Is it only about the big white dress and the open bar party afterwards? Is it about having someone to "grow old with and not being alone"...??? Most marriages are either miserable mistakes or end in divorce anyway. Even "The Beautiful (and rich) people get divorced. So what's the point?
2007-02-02 01:47:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-02-02 02:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is to share your life with the one you love and to make a commitment to each other to do so. We didn't have a wedding. We got the marriage license and then had it stamped by a notary public. There was no party, no bar, none of that. We got married after 3 years of being together because we wanted to spend our lives together as a couple, a partnership, a team. It is taking that final step in the relationship to take it to another level of intimacy, trust and combining 2 lives into 1. It is a good thing when the 2 people are truly commited to living life together against all odds.
2007-02-02 10:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people in teh United States have weird and high expectations for marriage. No one can be "in love" all the time. Every marriage had rough times, you just have to survive- a lot of people just throw in the towel. If your partner is your friend, if you can compromise well, and still love to play together, it's a grand way travel thru life! If I should be widowed, most likely I would not marry again- I had teh best, why settle for less?
I've been married 12 years, my parents will have their 40th anniversary this June. HIs Mom and step dad have been married over 22 years, and his grands just passed their 59th anniversary. My grands were also first spouses though both had a spouse died in their late 30s early 40s.
If you're convinced it will never work, don't waste the time. Have a party and get drunk anyway.
2007-02-02 11:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by heathrydge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never know if you have not tried it.... If you learn from the mistakes other make and not make those same mistakes you have a higher rate of success. Marriage is not about how rich and beautiful you are, those are materialistic things. Marriage is about love and your commitment to the person your married too and the compromises you make for that person. In marriage you have to play several role of a husband, lover, best friend, father, care giver and bread winner. It all depends on how much are you willing to sacrifice to see a smile on her face without asking for anything in return. Marriage is all about Love, Commitment, Compromise and Sacrifice.
2007-02-02 10:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people still believe in the happy endings. That marriages last.
I think people have taken the word love and confused it with lust. Women need to worry about finding someone who is going to accept them no matter how much they change physically and emotionally. Men need to do the same. Both must not base a marriage on sex alone.
2007-02-02 10:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage doesn't ..."what". You mean it doesn't work?
My husband and I would beg to differ with you.
We have a terrific marriage! And get this we work together, we are together almost 24/7.
Some of that is changing a bit. But truth be told we have the most fun together. We laugh a lot, hold hands a lot, don't talk all the time but enough.
We have our tiffs, but they are short-lived, and quickly forgotten.
And it certainly wasn't about the wedding.
It really is about two hearts becoming one.
2007-02-02 10:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by thankyou "iana" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the case always, there are two things for sucessfull marriage no 1- You should be the right person
2- You should find the right person for you
Its very tricky and risky to get the person you want.Even after finding the right person, you need to be the right attitude about the marriage and maturity enough to understand the meanig of marriage and its responsibilty
2007-02-02 10:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by yjph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is what you make of it.. If you want to be married to someone that you can wake up to each morning to, someone you can talk to share all your dreams and thoughts with, someone that will stand by your side through thick and thin, someone you can confide in, and someone that will be with you forever is what marriage is, a total commitment between 2 people and no one else..Someone that you will love forever.That is why i married my husband and why he married me..
2007-02-02 10:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We think love will conquer all but sometimes it is not enough. It is hard work and it is easier to just give up and start again, than to try and make it work.
2007-02-02 09:56:49 · answer #9 · answered by browneyedgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words.... green card.
2007-02-02 11:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Jessigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋