If you were cheating on your wife and she knew that you were cheating and she questioned you about it and you denied the fact that you were cheating.But your wife knows that something is wrong things just arent the same when you touch her,look at her & when you are making love to her.How would you handle being in a situation like this? Do you stop seeing the other person,keep on lying to her,and just have her thinking that she is going crazy.How would you go about easing your wifes pain? Serious Advice Only!
2007-02-02 02:35:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One would have to approach this rationally. OK first off, why is the cheating going on? Humans all have needs...this has been stated and agreed with many times. Also, fear of conflict and the need for emotional safety can prevent a spouse, male or female, from doing the right thing. Just because a man OR woman cheats, doesn't mean they are not in love with their spouse. For that reason alone cheating isn't grounds for divorce in isolated instances. To ease a wife's pain, first off, stop cheating and start communicating and take care of the one your committed to. If your cheating there is a need that isn't being met. Or maybe you weren't ready to commit to a life time partner. Marriage isn't a time constrained contract. If all you can do is hurt her, then move on and let her pick her life up.
2007-02-02 02:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is cheating on his wife...why would he care about easing his wife's pain. Appearently there is already a disconnect in that relationship and she is not fulfilling his needs and I would put money that he isn't fulfilling her's as well. Men cheat because their wife is not having sexual relations with him. It's plain and simple. Men want sex in order to stay happy. The best way to keep your husband happy is to have sex with him. On the flip side, men must make their wife feel secure both financially and emotionally. If both sides would do that for each other...there would be less cheating and divorces.
2007-02-02 10:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by goldenfir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would presume that if the husband is cheating on his wife, then he is not too concerned about easing any of her pain...why else would he continue to cheat if she tried to call him on his indiscretion. I myself have never, nor will ever, cheat on my wife. That being said..if I was cheating and she found out about it and was questioning me about it-I think that I would probably lie about it at first, and if she kept on me about the cheating, perhaps end the affair and hope to reconcile with the wife (if she would even forgive my indiscretion of course) I cannot give a much more serious advice because this thought has never occurred to me before, so never even thought about it till I read your question. Hope this helps in some fashion.
2007-02-02 10:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is overly complex. More simply : do you end your affair if wife finds out. Ive never had the situation.
I guess it would go to the root cause for the affair. If the couple can fix the relationship to the point that the affair is no longer desired. I'm sure this varies with every couple that is in this type of situation. But no husband deliberately goes out on his wife to inflict harm, those who want to inflict harm do it physically. Divorce is much simpler.
2007-02-02 10:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and go to the other woman.
2007-02-02 10:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's kinda hard to answer........cause I don't cheat!!
2007-02-02 10:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋