I have a friend from work who is always complaining about her fiancee not helping do anything. She is always late for work because he refuses to help with the kids( 2 toddlers) in the morning. She also complains about him not helping paying the bills. She said there is always something wrong with his check every pay period and has to pay all the bills herself. Plus she goes to work 50 hours a week and goes to school full-time. This type of mess make me not want to get married or have kids.
2007-02-02 02:36:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage doesn't have to be like that. Your friend did it backwards. She should have finished school first, saved some money, married a competent man, then had kids. She would not have to be working 50 hours, going to school full time and raising two toddlers. She could be at home with her precious children, while her husband provides for the family. It's all about priorities, and making choices. Learn from her bad example, and you can have a happy, satisfying life instead of one filled with stress and frustration, like your friend.
2007-02-02 04:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are irresponsible, but the are a large majority that are! Thank god my husband is not one! He was a single father for many years and had to do everything from working, paying bills, to the cooking and cleaning and raising the 3 kids That's was my life too. A single mom for many years with 2 children Now all are grown and on their own. My husband and I are newly weds for 1 yr now He go to work and pays the bills, I stay at home and cook and clean I love it because I love caring for other It's what I done all my life, anyways The are better men out there. Its just a matter of finding them Good luck
2007-02-02 10:49:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is great. He and I try to work things out 50/50. When I am cooking he is helping kids with homework, or vice versa. We both pitch in every evening to get the chores done and then we put the kids to bed around 8:30 and take some time for ourselves. We have a great system working together. We really enjoy doing the family stuff together. The bills are something that we both sit down and discuss sunday afternoons when the kids are playing.
2007-02-02 10:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by heaven o 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen I am not "Whipped" or anything but around my house. I do the laundry,dishes,all of the yard work and pay all the bills. And I work 50+ hours a week. My wife Cleans house and takes care of our 5 month old baby girl and works 40 hours a week. Its pretty even. We are both 29 years old and will celebrate 10 years in October. Sometimes people end up with lazy assholes.
2007-02-02 11:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by ryder204_jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's such a sad thing to hear....Most men are not like that at all. I stay home....and my husband still does the laundry helps with the kids takes care of the bills and so on....Marriage is what 2 people decide to work at TOGETHER. If your the only one running your marriage....or relationship...why bother? Good luck:) there are alot of wonderful guys out there waiting to be a good husband...don't view your life on a few terrible choices some of these woman get into....good luck:)
2007-02-02 10:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine does all the bills. I'm a stay-at-home mom of three kids ages five and under. Youngest is only nine months. I also take college courses online. He keeps the kids 2 hours a week for me to do schoolwork. On weekends, when his 12yo and 5yo are over, he handles the four oldest kids. He almost never cleans, but overall I think that's a pretty fair balance of responsibility.
2007-02-02 11:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let this hinder you. It's not how it is in every relationship. My husband and I have four beautiful children, 16yrs, 10yrs, 7yrs, and 6 months. He helps me with everything; changing the baby's diapers, cleaning house, helping kids with homework and is always there for me when I need an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on. I love him more now than ever. I love his warm sexy smiles and the way he holds me. We have our moments, but it's all worth it. I'm sorry your friend is having so much trouble, but not all men(or women) are like this. Good luck to you in all you do.
2007-02-02 10:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't help much but I'm a full time homemaker and I don't expect him to. He takes care of everything as far as home repairs or lawn maintenance and I take care of housework, cooking and the kids. If I did work however his butt would DEFINATELY be helping out!
2007-02-02 10:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by sbj95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband helps every now and then. He works full time, i am in between jobs and we have a 14month old son. Granted our sons not that hard to manage...but still...my husband helps me at nite with him and helps with the house occasionally..he gives me his money and i manage all the bills...so its more like 60-40...but it works for us...rest assured that not all men are like ur friends....and dont not have kids because her man refused to help..she needs to leave him. kids are the greatest gift any one could ever recieve....
2007-02-02 10:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by lanesmommy05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my husband sure does and i help him too... There is more balance that way.... We love doing things together to maintain the home... Gives us more time together. If he does not help her now he never will and it will only get worse once they are married... She needs to break it off with him and move on.
2007-02-02 11:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋