when we got married 25 years ago i promise i would stop ive been doing it on and off more off but this time i got carelees i love her very much and we have a daughter but she knows nothing of what happened and i dont know what to say or do she says she wants to end the marriage when my girl goes to collage this summer,help
2007-02-02 00:03:07 · 23 answers · asked by johnnyalvarado48 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get of the damn drugs. it can only ruin your life
2007-02-02 00:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You promised you would stop, but you broke that promise many, many times over the years. Now, you are trying to excuse yourself by saying it was a "small" bag, and that you don't use it most of the time. As others before me have said, this is probably not a single event resulting in a divorce. However, it probably is a scenario in microcosm about how she feels about you. She probably perceives you as a man who cannot be trusted to keep his promises, a person who lies, and a person who will not even accept responsibility for his mistakes and own up to them honestly. It is these greater defects of character you must address, not just this one instance.
2007-02-02 00:14:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably BS ing this forum like you are trying to BS your wife. You are probably smoking as often as you can and you think in your stoned stupor that the wife does not notice. Her finding the pot at this time is probably just the last straw. You get what you deserve! Maybe your dealer will be your buddy now and you can chat about how you got a 'bum deal' from your wife, while you both get stoned.
My wife started smoking pot 8 months ago after 18 years of marriage and she thinks she fools me and can 'pass' as sober when she is stoned. You stoners are selfish idiots. We fight all the time over it.
I am at the point of showing my wife the door just like yours is doing with you!!
By doing illegal drugs against your wifes express wishes you show what a self centered low life you are!!!
2007-02-02 00:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing to look at now is to see what is more important , my family or my pot ! Now your wife needs to understand people are human and they will make mistakes . When things get a little stressful for you it makes since that you smoke pot to mellow you down from making things worse . I do not smoke pot but I understand why people who have done it before runs to it time to time . One when you agreed to stop smoking pot you never did it for yourself you did it for others and that is a mistake ! Now your wife should think of ways now that she can help you want to stop smoking for you not for anyone but you . If you feel you want to smoke pot and you do not want to change then I think you should split up. You and your wife have been married for a very long time and I say your wife and yourself should pray God can help you become stronger in your marriage and help you through the bad and the good .I hope your wife can set aside her anger and remember till death do you part. Good Luck to you and your wife !
2007-02-02 00:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She wouldn't end the marriage over a little bit of pot so there must be other issues you aren't telling us about here.
If the kid is off to college and she still wants to end the marriage, let her go. Start a new life being single, you might realize you like it.
God i wish i could be so lucky.
2007-02-02 00:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame that for 25 years you've been hiding something behind her back. She's probably thinking to herself, what other things has he done that he just 'hid' from me. You promised you would stop, and you didn't take it seriously enough, you just said the words and didn't follow through, so she's thinking to herself, what other things has he said, but never really meant. You've got a tough road ahead if you want to save this marriage.
2007-02-02 00:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you cant say you wont do it again even if you dont because she wont believe you that will make it worse
start by little things like coming home early not going out for a little while
and stop what you where doing when you did it youll know what i mean
dont say it but let her know she is more important by doing some little things that you are supose to be doing that you dont get round too
you broke her heart and the trust she felt for you
you need to earn it back
good luck
2007-02-02 00:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by tamah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don´t be hard on yourself my man! I ´ve been smkin weed for 30 yrs. now and it ´s never been a problem in my life. Just don´t make promises that you don´t want to keep. Then it becomes a Lie. Tell her you lied to her to protect your marriage and continue to get high. If she wants a Divorce . She´ll do it anyway.
2007-02-02 00:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her you were having a few problems that needed to be delt with or tell her why you did it. after 25 years if this is all that can come up for a divorce than its very small. If your use doesnt effect your daughter then theres no problem.
2007-02-02 00:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mike B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess you should have thought of that, that you wanted your marriage when you were doing the drugs. Either throw it away or throw away your marriage. I guess its up to you.
2007-02-02 00:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to decide on what's more important to you, yes every now and then we all 'fall back' to our younger years and maybe you need to explain very carefully and stay away from doing it. Good luck !!!
2007-02-02 00:06:30 · answer #11 · answered by Bobbi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋