my boyfriend and i have been 2gether for a year now. im 20 and hes 21. he has a steady job, and i do sum part time work. we live with my dad in a real tiny apartment. anywayyyy, we wanna have a baby, but im kinda scared. scared of what my dad will say becuz im his lil girl and i didnt go to college yet. i know me and my bf are gunna be 2gether f0rever .. hopefully anyway. my dad is old, kinda sick, and im scared he wont be around to see my kids. i know im responsible enough to have a baby .. just too scared of what my dad will think. i know he wont hate me, i know hell be hurt. but i dunno. what should i do0o0o0o?
2007-02-02 03:39:51 · 18 answers · asked by ker_luvz_j0e_xo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
hunny it has nothing to do with a number but with your level of maturity and you my dear sound very mature. Finacial obligations should also be taken into account when trying to have a baby. as for your dad he may be mad at first but will fall in love with his grandchild when he/she comes. So if your ready and willing go for it. Good luck1.
2007-02-02 03:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you get married first your dad will probably be less shocked if you tell him you are pregnant. Being married would also mean that if your boyfirend gets insurance through work then you and the baby could be on is insurance. If neither of you has insurance you should start researching how much it costs for all the dr visits, hospital stay, then all the baby's dr visits. If you can't afford to be out on your own then you definately won't be able to afford all that.
Another thing would be how would your dad feel about you raising a child in his small apartment? If there isn't enough room as it is then it's going to be alot worse with a baby around.
If you do want to go to college it's going to be alot harder after you have a baby. If anything you'll either need to go someplace very local or online, neither is bad but it may limit what you can go to school for.
2007-02-02 14:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Dragonfly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're not too young to have a baby. I was 18 when I got pregnant. I would recommend that you wait to have one. 1. you haven't been with your bf for that long of a time. 2. if you only work part time you probably don't have benefits. you need insurance, having a baby cost a lot. 3. if your dad is ill this might actually put more strain on his health. 4. if you still want to go to college, it's best to do that now. when a baby comes there is so much to do you don't want to be stressed out and have it affect your school. 5. you want to make sure that physically and financially you can have a baby. my suggestion is that you sit down and just openly discuss how you feel about the situation with your bf and father. don't let it be a shocker to anyone, make it a group effort.
2007-02-02 11:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Vicki 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally I do not think you should have a baby right now.
You seem sweet but to be honest you don't give the impression that you're anywhere near ready to have a child. The reasons alone that you're considering it are pretty immature and inappropriate. These are not reasons for bringing a new little human being into the world. It is NOT easy!!!!
Do yourself and your future children a favor and hold off for a while. A long while. At LEAST until you have a home to call your own and decent, dependable income and partner.
Don't do it!
2007-02-02 11:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Maudie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you're having to ask this question, you're probably not ready yet. When you are ready, you'll know and there will be no doubts. Personally, I wouldn't want to have a baby before I was married and commited to that person for life (for sure, not just hopefully like you said). I also wouldn't want to have a baby until I had my own house and was sure I could financially support a child. Babies are expensive. There are doctor bills, medicine, food, diapers, clothes, toys, etc. I don't think your age necessarily has anything to do with it, I think it's the other circumstances, just remember to think about the baby. Don't selfishly bring a child into this world that you're not prepared to provide for. But no one else can really tell you when you're ready...just helping you consider all options! Good luck with whatever you decide!
2007-02-02 11:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by Happily married 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I really think that you need to be better off financially before you have a baby especially either have a place of your own or get a bigger place for you, your dad and your boyfriend. Babies have a lot of stuff. I have a 3 story 3 bdrm house and I have baby stuff everywhere I can't imagine living in a little apartment like my dad does I would go insane. I think you are old enough but I think you have other things to take care of first.
2007-02-02 11:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Go get a college education, even a 2 year program.
You will need that after the baby is born to support the expenses.
2007-02-02 11:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by DEE 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would wait. i know you probaly dont want to hear that but having a baby is very, very hard!!!!! im 23 with a 5 month old & if i knew then what i know know i would've waited. you dont have any time to do anything!!!! you wont have any money your whole life is dedicated to that child & believe me its hard!!!! i was with my boyfriend 3 years before we decided to have a baby & it has really put a strain on our relationship. stuff we used to do we cant do anymore like go to the movies or go eat. be young & enjoy it!!!! wait unitl you're atleast 25. good luck with whatever you chose to do
2007-02-02 11:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. Get your life together first...a place of your own, a steady job, and most of.........GET MARRIED first. You need to be able to fully commit to each other before you have children. Each child deserves a stable home with a mother and father present and active in their life!**
2007-02-02 11:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Suzanne 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It would not be wise to have a baby at this time. Take care of yourself and your Daddy for now, time for a baby later in your young life.
2007-02-02 12:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by garden witch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋