we are madly in love, however, sometimes i feel like im too young! Like, i dont go out and party like most of my friends, in fact, I moved away from my family and friends to be with him. But I always tell myself that its just a sacrafice that I am making to be with the man I love, even if it means growing up faster than planned. any advice? what do you think? do you think Im making a bad decision? oh and fyi, I told him i wouldnt get married until i was done with school.
2007-02-02 03:53:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is extremely important to finish school, so good for you on that one. It really all depends on if you truely love him. When it comes to love, a person will do some strange things. I know of quite a few people that got married when they were 18 and they are still married and very happy. IT really just depends on if you truely love him. Love isn't based on age so don't worry about the age. Hang in there and everything will turn out fine.
2007-02-02 04:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by tweety 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married my husband when I was 18 and he 26. There have been times over the past 20 years especially when I was younger when I felt like I was missing out on things. Now I do not see it that way. I really did not miss out on anything. I have 3 great children 19, 16 and 15 and still have my whole life ahead of me. It is not easy though. Marriage is a very though road especially when you are young and then if you add kids to the mix. Glad to hear you are finishing school. If you feel like he is the one then go for it.
2007-02-02 09:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by pat1268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and getting divorced. I was married when I was 19 and my husband ended up abusing me. The point is you shouldn't have to sacrifice anything for a man. Take you're time to grow up you have a life time. I f he loved you than he wouldn't push you to grow up faster. If both of you are in true love than waiting for a while won't change anything. Live life and learn. Go party with your friends and enjoy it because if you don't now you'll always feel like you were missing something. Again don't sacrifice anything just take in the good, the benefits and love that comes from your man. There shouldn't be and crap.Take your time and good luck.
2007-02-02 04:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 18 when I got pregnant and 19 when I had my daughter, she is now 3 and I am with a man who is 13 years older than me. Part of me wants to go and do all the things I couldn't over the last 4 years, but I love my daughter and I love my boyfriend of 2 years. Marriage is something that we havd decided to hold off on until we are more financially stable to have a wedding we both want.
Honey, get married when YOU are ready! You are still young, a lot can change when you are young. Yes, a lot of people get married young and are doing just fine, but I know a lot of people who got marrid young and are now devorced. My sister only made it 6 months with a man that she was with for 4 years (on and off) My boyfriend was married at 19 and his marriage lasted 7 years until they grew up and fell out of love. It is your decision, just make sure it is the right one and follow what your head tells you...not your heart.
2007-02-02 04:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you're growing up faster than planned, hold off a bit for the wedding. Like a couple of years!
Otherwise, don't worry too much about it. My sister in law is 19 with a 27 year old, and my best friend is 19 with a 26 year old. It's not that bad.
2007-02-02 03:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remeber one thing life is short so you must do what u feel is right. It is above your life.Life is what makes you, if you feel rushed take a moment and think about your life and where u want 2 be in 10 years. I've been with my husband sense I was 14 and married for 5 of those years. Marriage is work but I would never want 2 change my past he is the love of my life, and I have no regrets. I followed my heart.Life is what u make it. Good luck, above all be happy, life is short.
2007-02-02 04:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a VERY.....VERY.....BAD DECISION. You are only 18. You are quite beautiful from what I see in your picture. Getting married now would be the single biggest mistake of your life. If you do this now you will figure out later that you missed out on a world of experiences. You should date more, go to college, travel. Please get these experiences into your single life before you get married. You can't get your innocence back once it's gone and you won't get another chance to be single unless you get divorced. Getting married is supposed to be for life and not to be taken lightly. At 26 your boyfriend has already been through 8 more years of experiencing fun than you have. It's not fair to you to be committed this young.
Go back home. Be a teenager for a couple more years. Please don't grow up too fast.
2007-02-02 04:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two are adults. Yeah, I'm sure that being 18 you have your immature aspects but not enough to kill a relationship I'll assume. And he may be 26, but c'mon, he's a dude, still gotta have his own little immature aspects and such as well. So long as you two function well as a couple, age doesn't mean a thing.
2016-05-24 05:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are missing out on important years of your life. I met my first husband at 18, got married at 19, had a baby at 20, had another baby at 22 and was divorced by 26. I never got to know who I was. He was 7 yrs older than me and had been in the service and done his growing up and partying etc before he met me. I did my partying when we divorced - probably not a good time to be doing it especially since I had 2 young children. I really believe I got married way too young. Please carefully consider your options. You dont want to be angry and bitter because you feel like he made you miss out on your life.
Good Luck
2007-02-02 04:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by his temptress 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not the age difference that concerns me, but rather your stage in life. You are so very young to be making a life committment. You may not think so right now. But you will change your mind on many matters, before you reach 21. That is normal, and a good thing. Please take some time to acquire some experiences under your belt. And keep your schooling thoughts strong in your head. I'm assuming you're going on to college! Please DONT rush into anything right now. Best Wishes!
2007-02-02 04:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋