cared about her enough to do some thing. Tell,your mom/ dad or even a teacher if you don't want to tell her parents, they can let her parents know what's happening. Your a good friend
2007-02-02 05:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to tell someone. If you feel uncomfortable telling her parents or a school counselor, tell your mother . make sure she knows you want something to happen NOW!
She may say she doesn't want help but she doesn't seem to know what she wants.
If this change happened suddenly as you say, there may have been some kind of abuse that began at the same time. That's why I'd go with the school counselor.
2007-02-02 05:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best answer that can be given to you, is that you MUST inform one of Jane's family member. They have the responsibilty to find help for her. If she eventuality does hurt herself , You will always feel, that you should have done "something". Also some promises are not meant to be kept. Ex. this one. Take care.
2007-02-02 05:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to help her if you can. Maybe you can talk to a guidance counselor (not use her real name) and find out more. Yahoo groups has groups for those who cut. You can join a group for depression and ask where to find those groups.
Also joining a woman's group or psychology group might help you find more info. I've heard a lot of young girls/women do this. Well I'll pray for her.
You sound like a great person to want to help her. Sometimes we get stuck/lost etc and don't know how or who to ask for help.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-02 05:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, there is something wrong with your friend. its probably a mixture of some kind of depression and cutting. cutting can be very serious. i would not ignore the behavior. she definitely needs some kind of help. you to her parents. if ever a short while they dont listen to you then go to a school counselor and let that couselor know that you informed her parents. thebehavior needs to be addressed.
2007-02-02 06:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to feel afraid for you friend, i would be too. Her parents as they legal guardians of her morally and everything else need to know, leave a note in there car of something.
You have counselors at school so tell them, a teacher, someone who can intervene NOW before she really does something stupid.
2007-02-02 05:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems she's come down with a case of Emo. Keep all sharp objects away and let her listen to Emo music. Usually depression or personal stress can make people go Emo.
2007-02-02 05:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by burly_red_sheep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to someone about this and get her help. if you dont she might hurt herself worse than she already has. Plus if something happens to her you will probably, actually you should, feel really bad for not trying to help her. it could be a sign that she is trying to commit suicide. if thats the case then you really need to think fast or else her suicide attemt might actually work. then you would be wishing you hadnt kept her secret. you need to help her. and hurry
hope you can help your friend
2007-02-02 05:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by puppyluv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋