I've been dating this girl for 3 months today. We actually dated for a bit 10 years ago and then broke up and after 10 years, we got back in touch. Anyway, I asked her if she loved me and she said I don't know and that I need to stop pressuring her. Mind you, she asked me if I loved her after 2 months of dating. I personally think 3 months is a significant time. I mean it's too long for it to be a meaningless/loveless hook up. I guess I can't consider it a "hook up" anymore since she's not even "intimate" with me anymore saying that it ALWAYS leads to sex and how she wants to wait for marriage. We are in different states right now and I always seem to make the initiative to go visit her. She also has this propensity to ignore my phone calls. She says that she ignores everyone's phone calls so I shouldn't be so offended, but I'm her freakin boyfriend! Shouldn't she WANT to talk to me?! Anyway, she means the world to me, but is she just not the one and am I wasting my time?
2007-02-02 04:04:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Only you can decide if it's a waste of time. It sounds like she is trying to decide where the relationship is going. If you feel like you make all the effort, you should tell her that you need more from her. If she's not willing to try a bit harder then it may be time to call it off.
2007-02-02 04:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she isn't the one for you and yes you are wasting your time. Listen people are going to try and tell you to talk it out and all of that crap. But you do not deserve to be treated like she is treating you. Let her go and move on, you will be thankful that you did. You sound like a nice guy. Give yourself some time and don't go looking for love, love will find you.
** I wouldn't even call her until she calls you. Then let her know that it isn't working out. (It sounds like she is only keeping you around for when someone else isn't.)
2007-02-02 12:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is not interested in you anymore and she may have something else going on. I think you should really think about how she is making you feel right now and decide if you want to keep on feeling this way, or do you beleive you desrve to be treated bettet than this? Than ask yourself what are you going to do?
2007-02-02 12:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find different woman than this.. and if she not going to come out visit you or pick up the phone to tlak to you or call you first. and It seem that she have no feelings with you and I think you really wasting your time on her. and Make her make the first moved and if she not going to then you know that she not truly in love with you.. If she truly in love iwth you and she would be find her way to see you and call you and answer your call all that. but seems that you really love her but she not and she really wasted your time. plain and simple.
2007-02-02 12:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like her and you are attracted to her, but you don't like the way she's treating you and you don't like her lack of initiative....so only you can decide, if you want to be treated a certain way, or you want a person regardless of how they treat you. Personally, I think you deserve someone who wants to talk to you, who wants to make the same amount of effort.
2007-02-02 12:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but, yes, I think you're wasting your time. She should be thrilled to speak to you not avoid your calls. I think you know she doesn't feel for you what you feel for her. Get out now. It hasn't been that long, you'll recover quick enough. Good Luck!
2007-02-02 12:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by jondavesnowy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi .... well ... looks like the verdict is in by reading these other answers ......
speaking from much experience here ...... this girl has lost interest in you ...... it is particularly BAD if they stop talking to you (phone calls) ..... when you are with her if she is looking away all the time and her body is frequently turned away to your side .... bad news!! it means she is bored and would rather be somewhere else ........
sorry man ..... this happens to us all sooner or later ..... I be thankful for all you learned and move on today without wasting another single minute on this girl ......
good luck, my friend ...........
ps .... another new and probably better friend is just around the corner anyway .......
PSS .... FORGOT TO MENTION .... if you want to try an acid test to prove what I am saying here ..... I will bet you a double cheese burger that if you STOP CALLING HER TOTALY she will not even care about it ..... see how long it takes before she says anything to you ........ it is quite possible you will not hear ANYTHING from her .......
2007-02-02 12:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is realy up to you if you think that you are wasting your time. if you love her then you are not wasting your time. if you mean what you say, "She means the world to me" then you are not wasting your time. you just have to wait for her to make that connection with you.
2007-02-02 12:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by head cheerleader 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, darling.
2007-02-02 12:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Adrian Wapkaplett 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋