I don't want to believe that the vast majority of the women I'd met in my life cared only for the wonderful way I treated them without really being in love with me as a person. I need someone to love me because of who I am, not just because I'm caring or tender. I need a woman who wants me out of everyone else just as I want her out of everyone else. Should I keep the faith I'd ever find one?
2007-02-02 04:40:50 · 19 answers · asked by Mustang 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Should I wait for her to express her feelings first?
2007-02-02 05:48:14 · update #1
Keep your faith, YES!!!!!!! There’s someone for you out there who would love you for you. There are some women out there that only care for “good stuff”, but it’s a good thing that you would find out first before you even commit your self to that person.
When I met my husband, he was making pretty good money and some people thought that that’s the only reason why I’m with him. We both ignored these people and didn’t really care much for them because they didn’t know or didn’t have any idea or nothing knew about us. Unfortunately, my husband lost that job, but that didn’t stop me from loving him, I love him even more. He wasn’t very happy with loosing his job, but I was there for him to cheer him up and constantly saying that everything’s going to be okay. As long as we have each other, we will go through this. Although I really didn’t mind because I was making good money too, but the fact that he’s know that he’s the man and supposed to be taking care of me….I never doubted him and lost my faith on him.
Now he found another job, he keeps saying sorry because it doesn’t pay much money, but I keep telling him that it’s going to be okay. As long as we have each other, that’s all matter to me and him.
Don’t give me wrong, like any other marriage, there’s a time that I just want to punch him in a face and kiss his ***… hahahaha…clockwise in his case.... but it’s normal.
I can’t see my self living without this man and he feels the same way about me.
Anyways, keep your head up. Just be thankful that you’re not with those women (those who didn’t’ like you for who you really are) anymore. Eventually, you will meet someone special who will love you unconditionally. Just be patient, but for now, enjoy your single life…. GOODLUCK!!!!
2007-02-02 05:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by L!LO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question should be - should I make my relationship with the man I love sexless? sex is something that is given by God - he wants us to enjoy it within a marriage, a relationship which you have lifelong commitment, trust and love. It is not the most important thing so the answer to your question is yes it is possible because a godly man would love his wife as much. However, my question is - perhaps you need to sort out your past (very sorry to hear what you had, it must have a trumatic impact on you) with your loving man together with the help of a church pastor or a christian counsellor. So you two can enjoy the most initimate relationship between man and woman. I kept saying Christian counselling because you mentioned your past. God is able to take away our past so can live with his love and grace. Don't let your past haunt you my dear sis. I wish you all well and take care.
2016-05-24 05:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. BUT, if you ever figure it out could you write a book on it? I'm sure there are millions of men who would buy it.
It's one of the things I hate about a lot of women. They love being treated like goddesses but they don't much care for finding out about the real you. I believe it's because these women think that relationships are based on romance. I suppose it's just as bad as saying that men think a relationship is based on sex. I know that both of these things are important but they aren't supposed to be the foundation for real love. The best advice I ever heard was to find a woman who will be your friend first. That's likely to get the woman to know the real you. After that you have to figure out how to make that critical transition to romance, sex and then joint bank accounts.
2007-02-02 05:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your attracted to wrong ones and seek them. You should always be yourself, there's no use in being someone else. It will just cause more problems than what it's worth and you'll never find the right one. Keep searching and seek the person that shares your interests and values and stop wasting time on those that don't quite fit in your life.
2007-02-02 05:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to find someone like this.The problem with that is everyone else is looking for the same lady.Usually when you find her there are so many other men trying to hit on her it makes it hard to maintain a respectable relationship.Someone always out to get what you have.
2007-02-02 05:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who you are is a combination of things - it includes, although not limited to, your kindness and tenderness. When someone loves you, they love you *because* of the positive traits and *in spite* of the negative ones. If kind and caring nature is your strength - this is what people will be attracted to, there's nothing wrong with that.
2007-02-02 05:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY YES YES YES AND YES!!!...
Can I just tell you...it took me a loooooooooooooong looooooooong time till my husband found me (til we found each other actually!) Thought sometimes that it would never ever happen for me.
You know when it did? When I started to love myself for who I was. ( I know that sounds corny but it is sooo true.) That is when I found someone who loved me for me; the whole me.
Being caring and tender IS part of who you are anyway-right? You aren't just doing it so someone will love you but rather it is part of your make-up. Just keep being who you are and trust me, you WILL find someone who appreciates the whole you as well as those other wonderful parts.
Spend this time keeping the faith, do things that help you love yourself and do whatever you can think of to prepare yourself for her and..... Hang on brother, she's comin'!!!!
2007-02-02 07:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. You being caring and tender is what will add to all the reasons she will love you. As long as you are not hiding some awful personality trait, like you are tender and caring because after you drink too much you are mean. You will find her, and she will be your soulmate
2007-02-02 05:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever give up on that...there is someone out there for everyone, somone who loves you for you and not just what they get out of the relationship. I think you should keep trying, and be patient...it will happen.
2007-02-02 04:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely.
However, that largely depends on who you are.
Part of who you are is how you treat her and other people.
People are attracted to personal attributes. Kindness, for example, may be an attractive quality that moves one to love another.
2007-02-02 05:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋