My son is going to be 9 months old on Febuary 24th and it just seems like i cant do nothing....he can crawl and move around and everything....but as soon as i leave his sight he screams....and now im just feeling like i have no time for myself....my husband doesnt get home till 8 from work and by then hes already asleep....so what do i do let him cry? Or is this just a stage and hell grow out of it? PLease help!!!
2007-02-02 04:31:08 · 25 answers · asked by mammakayla 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's a stage, and it will pass. It's separation anxiety, and by going to him when he cries you are reassuring him that you will be there for him and that he can trust you. It is important for his emotional development to be reassured of this. Hang in there, it won't last forever. In a few months, you'll be the one chasing him! Try putting him in a sling or a baby carrier so you can get some things done. My son was like this too, I know how hard it is! But now he's a confident, out-going five year old.
2007-02-02 04:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't realize that when you step out of the room that you are simply out of sight. He thinks that because he can't see you, you are gone forever. It's perfectly normal and he'll eventually grow out of it. I wouldn't let him cry though. A lot of people say that you will spoil a baby if you pick him up every time he cries and that is not true. First of all, babies are meant to be held and comforted! Second of all, it is impossible to spoil a baby under the age of 3. Do you have any neighbors (maybe a middle or high school aged kid) that could come over and play with the baby for an hour or so? I would have jumped at a chance like that (still would!).
2007-02-02 12:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is going through a normal stage--it's called Seperation Anxiety. See, babies at this age cannot imagine that once someone or something disappears, that it will come back. So, when you are out of his sight, he thinks maybe you are gone for good. You can reassure him by talking to him from the other room, or maybe put him in a movable baby "ride" and take him from room to room with you. He's just asking for you, the most important person in the world, to let him know you're still nearby.
Enjoy his need for you, it will soon be gone.
2007-02-02 12:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Croa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it happens to almost all babies.. seperation anxiety.... they need to make sure we did not disappear forever... it is difficult at times for us to relate to what they are learning all at once.. but with this one? a baby sees what is around and when his/her eyes close it is gone.. somewhere around now is when the baby realizes that some things have not always "reappeared" and a higher thinking of what if mommy doesn't come back forms.... I start playing the peekaboos, and hide the toy and lots of "mommy is right here" if I can not get into the same room fast enough.. over time they come to understand you are out of sight.. but still nearby.. till then? I have always just set up their play things in whatever room I was in.... and unless I could not reach him I did not let him cry... he is afraid and just needs to know you are there... they do outgrow it and more quickly if we can keep our patience (oh so trying and difficult when tired.. I know... ) just keep up the soothing voice and even put him down, keep talking and move slowly (while he is distracted even better) out of the room.. all the while talking... another exercise I got from the dr.. it helps them to adjust... and us to know how sensitive/insecure he is.... when does he notice your voice is farther away?
hope this helps!
good luck!
2007-02-02 12:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you know he isn't hurt, let him cry. Talk to him if you are in another part of the house or another room just to let him know you are still around. Once in awhile pop in and smile and say hi so he knows you are still there. He'll be fine. Most babies do this. To them when someone leaves a room, they are gone longer than we really are. I personally used the walker, I lived in a one story house or apt, and let them roam around. Or I'd pull the walker in the room I was in. I know they say they are dangerous, but from my personal experience, 3 children of my own, plus helping to raise about 10 others, I have NEVER seen a child hurt while using a walker. If you supervise them well, they will be fine.
2007-02-02 15:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies get separation anxiety when they learn to crawl. Please pick him up when he cries. You can spoil food by leaving it sit, but you can't spoil a baby! You need to find some help; get a friend or relative to come relieve you. We are not meant to have babies and do everything ourselves. In other cultures, new mothers are forbidden to take care of anyone but the new baby and themselves. If you show him that he can trust you to comfort him when he's scared, he will grow out of his anxiety! Do you have a sling? You need one. It's the only way to get any housework done! You can do it, and it's OK that you need a little help. Best wishes!
2007-02-02 14:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are a stay a home mom and you are the only one he sees all day than that is why. Sometimes you have to let them cry, if you know nothing is wrong and he is doing it to get you in the room. Try setting up a play date for him or you should get someone to watch him once and a while so that you can have your you time. Plus that way he is away from you for a little bit and that will help. Good luck.
2007-02-02 12:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well its partly a stage and partly cause he can get you to do it. If he needs help with something you dont always have to pick him up to talk to and help him. Sometimes he can stay down. But really its mostly a stage that all of them seem to go through. I remember them sitting outside the bathroom screaming while I did what I had to do.LOL.(on the plus side -you know right where they are.)
2007-02-02 12:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a stage and he will grow out of it... in the mean time I am the type of mom that walks around with a baby on my hip because I can not stand to hear her cry.
To get things done I have a playpen or something to trap her in in every room. This is awesome because she can see me, she is with me, and I can do what I need to do.
Take advantage of nap time to be "your time."
2007-02-02 12:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by RachelCook WV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is suffering from some separation anxiety. All babies do it. During the day go to him, to make sure he isn't hurt. At night let him cry a little. Start with 2-3 minutes. He will be okay.
2007-02-02 12:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by tessasmomy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋