2007-02-02 03:30:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Finding out the truth is your first concern. Other things will follow, but the answer is far more important than making plans and decisions...
Why do you think he's cheating?
Do you have any evidence?
What would you do if he is?
Do you have a support system - friends? family?
Will you want to stay together and work it out?
Do you have a family? how will it affect them?
Answer some of these questions honestly to yourself, and then go to him.
Good luck!
2007-02-02 03:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have the money hire a private investigator to follow him, or try to contact cheaters the tv show (that might be a long shot though) If you are suspicious try to keep track of what hes doing more, if he says hes working late look at pay stubs to verify that there is overtime there. If you confront him he will probably deny it. If you know the girl who you think he is cheating with and have been told he has been engaging in unfaithful activity by a reliable source, call the girl and tell her that hes already admitted it and you just want to know why she would do this to your family. ONLY DO THIS IS YOU ARE ALMOST 100% SURE HE IS CHEATING WITH THIS PERSON. I used that method with a guy I was dating and the girl said "Im so sorry" then I knew it was true without having to ask him and have him admit it. If you are wrong and you do this its going to cause a lot of problems though so you have to be sure. Im sorry you think this is happening to you. Good luck! I hope you are wrong because being cheated on really hurts.
2007-02-02 11:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about the decision you r making?? R u Reilly gonna stay with someone that's wants other people for sex?? What was the grounds of your vowels in marriage? people only have their word and if you cant trust their word then whats that tell you about that person?? I think people stay to gather alot in the case when some in unfaithful..but i don't think things will ever be the same.. i may be easier sad then done but i would leave or at least split up for a wile you need time to realize that a person cheats because their unhappy or just not satisfied if not that then just board with same old same old..girl i would make him pay big and RUN like hell...best wishes PS you can do bad on Ur Owen
2007-02-02 11:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by electragreen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think so you should talk to him and tell him that you feel he is pulling away. Do not bring up the fact that you think he is cheating just ask and see if he is happy and tell him you need the truth. If he tells you no ask him why and see what is making him unhappy. Ask him then if he is seeing anyone else. Tell him if he is you want to know so you know to end your marriage because you do not want to be plaid. Tell him if he is unhappy and there is nothing you can do then you will accept his honesty and get divorced and find someone who will make you happy and that you will make him happy. You can love someone with all your heart but if the relationship is broken there is no reason to hold onto it trying to fix what cannot be.
2007-02-02 11:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well find out if he is or not....you need to snoop, it sounds awful but you have a right to know after all...
I am not trying to be negative, but I have never suspected that someone was cheating when they were not...sometimes our instincts are right on the money and we need to listen to them more...if he is...well good luck...I could never forgive or forget..for me once the trust is gone so is the relationship, husband or not. good luck...hope you are wrong.
2007-02-02 11:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open it up for discussion first and see how he responds. If he is too defensive, more than likely your hunch is accurate. If not and he talks to you about it but you still feel like he's cheating, you have no choice but to check up on him. Do you trust him? Has he ever given you reason not to?
2007-02-02 11:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to Prissy dumb as$, she didn't read the question right you said IF YOU THINK HE'S CHEATING. You could just simply ask him or get some one who he doesn't know to follow him like a P.I it's better to have proof first
2007-02-02 11:36:44 · answer #7 · answered by Great one 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him your concerns and that you would like an honest answer because you don't want to be wasting your or his time if he is cheating.
2007-02-02 11:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well denial just get rid of him boot his cheating assout and get a divorce then you wont ever have to put up with his dumb *** cheating any more you ladies dont deserve to be treated that way
2007-02-02 11:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him...ask him straight out plain is he cheating on you?....if you don't what are you going to do instead? you cannot continue to live your life in the balance of insecurity so confront him not in an aggressive way, but let him know your concerns.
2007-02-02 11:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋