four year old?
2007-02-02 03:35:15 · 15 answers · asked by Mark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find a baby sitter and take her to dinner and dancing, Treat like a queen for the night
2007-02-02 03:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get someone to help her out a few hours a day. It might not be a good idea to get someone to watch the baby and take her out. She will worry about the baby all the time, and she will be too exhausted. Instead, do more things for her. She is recovering from having a baby. Her body feels like it does not belong to her. Try to make her feel more comfortable. Give her massages. Let her take a long hot bath while you take care of the baby. But most important is to get some of the workload off of her and either do it or hire someone to do it.
And remember, even if she says nothing, most women feel very ugly after having a baby. Never tell her she is beautiful. Show her she is beautiful.
2007-02-02 04:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bring home takeout and her favorite ice cream/chips/candy bar. Or flowers. Or anything to let her know you were thinking about her when you were gone.
Another time, (or the same day) bring homw something new for the 4yo- a video, a toy, anything he can play with alone- to give mom a little independant time.
One day when you get home early, or on a Saturday, take the 4yo outside while the baby naps- say "Why don't you get some rest too, honey?".
Do the dishes one evening. Or bring home styrafoam plates and cups, and plastic forks and spoons to save her doing dishes for a few days.
Call her and ask how her day is going. Even if her response is all negative (boo hoo, baby won't nap, 4yo whining, whatever) stay positive. Tell her you love her and you'll be home soon, that you'll bring home food, whatever.
Basicly, it's all about letting her know that she isn't alone in the world with 2 small kids to care for. Let her know that you're still part of their world when you're gone, and that she isn't stuck doing the job alone.
2007-02-02 04:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring her flowers and make her a nice dinner... Hold on and love her and just spend time with her and the kids... Watch a movie with her.... Help her with the bay and the older one... Helping and being there for her is the best way to lift her spirits.. Spoil her rotten and buy her a nice card and gift too.... Clean the house for her so that she can focus on the new baby too. When she is tired let her sleep and you take care of the house and kids unless she is breast feeding and the baby has to be fed but in this case buy her a breast pump... That way you can help feed the baby at times and let her rest or sleep... Congratulatins to you and your wife on the new baby!!!!
2007-02-02 03:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Take the kids to daycare once a week so she has time to herself
2) Hire a maid service
3) Have your parents or hers watch the kids for a day and have a date
4) If you do number 1, take that day off and spend all day with her - just like dating in college!
5) Sign her up for night school or gym membership or whatever she would like so you can come home and she can get out of the house
6) Arrange some girl time for her and her friends some weekend. Ask her friends and her to go out shopping or whatever and you stay at home with the kids.
2007-02-02 04:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by jw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a few hours off every week where she has to go out and do something for fun. A massage, some time in a bookstore, a movie, coffee with friends, a bridge club, a night class.
It's easy for women to become so involved in children and maintenance of the household they forget to be an individual. If you make her go out and do something unrelated to kids, she will feel much better.
BTW kudos to you to want to do this. Yay for loving husbands!
2007-02-02 03:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her dinner, do a load of laundry. Do something that she is always doing for everyone else. Take your four year old outr and give her some time alone with baby....it must be so hard for her to pay attention to both kids.
2007-02-02 03:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by Wild seed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a babysitter and take her out somewhere nice or just romance her at home. Always being home can bring u down trust me, I like it when my husband just makes me feel special and the kids stay the night at a family members house. We have OUR alone time.Have u ever heard the saying It's not about the amounts of breaths u take but the moments that take your breath away? my husband takes my breath away, love is amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-02 04:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you come home, tell her to get dressed and go out wherever she wants. She needs time for herself. It's not easy staying home taking care of kids all day. You are a good husband for asking!!
2007-02-02 04:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was born, I took the sole responsibility of giving her bath and taking her to the clinic for checkups and other procedures. Waking up in the night when she cries. Try that for a start.
2007-02-02 03:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by good-for-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋