I married a nun. (Not really) But she should have been one. So our "togetherness" is kind of BORING. What can I do.? I did onetime wear her skirt she kind of like it. She likes me to bend over. (Good thing we're the same size) I've bought her stocking and a garter belt, she never wears them. I've washed dishes with nothing on. Washed her hair and dried it. I picked out an outfit for her to wear and she said "I'm going to buy you a doll" I hug her every night in bed. I fall asleep holding her. I just get a cold sholder. Any advice on spicing it up ?
2007-02-02 01:11:39 · 17 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S. I give her my pay check (she doesn't work) and give her all the money she wants
2007-02-02 01:35:28 · update #1
What sucks is mens needs are not reallly concidered very often. Women view it as just a want. If a women says no you have to stop. You have to stop and this is a good thing. However a lot of women don't concider or care of a mans needs for sex and sexual diversity. They think its just an ich not worthy of scratching and they will never be able to understand a mans sex drive. The release of testosterone is very important and this is the funnest way, we will do it with or without you.
2007-02-02 01:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by doc 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wow, your wife is one lucky lady. Seriously! I'm sorry to hear that she just isn't into it, but it maybe her hormones. Talk to your wife and tell her that you just need a little more affection and that the cold shoulder is hurting. If she truly loves you, she'll try to make things work. There maybe some sort of hormonal imbalance that is keeping her from getting in the mood. The best thing to do is talk.
Good luck.
2007-02-02 09:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is the one with the problem and not you. You have tried to spice things up. If she has a low sex drive maybe she needs to see a doctor about that problem. If she is on birth control pills that can lower her sex drive too. If that is not the problem. Then marriage counseling. A counselor can get to the root of the problem faster than you can.
2007-02-02 09:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Janst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You fool. Why do you give her everything and get nothing back. It sounds to me like this one has you brainwashed. She shows you no respect. And wearing her skirt to turn her on that's a little weird. Talk to her maybe your technique is not working. Rent a movie get daring have fun if she does not want it you cannot change her but you can change your life. Move on.
2007-02-02 12:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Instead of trying all of these things that you think she should like... you could always ask her what she wants as opposed to an annonymous group of strangers.
Maybe there is something that really "revs her engines" and you are just not doing it.
Also... women really are pretty perceptive, and when you do all the things you are doing just to get her in the mood... she probably knows it. You are not being nice just to be nice. You have a definite selfish goal in mind. What i mean is... you are not doing these things for her. Not really. You are doing them for yourself. To get what you want. And that is what turns her off.
2007-02-02 09:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Undergroundmann 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Does she give you any reasons why she doesn't want to give you any? Try bringing home roses and taking her out to dinner, and be very romantic while you do it. When you get home seduce her, and see if she will give you any. Let her know that you want her more than you have ever wanted another woman. Good luck...
2007-02-02 09:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she likes, what turns her on. If that doesn't work - maybe try some ot the bedroom board games, like "Dirty Dice", etc - to find things she likes.
2007-02-02 09:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel! I wouldn't say trying anything else because it seems like you have done it all. Was she like this before you married? Sounds like she is cheating! Get out why you still have time. If she is cheating don't get mad get even!
2007-02-02 09:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tricee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sound like you great together. Keep up the good work
2007-02-02 09:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
LOL.....Have I EVER been there!!! Trust me, it doesn't get ANY better! I was married to a "none" 25 years.....None in the morning, NONE in the day, and NONE at night! Advice???? Get a divorce, and "get SOME!"
2007-02-02 09:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋