GOOD, GOD, ALMIGHTY! Woman don't want to have babies and loving families anymore?

Question

So, does this mean woman have evolved into empowered, selfish, self-centered, heartless nomads? I guess, no grand kids will ever reminisce over you? No finger and toe counting for you? American woman are out of contriol - they are so foolish to be buying into this empowered crap. Comments?

A loving family is LIFE! Believe that!

Answer 1

I am a feminist and I don't understand what you could possible be saying here. What woman (and I noticed that you used a singular noun there) are you referring to? I have children, a loving family, and a husband. The all are staunch supporter of feminist ethic. Obviously you need to do a little research and maybe you will understand exactly what the word empowered means. Your question really doesn't make a great deal of sense.
As far as my children, they are already empowered, emotionally healthy productive adults who are quite self sufficient and have a very good self esteem. I would imagine that the majority of their views come from the teaching of my husband and myself. So what is your hypothesis based on?

Answer 2

Women have discovered that there is more to the world than staying pregnant and raising children. Just because many of us have decided to wait until we have accomplished other things, doesn't mean that we do not want children. We are not selfish, self-centered, heartless nomads just because we want to live some of our lives for ourselves. We may be empowered, but we still have a long way to go!!!

Answer 3

I do not believe that women who stay home to raise their kids are lazy - far from it. I think it's the hardest job in the world. It's also a job I don't want. I do not feel I'd be a good mother, and I don't think it's fair to bring a child into an already over-populated world. People who don't want kids should not be forced to have them, and should not be made to feel bad for not wanting them. You act like the only reason women are on earth is to procreate and I refuse to believe that. For some women, not having children IS the responsible decision, and maybe there would be less child abuse and hungry kids if everyone understood that. And I take offense to you saying that women who don't want children are 'out of control'. Children may be YOUR life, but they are NOT mine.

Answer 4

Just because I'm empowered doesn't mean I don't love my husband and children. The point of empowerment to me is to do a job to the best of my ability. My being a wife and mother has very little to do with that.

Answer 5

I want a marriage, and children.

I admit I was caught in that story you described through. Public school's teaching of "Sex Education" was rather harsh in the Baby teachings. They make babies seem to be a bad thing (disease to be medicated) instead of a miracle --- all to deter young women from dropping out of school. The pictures and films shown were as horrifying as the "Stop Smoking" and "Don't Drink and Drive" campaigns they had. Add to this celebrity role models (singers, dancers, & models) who disregarded family too and well it was a recipe for disaster ... and disaster I survived. (Hmmm ... I wonder WTF they told boys ... 'cas boys seem MORE messed up than the girls)

I had to go into the despair of the self-centerness, allowing myself to be objectified, and many broken hearts until I stopped ragging, and listened. Since this silence, I've killed (metaphorically) this old person, and have started planting new seeds of reality. I'm still in the little girl phase of re-defining, but I have hope-faith- and love so the outlooks getting better.

Answer 6

There are probably relatively few women who would disagree that having a family is the greatest joy, but the lack of strength in the male character has led many women to feel that for their own security they must stand on their own two feet financially and emotionally. Women have learned that they cannot put all of their trust in men or else they will be devastated when he turns out to be a cheater or an abuser. There seems no end to the woman-headed family with children and no man because she has either left him because of his low-character ways or he has left for greener pastures elsewhere. What's a woman to do? Most women would love to know that they could stay home and nurture a family, but there has to be nurturance in it for her as well. No one wants to feel that they are unappreciated, especially a woman who has basically given up her freedom and autonomy for love and family. There is no worse feeling than to have done that and then been cheated on by the man you love and trust. Betrayal by men has led women to seek empowerment on their own.

You seem to have a real problem with women in general. Why are you so bitter? You must be one of those guys who sits around blaming women for the woes of the world and then goes and jerks off to porno.

Have a nice day Jaime!

Answer 7

I wouldn't worry about that baby thing, as they'll most likely go to some sperm bank and have themselves artificially enseminated. tee hee they sure are empowered and if men keep on donating their sperm there'll really be trouble. Foolish is just about right. I'm American and I believe it's a bunch of crap.
I would also like to say that men are givers and women are receivers and care givers once they stop believing in that the balance is upset.

Answer 8

I am an American Woman. I am married with 2 children, (my 11 year old daughter who is Autistic and my 2 year old son), 4 step children, and 3 step grand children. I am a stay-at-home mother. I cook, clean, and handle finances for my husband's business. I AM EMPOWERED.
Lose the bitterness. We're not all bad.

Answer 9

Just women? In case you didn't notice, there are quite a few men who don't want children as well. I personally am happily married with two beautiful kids. I'm happy with that, but you have to keep in mind that it isn't for everyone. I know people who honestly believe they would not make good parents, and choose not to have children for that reason. I personally wish the people who abuse and neglect their kids would have made that decision. There are other reasons as well. I have a friend who is a doctor, and does a lot of volunteer work with the homeless as well as working at the hospital. She is doing good things for the world, helping a LOT of people, and knows she would not be able to do that with children. What's wrong with that?

Answer 10

Wow- this is why people don't want to have kids anymore- they don't want to raise children in a world filled with closed-minded people.

First, I have to defend certain women, because you obviously haven't thought about them. If you're not aware, some women are not able to get pregnant. Also, some men are not able to get women pregnant. Thus, these couples will not be able to procreate. Don't get all holier-than-thou on women who wish they could have children, but can't. That's not fair.

Next, I think it's great that women now have a choice of having children or not. Many women are not cut out to be mothers (seriously, they wouldn't/don't make good mothers). For them to be forced to have children is awful. That's why so many children are raised in households where their mothers don't love them or take care of them properly.

Here are my reasons for not wanting to bring a child into this world:
-The world is so overpopulated already, that adding another child or two or eight is unnecessary. We don't need to work on populating the earth- that's been done for us. I think the most unselfish thing you could do is to not have children- even better, adopt or foster one who has already been born, but has no parents.
-Kids don't do anything for me. I don't say, "awwwwww" when I see a baby or child on TV, and if someone tells me they're pregnant, I congratulate them, but don't get jealous or anything that I'm not pregnant. They're just like small dogs or cats- they're cute, but I wouldn't want one of my own.
-This world is getting worse and worse every day. Parents now have to worry about child molesters, war, poverty, diseases that were unheard of decades and centuries ago, date rape, pollution, a poor economy, rising costs in education, threats of terrorism, etc. I would not want to raise a child in this environment.

I don't need children or grandchildren to remember me when I'm gone. I hope that my work and actions will do that for me. Hopefully my contributions to society (working, volunteering, keeping the environment clean, adopting animals, etc.) will be enough. I don't feel that having children is the only legacy a woman can create.

People like you who are narrow-minded and feel that a man, woman, and child/children make up the only proper type of family scare me. There are plenty of other types of families out there that are just as good as the classic nuclear family. I love my family, which consists of me, my boyfriend, and our dog. We have a lot of fun and our house is filled with love. Your type of family is no better than mine or anyone else's. Try not to be so quick to judge others. Just because someone has different values than you do does not make him/her a bad person.

P.S. I hope that you just wrote this to get a rise out of people, and that you're not really this closed-minded.