how can I tell if my British husband is gay? and living a double life?

Question

he has a friend who he is always with, and so sweet when talking to the phone. They go to their own garage together where they have gym equipments there and they 'train' together just the two of them. What do you think?

Answer 1

Watch Brokeback Mountain. If you think he is bi-sexual he may be. Trust your heart and your senses. You would get the same feelings if it was a woman. How would you respond?
Your options are to ask him directly or to spy on him. Regardless you are in a difficult situation. Next, you are faced with another tough situation do you stay or do you go.
There are support organizations and websites that offer help. Here are a few websites that I found that may help you.
Good Luck.
www.straightspouse.org/internet.shtml
groups.yahoo.com/group/wivesofexgays
www.straightwives.com/support.html

Answer 2

Well ,,,, Does he curl his pinky finger when drinking his tea ,,,, All limy males are fems ,,,, which is right next door to what you are worried about ,,,, Maybe you could install a camera to record what they do with and to each other when they are by themselves in that garage ,,,, Stroking is an exercise too you know regardless of who they stroke ,,,, themselves or each other ,,,, And they aren't near as intelligent as they would have people think either ,,,, Just look at the continual blunders their illustrious general/field marshal Bernard Montgomery made in WW II ,,,, He was the master mind behind the failed operation designated Market Garden among many others ,,,, and he would have never defeated Rommel if Hitler would have kept his forces in Africa supplied ,,,, And if you study your history and all the ture facts and put two and two together you'd see that Churchill wasn't really all of what history has painted him to be either ,,,, England had no business declaring war on Germany because they were totally stupid ,,,, ill equipped and totally unready ,,,, and they wound up getting their butts kicked,,,, But they were sure at that time that they'd be victorious ,,,, Truth is ,,,, Were it not for the intervention of the United States ,,,, they'd be drinking schnaps yet today ,,,. Ever notice how they say they are so sure about something that they know nothing about ? ,,,, I wonder about the ones that are married ,,,, How do they decide which one is going to be on top ,,,, There are allot of gays that are married to cover up their true orientations though ,,,, Being married enables them to live their double life style undetected ,,,, Gays are the major contributors to the spread of the AIDS/HIV virus too ,,,, I think it would be a good idea if you sit down and rethink your life and make some changes ,,,, It would probably be to your advantage health wise ,,,, You are going to wind up with nothing if you wind up with either one of those viruses ,,,, All you'll need after that is a box ,,,, You've asked a good question though ,,,, It rates a star with me ,,,,

Answer 3

The fact that we are living and breathing and able to do all these things. The fact that we are not rocks and some divine coincidence made use who we are instead of some inorganic atom. The fact we can give things worth. We can categorise. Its all beautiful, the sight, the sound, the feel, the emotion, the taste. Even pain. We can feel that not many other things can. Pain may be painful, but we can feel it just as we can feel happy. Its amazing really that out of all of this we can do these things. Although it seems to suck sometimes its still wonderful. random fact: if you shoot a rabbit, it doesnt know why it feels pain, it doesn't register that there is an explanation, it just knows it feels pain and as a reaction will run away, even if its dying. Shoot a human (even if they did not know what a gun was) it would realise its something launched, have some sort or knowledge of what to do and so on. I dont think this was relevant but its written now... But if youre looking for one reason it would definitely be pie.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong with 2 men working out in their garage. Men do work out together. You should really let it go and trust that he is just working out. If you are not comfortable and it is nagging at you, you can always hire a private detective. However, if you are wrong, you have spied on your husband and you have been dishonest in not trusting him. If you find out he is gay, then where will you go from there? How is it going to effect you and if you have children. These are the questions you are going to have really think about before you go and hire a private eye.

Answer 5

I think you have a right to know, but what you find out, you may not like. Funnily enough, the talking on the phone a lot is the biggest worry. It's one thing to feel a physical attraction,but to fall in love with one of your own
will break a marriage.

Answer 6

with gays and lesbians one is always more masculine and one more feminine first try and establish if he is one or the other.
he'll be on guard around you so here is what else you should do.


most digital voice recorders are super sensitive and are voice activated.

hide it somewhere in the garage away from stereo equipment. that should tell you.


fyi there is no such thing as a bi- sexual man. if he sleeps with men, he's a gay that sleeps with women.

Answer 7

Guys can train in a gym together without being that way. So you worry he is going to pass on to you a disease?
Ask him to get tested for social diseases, if he loves you he will. If he gets all fired up about it you might have a real problem on your hands.

Answer 8

Guys hang out all the time, is this all the evidence you have. But if they like to talk a lot on the phone then they are probably gay.

Answer 9

Your husband may be bi-sexual & attracted to his friend, but if every thing is okay with your relationship, your husband maybe respecting the fact that he is married and is not acting on his feelings.

Answer 10

Maybe they're just good friends. Stop being jealous & go join them - why should they have all the fun!