I am in love with a guy who earns much less than I do and is not very educated at all. I want to marry him as I don't care about his lack of money and education. Am I going to make the biggest mistake of my life? Will I regret this? or WIll I regret not marrying the love of my life? Furthermore, my parents are very much against our union due to the reasons I have mentioned. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2007-02-02 05:08:34 · 18 answers · asked by Preeti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't let this guy slip away if he's the one you love and he loves you and treats you right. So many men leave their wives because they can't handle the fact that they make more than them. That "Pride" causes them to lose out on a good thing. Don't make the same mistake. If he is a hardworker and he makes you happy that is all you need and don't let anyone tell you different. Money does not bring true happiness. If you let him go you may end up finding guys who make a good income but they may be the mean and insensitive type. Don't ever let true love go because of "money". Parents always do what they think is best for their kids and I don't blame them for thinking like that but if this guy is good to you and makes you happy, they will see that he brings you the happiness they want for you so bad. Go with your heart, believe me, you won't regret it.
2007-02-02 05:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by madmomma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that education plays a big part in a relationship, when you have someone that has a higher education level than his or her mate my opinion is the relationship won't work. People like to relate to their significant others. Communication is a big part for a couple. I also believe that in the beginnings of a relationship it should be 50/50 well even after your married. Today's society is not like back in day were men took care of their women. Today women take care of themselves, and i also know for a fact that when a woman is smart and has her **** together, that's a big turn on for a man. I believe this guy loves you but i also believe that if you don't step up in the world you may loose him. Do you first, go back to school and get your life together and let him do his thing. If it's meant to be then it will be. I have alot of experience on the subject and i can honestly say that being a strong, independent female has definitely payed off. DO WHAT YOU GOTTA DO GIRL!!!!!!!!
2016-03-29 01:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have even a LITTLE doubt about marrying him, don't marry him at all.
What would happen if you married this man? Is he going to quit his job later on and play "Mr. Mom" while he lives off of your income? HE should be the man and provider in the house.
With me, I want to marry someone with all three qualities- for love, education, and income. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting that. I have high expectations for myself, so I want a man who can stand up to my level as well.
Remember, if you have even the slightest doubt about getting married, DO NOT get married. Don't rule with your emotions, use your head too.
2007-02-02 09:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choice is yours to make. But will he resent your ability to bring home the majority of the money, or will he resent you education? What about when children come? Sometimes a parent will become a stay at home father/mother. Since you would be the primary bread winner is he comfortable being a stay at home dad? Are you comfortable with that? Lots of questions, and lots of scenarios to look at before you marry. If you honestly think that this will cause problems, it will cause problems, and you will be miserable.
My mother told me that I should marry my equal. I had been told that since day one.
2007-02-02 05:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying for money and education will end disasterously. A mariage with love can overcome ANY obsticles...money for example. Do what your heart tells you! The size of a wallet or length of knowledge should never matter when it comes to love. We can't help who we love, it just happens!! I think leaving him for those reasons would be the bigest mistake of your life, on down the line if it is important enough...he can go back to school and better himself for you.
2007-02-02 05:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u think that the love is more important than the compromises u may have to make after marrying this guy, then u should marry him. but if u cant take the compromises and consequences of the marriage then u should not. bcoz things will change for you only after marriage, so think take some time. if u can change ureself for ure love that is something i will appreciate. but take ure time and think, its ure life dear, a decision after a sincere thought by you is required.
2007-02-02 05:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why he is not educated well , In real life education and good job makes all the difference. Its good that some one loves you but just think of long run. Its not going to help you and your well wisher "parents"
2007-02-02 05:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by munz s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better you come out of your imaginery world and see the practical life. Love alone cannot give you what you want from your husband. Girls will love their husbands only if he is self sufficient in all aspects,like,education,reputation,status in the society etc. Your parents are absolutely right.
2007-02-02 17:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by VP K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u married someone who earned more then u and better educated then u r but he was cruel , cheated and beat u ( no point intended to anyone please ) would that be better as long as he makes more money then u ? would u r family be happy that u have a nice home but a miserable life , i think if u love someone u should marry them , we marry for richer or poor in sickens or in health .
2007-02-02 13:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is alright but after marriage you will face the realities of life. Men are egoist and he may be a problem and not you. Better weigh the pros and cons. My suggestion let it go. Look for some other boy
2007-02-02 06:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by sanjoy2701 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋