a close family friend (who's still in university) just got diagnosed with cancer. i can confidently call her one of the strongest and genuine people i have ever met- i knew this even before i found out about her sickness.
i want to write a letter to her, not just for my condolences but also to make her stronger and happier on her journey. I've never known anyone in such a situation before, though, and don't know what to say. please give me some tips.
2007-02-02 02:34:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sorry about the "condolences" part; this is all new to me! thanks for pointing out my misuse of the word.
2007-02-02 04:15:11 · update #1
don't write to her about condolences - she's not dead!
The best thing you can do is be POSITIVE and re-inforce the thought you have about her being strong and able to fight the illness. Let her know you're there for her, but remember that cancer is only part of her and don't revovle everything you talk about on that topic. Let her come to you to talk & don't try to force her to talk about it.
My father went through cancer & had been given 1-2 years. His willpower & strength to fight kept him with us for over 3. Just keep her as happy & positive about the possibilities & what she has to live for.
Try the american cancer society website: cancer.org for other information.
2007-02-02 02:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sam's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off let her know how you feel about her strength and genuineness. Don't treat her as though she is terminal if she isn't, let her know that you support her and her decisions and that you will stand by her. Offer to help her out if she needs it, and if she lives nearby maybe take her over some nice meals just in case she is too sick to cook or go out for food. Always make sure to let her know that you care for her and still respect her.
2016-05-24 05:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are ALL going to die.....noone lives forever, so your friend is no different. Don't dwell on her death, but on her life. She's no different now from what she was before the diagnosis, so just be yourself.
2007-02-02 02:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
difficult one
put your feelings down
2007-02-02 02:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋