i am shy about this stuff. i have fantisies and would like to try some. i can talk to my husband but i feel that he will think i am weird for being shy about it all. he is VERY open. what are some interesting ways i can get started and not feel like i am a freak.
2007-02-02 05:03:49 · 22 answers · asked by EMMAS' CUTE_NESS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Darlin' trust me, you are NOT a freak, I learned (a long time ago, and the hard way I might add) that no matter what dirty kinky thing you got going on in your head, there is someone else out there (maybe even the person next to you, or the person writing this ;)) that has thought and/or done dirtier and kinkier! If your husband is very open about these things then I am willing to bet he will be thrilled if you start a conversation with him about it. He may be holding back in case he offends you in any way, but if you truely are ready to open up and share, you may just discover a whole new exciting world with him. I assume he loves and respects you adn will not push you until you ar ready, but start small, pick one thing, one little thing that maybe you have fantasized about, or read about or are curious about and use that as the beginning of a whole new realm of possibilities. I would suggest pick a time when its just the two of you, where you are not rushed or expected anywhere (I would not suggest saying anything like "darling I was thinking about a threeway with aniother woman" while driving.... you may cause an accident :)), but take your time, get relaxed, take a deep breath and just say it, whatever it is, and try not to rush through it, let him take his time to respond, he may be a little shocked and/or speechless at first, don't take that as a bad sign. He's probably trying to find an answer so he doesn't scare you off. Then after he answers just let the conversation happen naturally. Remember, this is the person you married, the one who is supposed to love honour and cherish you (and you will do the same for him), he's not going to judge you, trust me. You are an the verge of a whole new adventure together, he's going to treasure it, adn treasure you too! Good luck and have fun!!!
2007-02-02 05:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is more about you and your self-esteem/confidence than it is your husband. Forego the actual "fantasies" for a while and start out small with just some little things in bed that you don't normally do. I don't know what your sex life is, obviously, but you could try things like body chocolate/powder or body art...get a kama sutra book and just try a few different positions. Take a shower first, buy some lingerie, light some candles, etc. Make yourself feel sexy before you start. Get a little more comfortable in your own skin and in bed, before you move on to the big stuff and the rest will follow.
Trust me, I can relate. :P
2007-02-02 05:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by red_writer2007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,Before he comes home put on a dirty movie and have a couple drinks to get your own mood started and to loosen you up.Then go put on a garter belt and stockings and a nice nightie and meet him at the door when he gets home and hand him a drink as well.
Then have him sit next to you on the couch and nibble on his ear.When he tries to make a move,stop him and say not yet! First we are going to share are fantasies and then try the ones we both think will be the most exciting for us.Then tell him to go first so to break the ice, then you go. I am very certain he will already be in a perceptive mood and be listening with anticipation.You will look and feel sexy and that will draw your mind away from feeling like anything but sexual goddess in his life.
Try it, trust me it works!
2007-02-02 05:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have talked about some of the things we would like to try, and yes, it was a little awkward at first, but sooo worth it. You just have to be brave and come right out and say it. You'll be glad you did. :)
2007-02-02 05:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a freak and you shouldn't feel that way. For a while I was embarrassed to tell my husband my fantasy's thought he'd be turned off {no it did not involve sleeping with other people} but surprisingly he was excited and tried EVERYTHING i wanted. If you cant tell the man you love, then who can you tell
2007-02-02 05:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is very open, than you shouldn't feel wierd about it. Drink like two drinks, so you will loosen up some, and when the two of you get ready to go to bed, let it be known.
2007-02-02 05:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You state that your husband is very open minded. He should not mind at all whatever you share with him and it really might turn him on!! Don't hold back. It will make your love life more exciting!
2007-02-02 07:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by curious george 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some fantasies are meant to STAY just that... If your husband is OPEN then just tell him what you'd like to try and see if he feels comfortable with it.. That is the only way you'll know. Good luck!
2007-02-02 05:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by anabanana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cut and paste this question onto a red piece of paper and cut it into a heart shape and give it to your husband.
2007-02-02 05:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by vmmhg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is okay with things like that this should be an easy one. Find out his likes, pornos whatever, then surprise him, don't need to talk too much, the look on his face will be enough!
2007-02-02 05:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋