I've always had a problem with procrastinating, and it's just gotten worse over time. If I'm asked to do something I find myself repeating the same old phrases.. "in a minute", "just give me five minutes", "ok, I'll do that later", etc.
Instead of working on stuff I should, like work and school, I play computer games (or post on Yahoo! Answers). Right now I should be taking a shower, but instead I'm here. I need to do something about this before it becomes a more serious problem than it already is, but I'll probably just procrastinate on that too. WHY DO I PROCRSTINATE SO MUCH, AND WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT IT?
2007-02-02 02:11:08 · 13 answers · asked by Keegarosan 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you procrastinate because you lack motivation, your motivation comes right before the absolute deadline of any task. someone says, ok, you have to do it now, you only have 15 minutes. get it over with! you may feel nervous, but with this comes an ahdrenaline rush. your brain and body find the adhrenaline rush satisfying, so thats why you keep procrastinating.
what you can do about it, is get exciting about the thing syou have to do. find some way to make them enjoyable, if you are putting of the shower, tell yourself that its really soothing to go in there, that its like entering in the hot rain forest in teh middle of the february chill. make your tasks more rewarding than the putting off part and you will procrastinate less.
2007-02-02 02:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by the Bruja is back 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Procrastination is a habit and not a serious ailment at all. Now, think for a moment that everyone who reads your question just gives you one standard answer: 'Wait a minute, I am just answering your question' and then vanishes, never ever to return. How will you feel about it? Not good, of course! This is about a situation when your procrastination affects others.
Procrastination affecting yourself is like 'deferring a shower', postponing a breakfast, avoiding homework, and being a 'one minute manager' or so it might be called. In all such case, there is some disadvantage, some loss, some missed out rating, etc. The main cause seems to be the absence of 'correct prioritization of your menu of activities' and also the absence of self-discipline. You can always practice self-discipline with the help of some exercises like shooting, dancing, singing and so on. They all require steps, sequence, promptness and accuracy. And once you are initiated you will derive lot of joy and shake off procrastination leaving it behind for ever!
2007-02-02 02:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by braj k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That you acknowledge you have a problem itself is a good start, it is good to know you have a problem because you are close to dealing with it.
Everything we do in life is an expression of our inner self, Ask yourself is this how you want to be? Check if you are balancing work and play, it is good to play but all play leads you no where, working is preparing for life, and life is good if you are tough, when you master the art of facing life you have plenty of time for play,. Besides, what are you saying to others around you, every act is piling up to say you cannot be dependable, because of your procrastination, you are building a reputation for yourself. Is this want you want to be identified? Or do you want to be remembered as someone who is organized, dependable, prompt and structured. Rememeber you will be soon in the job market and these are the qualities an employer looks for, and unless you dont make it a daily habit to do things you will be fired, and at the end of the day when you go to bed you will feel happy and light because the days job has been completed, you start the next day fresh with new thigs to do. By putting things away for tomorrow, the tomorrow is facing you like a dragon, do you want this everyday??? Or want to see the fresh sun and say wow! Choice is yours!
2007-02-02 02:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by thachu5 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably have no accountability. If you procrastinate and you don't have any consequences you will most likely keep procrastinating because you see that you can get away with it.
I'm doing the same thing right now! I should be doing a million other things - instead I'm here.
2007-02-02 02:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not knowbecause I do not know you. However, peole in general procrastinate for several reasons : fear of success, fear of failure, depression, ADHD, anxiety disorders, fear of finishing something or achieving a goal and not knowing what to do next...
What yo can do about it is to take the task(S) and break them down to short, small pieces, say 15-30 minutes and tell yourself that if you do this you can spend 15 minutes doingsomething you really enjoy-reward yourself. Gradually this will develop into longer periods of activity and you no loner will be a procrastinator.
2007-02-02 02:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by dugal45 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is hard for one to tell YOU why it is that YOU procrastinate so much. that is a question for you to think about n figure out for yourself. but it may be that when you are around something more interesting you may feel as though if you leave right away you may be missing something when really that may not be the case at all. try to contact a professional and see if you can seek some help to find the root to your procrastination.
2007-02-02 02:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by da_mixd_mami 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Procrastination is a learned habit. Also could be a hidden fear of work ahead. Discipline yourself through practice of addressing matters quicker than usual. AS time passes step it up until you have unlearned that bad habit and picked up the new habit of quick response.
2007-02-02 02:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Raiyne 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are more books in the self help section on this subject than you would guess! The reason is this is an EOE problem.
It's different for each individual. It could be......
*laziness
*ADD
*unwillingness to commit to any given thing
and on and on......
Make some choices, use self discipline and just do it.
Nuf said.
2007-02-02 02:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 10:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-29 02:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋