i've a boyfriend for almost 2 years and he studies abroad. Originally we planned to marry and go over to where he studies after i graduate. However, now he no longer wishes to get married but still wants me to go over there with him. My parents are against it since i won't be given the "security". Should i still go with him? I really dont want to lose him. He wants to break up now if i dont choose to go over with him.
2007-02-02 01:35:19 · 11 answers · asked by Stuck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay right where you're at!!! No marriage, then you DON"T go! It will not be in your best interests to go if he won't marry you first!
2007-02-02 01:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is advisable to take such a step, especially when he is breaking his former promises and not showing enough care to continue the relationship, if you do not accept his terms. What if you go there and then he breaks up with you or do not offer you the support that you are looking forward to? I think it is the time to take the tougher decision of accepting the truth and leave the decision to him.
2007-02-02 02:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that would depend on how much u want 2 be married. my suggestion is 2 find out why he no longer wants 2 marry you. personally I would tell him 2 go f himself if I am not worth marrying then why should I live with him.
good luck
2007-02-02 01:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl..all i have to say is listen to your heart..if you feel that going with him without the commitment of marriage then that means that he only wants you to because he needs someone to sleep with. but if he really loves you then he will understand why you don't want to go..An that is pretty stupid and dead wrong on his part to break up with you because you wont help him chase HIS dream...honey you have your own life and i hope that he doesn't expect the world to revolve around him cus he trippin.. give it time and i KNOW that you will make the right decision.
2007-02-02 01:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is already giving you an ultimatum....then you should cut ur losses and toss the loser out....ur just gonna waste time going over there ...at the end he won't even marry you....finish your school first...you will find someone who will commit to you and then you guys can travel all around the world together....
2007-02-02 02:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by nfocuz00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- you shouldn't go with him- obviously he does not love you- and has no intentions of a relationship with you- so listen to your parents( we always have a gut feeling about these things) and stay home. Look for someone that respects you and that will love you always.
Luck To You.
2007-02-02 01:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your parents. As a father myself, I wouldn't want one of my daughters running off out of the country with a guy that wants to marry her, then doesn't, and then threatens to break up with her if she doesn't go with him on HIS terms. What would YOU say to YOUR daughter if you were your mother???
2007-02-02 01:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he doesn't love you. He may want you over there to take advantage of and use you.You are worth more then that
2007-02-02 01:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by peg42857 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HE NEVER LOVE YOU, he just "need you"...."need something"
open your mind...try to thinking...
if he love me why he push me so much?
if he love me why he want to break me up when i don't follow him?
how deep his love?
romeo and juliet not be together to show the true love!!?
true love is when he never stop (break up) loveing you where ever you far far away...even you die...ops..sorry!!
2007-02-02 01:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by bali girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go!
If it doesn't work out you'll be stuck away from family and friends.
2007-02-02 01:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋