I have a really good guy friend who is a player. I totally know this and accept it about him. I enjoy our friendship and tease him about his many women. I have never betrayed him. Lately he's been talking to a really nice girl. I was encouraged by this, but now I find that he just wants to have sex with her because she is a virgin at the age of 23. He finds this to be a challenge and it's a turn-on for him. I think this is sick. She's a med student, deeply religious...just not the kind of girl he normally gets involved with. I have this girl's email address (yeah I sortof snooped). She's coming to visit him (she lives out of state) in late February. I'm really tempted to warn her that he's a great friend, but that his intent is to con her into having sex with him. I realize my friendship with him may be over, but this seems so wrong. Should I do it or mind my own business? Would she believe me anyway?
2007-02-02 01:38:43 · 7 answers · asked by Mitsubachi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If she is traveling to see him then i think she is looking for the same thing. I think you should encourage him to be honest and upfront with her though.
2007-02-02 01:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was a really close friend of mine, I'll try to stop him before warning her.
Yes, its a guy thing. And getting 'it' is something of a specialty these days! However do keep in mind that not all guys are like that!
Anyways, I wonder why she's coming to visit. She can't be that naive? Whatever sweet talk he tried she must know what guys are like...
Since you say your friendship is over with him, I'd say warn the poor girl. She believing you won't matter much; coz at least she'll be a bit on her guard...
Cheers!
2007-02-02 05:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a typical guy going for the only thing important to men. He quite obviously doesn't deserve it so you should definitely warn her. Her virginity is much more important than his male ego and conquering a virgin, that's absolutely wrong. It will hurt her MUCH MUCH more to lose her virginity to this guy than it will hurt him when you do this to him. Considering how he obviously doesn't have feelings because he can do this to a innocent human being I think he will be angry but not hurt so if you care about him don't worry he'll be fine. She will believe you if you're sincere and tell her that you just want to protect an innocent stranger.
2007-02-02 02:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE warn her!! I was a virgin til around that age also, and fell in love with this guy but i did marry him, the only thing is i think the only reason he married me is to sleep with me , you know a trophy thing for him. so let her know and tell him that he needs to consider her feelings and how much he could ruin her life if he just sleeps with her and dumps her. Maybe she will be SMARTand NOT sleep with him, she prob. is looking for her marrage partner not just a fling, since she is still a virgin.
2007-02-02 01:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by willwork4u2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is between the two of THEM!! If she's stupid enough to fall for him that's something she needs to go through herself. Why can't anybody let everybody else make their own mistakes?? We live and we learn.
Are you planning on following this girl around the rest of her life to make sure she stays out of trouble? No? Then why should you take any action now? It has nothing to do with YOU. Please stay out of other peoples' business. If you insist on talking to anybody, you should talk to HIM!!!!
2007-02-02 07:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If shes really religious maybe she believes in waiting until shes married. . if not let her do her. She wont let anything happen that she doesnt want to....
2007-02-02 02:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not your business
2016-05-24 04:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋