I have two female friends from work,(And yes I do have male friends from there as well) I sometimes hang out with them.Mind you NOT everyday but a few times here and there.I don't get to work with them anymore and that I've know prievious to the marrage. Should I stop hanging out and stop talking to them ALL together.I've NEVER lied to my wife about them and she has know about them from the begining.The one friend I've not seen in a few months.On my way home I stopped by to see how things were with her (married by the way) and,at the same time my wife called on my cell to see how things were in my day.I told here that I was out and on my way home,I stopped in to say hi to this one friend.(She knows her and has met this friend several times) My wife got weirded out and started to question me.I was really embarrassed because this friend heard me talking. My friend got really uncomfortable with it too. Should I just not talk to them all together or is it something my wife needs to over.
2007-02-02 04:33:45 · 20 answers · asked by gord's360 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My two friends are married and I REALLY don't like them like that. I'm good friends with them because I had it hard a few yrs ago and they really helped me thru tough times. Am I wrong in having these friends?
2007-02-02 04:43:38 · update #1
Just let let everyone know that I have "NO" intention of cheating!!. I love my wife very much and would die for her. I want to know it is wrong. I do not wish to open ANY box at anytime!!! Thank you to the one's who understand my situation.
2007-02-02 04:56:43 · update #2
I feel your pain. I am a woman, who has many male friends, and my husband has female friends. We trust eachother enough for it to be ok. Its sad that your wife does not feel trustworthy enough. Try having a long talk with her, assure her that SHE is the ONLY one for you, and that you would NEVER violate her trust. She should, however, respect the fact that you had friends before she came into the picture, and respect you enough to maintain those relationships. Hope is works out for you. I would recommend bringing it up when she is in a good mood, or when you are snuggling or something. I wouldnt bring it up in a time of anger or worry. Just an honest heart to heart about how you feel.
2007-02-02 04:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by wellwadayouknow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are asking for trouble. Do unto others that you would have done unto you. YOur wife should be your only female friend & otherwise. If you are seeking friendships outside of marriage then you need to figure out why, with your wife. Otherwise, have an open marriage where she is free to do the same. REspect her feelings about it as she's the one that you married, not the other 2. YOu are playing with fire my friend so decide if your 2 friends are more important or your commitment to your wife??
2007-02-02 04:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by COblonde 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude you are "MARRIED" and if anything that means RESPECT.
See marriage is like high school after you graduate you grow up you stop acting like a teenager to become an adult, yes that also means you make new friends and you only keep your old best friends you know the real ones the ones that are always there.
Clearly you werent ready to marry.....i think that if you turn things around you would aslo be questioning your wife....get a clue!
HA! im sure that your girl-friends that are married are wondering what you are trying to pull by your little visitations....they are married!!!...Im sure they dont worry about you!
2007-02-02 04:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by A. RMZ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you had these female friends before you got married to your wife then I think your wife just needs to get over your friendship with these ladies. Is she concerned that you will now have an affair with them because you are married? Perhaps you might think about saying sorry to your friend about your wife's behaviour, but I would not stop being the friend to these ladies just because my wife is insecure-she needs to grow up a little and have faith in your love of her.
2007-02-02 04:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's something you need to WORK OUT with your wife. If there's seriously nothing going on, make sure she knows that. But if she's still uncomfortable with it, then you have to ask yourself the same question I once had to face (in my case it was a LIFELONG male friend)...the question is, What's most important to you? Your wife or your friend? I decided that even though nothing was going on with my friend and I, even though I grew up with him almost as a brother, that my obligation and loyalty was to the one I married. If my husband wasn't okay with the friendship, I had to let it go. I explained to my friend I loved him very much, but my husband wasn't okay with us talking or so, and I let it go. Yes, it was hard. But I did it for my marriage.
2007-02-02 04:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like this it is not wrong to have female friends as long as thats all they are get them all togather over dinner or something and talk things over, because it sounds like a trust issue there. and calm and reassure your wife let her that nothing going on. You should even invite her out with you guys a few times mabey that will help ease her.because theres nothing worse than a jealous wife !
2007-02-02 04:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by tameka r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your wife knew about your friends and you are honest with her at all times, I don't see a problem. However you do need to talk to your wife about this and find out why she got weirded out. This is something only you and your wife can decide in the end.
2007-02-02 04:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by justweird_sodeal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not wrong. If your wife feels uncomfortable, sit and talk to her about it and make her feel secure about your relationship. You should not have to give up your friends, but she should be able to be comfortable too. On the other hand, if you do discuss this with your wife and she still gets upset, maybe you have trust issues that you need to discuss with a counselor.
2007-02-02 04:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by kayaress 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it really is not okay to commence doing that except you attempt to style a clean relationship with her. I have universal many adult adult males who gave a short kiss on the cheek as one of those greeting, and that grow to be superb because they did it to each and each female and it meant not something. when you're asking then it appears like you opt on better from the relationship, and to in hardship-free words commence with a short kiss on the cheek gained't be going to be convinced adequate for the female - you ought to ask her out.
2016-12-03 08:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit your wife down and talk to her, just because youre married doesnt mean you cant have friends who are girls. If you're honest with her and have no other intentions with these women should have no problem with you talking to them or stopping by to say hi.
2007-02-02 04:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋