I have a Christian belief and don't want sex before I get married. So what should I do if I don't want to lose him or God?
2007-02-02 01:48:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
If your boyfriend knows your views on pre-marital sex, and he's making you feel like you have to 'give it up' to keep him, he isn't worth keeping. Sex isn't the only thing that holds truly loving, committed couples together.
2007-02-02 01:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
God's Word warns us not to be "unequally yoked" (2 Corinthians 6:14-18). Is your boyfriend a Christian also, but just has a strong physical need that he wants to satisfy? That is understandable, and we are all human. BUT . . . . true love DOES wait. He wouldn't pressure you if he were being obedient to God. So this may be a red flag and you may need to pay attention! Just think, if you two could wait until marriage, you would have something new and exciting to share on your wedding night. I hope you can get your boyfriend to truly understand this. Some churches may be featuring a "True Love Waits" event this month. If you find out there's one happening in your area, I'd advise to take your boyfriend to it. Maybe that will help. Meanwhile, stick to your belief - - - - if you lose this guy, then he clearly wasn't the one God intended you to be with.
2007-02-02 11:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do believe that sex before marriage is wrong then obviously you need to find someone who's compatable which your boyfriend clearly isn't.
Since this is going to be an important issue it might be better to consider it before getting involved with someone who doesn't share your beliefs.
Why not try a Christian dating service. Or date people you've met through your local church or other Christian social events.
I know that the temptation in life is always to go with someone you're attracted to you and then try to shoehorn them into sharing your beliefs but I'm afraid it doesn't really work like that in the real world.
I'm afraid, rightly or wrongly, you'll find that the vast majority of people in society these days don't believe that sex before marriage is wrong.
I think you need to take responsibility for your specific needs as society is unlikely to come round to your way of thinking.
2007-02-02 10:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by smilla k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! He shouldn't pressure you!! I have the same belief system, and I dated a guy for a year and a half, had a rough breakup, but I NEVER had sex with him, and I can only imagine how much worse I would feel now if I had lost it to him. Don't ever give up anything for a guy you are just dating, whether it be your body, academic decisions, ect., because you don't know how much longer he'll be there!
Big decisions should be made for YOU, and not have anything to do with anyone else, unless it is your family, husband, or kids.
Good luck, and be STRONG!
2007-02-02 10:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Zugunruhly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would understand and support your beliefs. If he keeps pressing to have sex, he dosen't care for your feelings. I have a few friends who strongly believed like you do and they let themselves be talked into sex by their boyfriends. Promises of getting married, not being able to live without showing them how much they love them and other nonscense lead my friends to go against their beliefs and have sex with their boyfriends. Just weeks later (in both cases) their boyfriends broke up with them. If it is your strong belief to not have sex before your marrage then don't. You'll feel guilty about doing something you don't think is right. Save yourself for someone who respects you, your choices and beliefs and wants to marry you. It's better to live with the guilt of not giving your boyfriend what he wants than to live with the guilt of doing something you believe is against God's wishes.
2007-02-02 10:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by DolfinSong 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. If the guy is with you for the right reasons then he will respect the fact that you want to wait. If he doesn't then ditch him because believe it or not there are some guys out there that will wait. Don't give into him stay strong in your beliefs.
2007-02-02 09:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by clueless 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex with him. Respect your beliefs and he should too. If he doesn't respect your beliefs than do you really want to be with him anyway? If he leaves just because you wan to wait he wasn't what you wanted anyway.
2007-02-02 09:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by suziso 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend must be aware of your fundamental beliefs. If he is unable to respect them, he is unable to respect you. It may be time to terminate this relationship and look for a Christian boy who shares the same values as you.
2007-02-02 09:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IF he is the right one for you, he would wait for you until you are ready. He obviously is not a man of GOD or someone that respects you , otherwise he would not try to pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do!
2007-02-03 23:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by riss criss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex. Get another boyfriend - cause he's going to break-up with you sooner or later -especially if he can't wait and respect your belief(s).
2007-02-02 09:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by Topez 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋