im getting married this year and im only 18 years old but alot of people think im too young but i really love her and i know she loves me and we been going out for three years i know i have found my soulmate so what should i do?
2007-02-02 01:19:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If getting married is what both of you want...then go for it...today most people think that the world is too big to settle down when you're as young as you are...but, there's nothing wrong with it and I hope that you and your soon-to-be wife have a long and happy marriage...my parents married when they were 18 (Dad) and 20 (Mom)...they're still going strong after 31 years!! Good Luck!
2007-02-02 01:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u know it´s yr soulmate then dont worry.
but it seems that the question of 18 is something that bothers u as well, otherwise u wouldnt ask.
so lets see things a little practical because u know what they say, u cant live, pay the bills and do things just with love. something else must be there as well.
i guess that u r too young to be working right now. is your soulmate as well? because if so u must ask yourselves who is going to pay the rent, the bills, the gifts that u would like to make to yr soulmate?
so what about if u moved together to a nice flat, study or find a job, get your lives a little bit in a row and then decide again? naturally the question of marriage is not the actual problem, becuase its just a contract that can brake at any moment if both of u want so.
the priorities i guess should be to live together, enjoy yr lives (togehter naturally) and of course there is plenty so much time for u to get married later on.
in any case its yr choice, not anybody´s else.
2007-02-02 09:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by vivianne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait! Your only 18 believe me u need this time to find yourself and do things that 18 yrs do. R u planning on going to college? Can u support a wife and a child if she gets pregnant? It not chep these days to raise a family and a high schoolm education doesnt cut it these days. If u and her are really Soulmates then theres no rush 2 get married right away because she'll always be there.
2007-02-02 09:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by nydiva28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she feel the same way.18 is too young i have a 23 year old son and he is not married he has a g/f the same one for over a year but he doesn't want to get married, he is too young he still likes to go out with his friends and is not ready to settle down.
2007-02-02 09:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered a question like this a couple of weeks ago and I search through My Q&A just so that I can copy and past my answer to yours -good luck. . . read on . . . .
PLEASE READ THIS AND THINK HARD . . . I got married at 18 years old. I am 22 now and I have been with him since the 9th grade. I love him with all of my heart but now I feel like I need to be free and find out who I really am. We never had the chance to be ourselves because as soon as we got married- responsibility hit us! We tried to go to college together but trying to live married life got in the way. . . I ended up having a baby (and it was no accident-which I'll never regret-but we should have waited) and for the past 2 years we have been struggling to survive. We never have time for each other.
Truthfully, I don't think you should marry her right away. The person I was at 18 is not me any more -and I am STILL CHANGING! We as people are going to change throughout our whole lives. . . but believe me the person you are now is not going to be the person you are going to become and I am not saying that you and your girlfriend are meant to be but you guys need to find out who you are individually. I only secluded myself to my husband -I had no friends -nothing! I finally found a friend and she showed me the person that I can be without him and I feel tied down now -TRAPPED!
We too argued a lot in H.S. and I now that I look back we probably never should have married and had a baby it was like we were pretending that our relationship was perfect - we just got caught up in the hustle to survive and provide a good life for our son . . .but what about us -we're not happy. . . I am so stressed. . . it is showing in my health. . DID I MENTION THAT I AM ONLY 22!!!
I am not saying that you guys aren't meant to be but you should hold off on the marriage. It is a legal binding between you and another person and getting out of it (if that ever becomes the case) will be difficult. You can committ to each other in other ways. . . I know you love each other but remember that you are responsible for your own happiness and don't depend on another to give it to you. .Good luck. . . .
2007-02-02 09:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can predict the future. You have to LIVE your life. If it feels right and you are both commit ed and willing to work together, marriage is great only if you work at learning about each other and the quirks each of you have, waiting is only time you could be spending getting to know each other.My sister dated her husband during school and they married after 4 years of dating and I knew my husband 2 months and 20 days and we both have been married for 20 years so far. marriages. When you start listening to what other people believe to be right then you aren't you any more. Good Luck
2007-02-02 09:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by WRF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other then what's the rush? I was 19 when I met my husband, and we waited for 6 years before we were married. A lot changed in just two years of us being together. A LOT!! If you love each other you'll learn to work through the problems that arise, and you won't be "stuck" if things don't work out.
Wait, there is no rush if you love each other, then just wait. You'll be thankful that you did.
2007-02-02 09:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!! Please take it from someone who married at the age of 20. You have plenty of time to get married and if this person truly is your "soulmate" then she'll wait until you're both older and experienced a little of life before you get married.
2007-02-02 16:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there was some research that was done with regards to maturity of people and at what age a human being truly become an adult... through analytical & empirical testing it was determined the age was 25....ne ways.....having said that....i think its great that you have found your soulmate and willing to get married ........if ur happy and your bride to be is happy ...then thats all that should matter....but beware....with marriage comes great responsibilities...its a life changing experience...i hope you are prepared for it.....congrats!!!!
2007-02-02 09:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by nfocuz00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seem many friends with the same thing going on, and the relationship failed. I don't know you personally, but try waiting at least two more years. Finding out things once you are locked into something is horrible. I hope you are both true.
2007-02-02 09:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋