It seems like ever since i found out i was pregnant, i have had a horrible time falling asleep or getting comfortable while my boyfriend is in the bed. Last night i tossed untill he finally went out on the couch, then i fell asleep instantly! Our bed is a full size, and when i nap during the day, im so comfortable. It seems i have to have 3 pillows around my upper body, one between my knees, and then wrap myself in a cacoon with the blankets. Ho can i tell him nicely that i cant fall asleep with him in the bed? i dont want to hurt his feelings, and he works all day so i feel bad disturbing his sleep. Thanks in advance!
2007-02-02 03:51:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You just need to tell him. He is going to figure out something is wrong anyway if he wakes up and your on the couch. And if you don't say anything you will just get more frustrated and tired from the lack of sleep.
I am going through the exact same thing. I think it's partly to do with hormones. Since I got pregnant I have started having trouble falling asleep and then I wake up 2-3 times a night. Then any little noise keeps me up, even my hubbys breathing. He also knows that he snores sometimes and that is the worst on me. After weeks of being frustrated and not getting enough sleep I finally just told my hubby. I blamed it on the pregnancy and hormones and he understands.
I have found that if I go to bed before him and fall asleep before him sometimes I can sleep all night with no problem. But if I get to frustrated I will just go out to the couch and sleep. Hubby has also offered to sleep on the couch some nights so that I can get a good nights sleep in the bed. We are just hoping that this won't last to long because I never had problems before.
I also wanted to add that we have a queen size bed and it makes no difference.
Good luck.
2007-02-02 04:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by bobbysgirl703 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a big man.. OK that is an understatement.. he is HUGE. He sleeps hugging pillows which just add to the space that he takes up. Oh, did I mention he snores.
When I'm not pregnant I love sharing a bed with him, but during my last pregnancy and now this one I can't stand it. I know some days that he needs to sleep in our bed and get a great night sleep and some nights I do. He is totally understanding about sleeping on the couch some nights; because, sometimes I sleep on the couch.
So my suggestion is try sharing the couch sleeping. It will make you both happier, and he won't resent your pregnancy sleeping habits!
2007-02-02 12:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by RachelCook WV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have read all the replies that many are nonsense. I have experienced the same issue with my husband, as I too am currently pregnant. We are trying to save for a larger bed. My problem is purley psychological, but I needed comfort. I was afraid to lay on my stomach like I always had. Without being able to do that I needed to sprawl out. Temporarily until we get a larger bed, he understood what the issue was and offered to sleep on the guest bed...which is another full sized bed, but not as comfortable of a mattress set. He even moved the top mattress of that bed into our room as a trundle so that we could sleep in the same room. I offered to sleep there and he just wouldn't have it. That's love and I certainly appreciate him for it.
2007-02-02 12:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by johnya99@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question, because that just happened to me yesterday but the bad thing is my boyfriend just got of the Hospital because of a really bad car accident and this just started to happen recently like he is getting on my nerves because of certain things that has been happening since he's been out of the Hospital so I don't know if that's the reason why I cant fall asleep with hI'm near me or just even have him lay down on the bed and try to cuddle with me its like im just like get away but the things that has been happening are not so great so I have a reason to be this way but then yet I really don't know if its the Pregnancy so just think maybe you need all your space or is there something bothering you that you just don't want to sleep next to him well good luck
2007-02-02 11:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Veee Smitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him fall asleep first. Thats what me and my husband do. Since he gets up earlier for work than i do, he goes to bed earlier. I usually got to bed an hour later than he does and by the time i get in bed he's already fallen asleep. His tossing and turning would make me feel sick and i could feel every movement he was doing and we have a king size bed. Try and see if it helps
2007-02-02 11:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by damacios_gurl_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a larger bed. Poor guy! Why don't you get in bed first and fall asleep and then have him get in after you've already fallen asleep. Pregnant or not, I don't think anyone could sleep in a full-sized bed comfortably with another person...get a queen!
2007-02-02 12:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by Carolyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is just time for a larger bed, so you can get some space from him. I have been married for a while and we couldn't have stayed married without a king size bed. I can't explain why this is happening only since you found out you are pregnant though. That seems strange. Congratulations, and here's wishing you and your baby excellent health.
2007-02-02 11:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) why dont you try sleeping in a spearate bed - different room. he may question you and by then you can reply.
2) browse through website, capture the pages that says how a pregnant should sleep with comfort and show them to him. He will understand, after all it is his baby too!
3) talk to his or your close friend and ask them to inform him in casual chat
4) ask your doctor/nurse to tell him
Good Luck
2007-02-02 12:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by tuffyshri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think their is a nice way to tell him, and i don't think you would like the reaction from him. don' tell him. Maybe if he rubs your back and helps you relax, you will be more comfertable and fall asleep with him in the bed? Try sleepy time tea. Or take a bath before bed with some bath salts to relax.
2007-02-02 12:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 39 weeks pregnant, and i cannot sleep for nothing when my husband and i sleep in the same bed. sometimes i feel like going out to the couch just to sleep faster... but, its not just his moving that irritates me, its mine too... it gets worse as you get farther along, i would just say try and suck it up, or sleep on the couch... its a really nice and comforting thing to have your husband sleeping next to you... not as many people appreciated like they should and i think you should feel lucky that you have that.... nothing personal dont get me wrong, but i know that if i were to tell my husband that, it might hurt his feelings... i couldn't do that to him. not to mention when you get farther along your boyfriend is gonna want to touch your belly and feel the baby move. those are special moments. you should just try to enjoy them..
i dont know if you work or not, but i dont, so the thing i do is try and sleep as much as i can at night, then when my husband gets up for work i go back to sleep that way i can hog everything on the bed... it really does work.. good luck
2007-02-02 12:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by tanker015 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋