my husband of ten years told me last night he have somewhat strong feel ing for another women. i feel terrible

Answer 1

Tell him you have strong feeling for another man too. Just choose one of your close men friends.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Who wouldn't feel terrible.

However, your hubby certainly deserves kudos for being honest with you. How many people on this board post about their lying cheating husbands. He does deserve credit for admitting this and initiating the conversation.

Back to you. Everyone here sympathizes with you. Question is...what do you do?

Well, I would sit your hubby down tonight and ask some questions.
1) Does he love her?
2) Is he having intercourse with her? If so, protection used?
3) Who is it? (this may affect a great many things)...get a name.
4) Does he love you?
5) What does he want? You or her?

I would try to get as much info as possible before doing or saying anything. He may be going through a "grass is greener on the other side" episode. A midlife crisis. It is entirely possible that he is NOT having an affair (sexual). Now what you have is an opportunity to strengthen your marriage.

Of course, if he is sleeping with her, things are different. Can you forgive? Did they use protection?

What does he want? Does he want a divorce? Does he want to stay married and have his sex toy too? And what can you live with?

I hope this ends in a manner that makes you happy.

Answer 4

I would feel terrible too. Sorry to hear this. If you have kids, then your first priority should be on them. You're just going to have to figure out a way to deal without letting their father destroy the family. If you don't have kids, then I would ask him to leave or I would leave myself. Give him some time to figure out who his feelings are stronger for. You? Or the other woman? Then if he chooses you, it's YOUR call on if you want him back. Just be strong. TRUST ME that being needy, desperate, and weak never wins the heart and soul of the one you love.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to heard that SC,
but lets be serious he came out clean and told you whats going on,is a matter of time and discussion about the future as a relationship,
be strong and stand to your morals, cause you have to be first in his life otherwise the marriage will go to the drain.

Answer 6

He did that to make you feel terrible. HE wants you to end it. Fool him. Wake up singing in the morning. Go out after work. Let him take care of the kids. Start to live a life. Either he gets over his "feelings" or he doesn't. You won't care by then. If he does and wants to work it out with you, you will be much more confident in yourself. DON'T YOU MOVE. IF ANY MOVING IS DONE. IT IS BY HIM.

Answer 7

I would feel terrible too, but I would lay down the law. Say, OK, you have feelings for this woman, what does that mean? You want to pursue those feelings, then let's divorce first, you are confused, then let's divorce. You want to forget about her and focus on us, then let's do it. Although if you have kids, it's not so simple, and you need to remind him that not only is he playing with your emotions, but he's getting set to ruin the entire family. The kids WILL BE HURT.

Answer 8

I would feel terrible. But at least hes being honest right now. SO you say to your husband that you both need to work on your relatinship now....and if he wants anything from this marriage he must stop seeing this other woman NOW.

Answer 9

Choose a quiet time when both of you are calm, you need to address this issue with him and you can not ignore it. It is time to take a look at your marriage and work on it.

Thank him for being so honest with you. What do you want in your marriage or from him?

Answer 10

Did this come from left field. I am sure you and your husband must be unhappy. Did he show any signs? Talk to him find out and then go from there. Do not stay with someone who does not want you. Move on find someone who will make you happy. If not then don't complain.