I'm 23. Everybody seems to say I'm too young to get engaged because it's a huge commitment. But I always read on this site that girls as young as 18 are having babies and that appears to be fine. Surely having a baby is a much bigger deal and much more of a life-changing commitment than just getting engaged! Whats the big problem here? And if the "right" age to have children really is whenever one feels ready, then why is it not the same in the instance of getting married?
2007-02-01 23:53:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Biologically, our bodes are best suited to having children when we're young in part due to the length of our natural life span. However, with medical and technological advances, people are living longer and longer and can have healthy children later in life. Just because we are biologically ready, does not mean we are at an ideal place in other areas of our lives such as emotional, financial, etc.
2007-02-02 00:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are allot of girls younger than 18 having babies believe me ,,,, It's happened with some girls as early as 10 years old which is rare but it has happened before ,,,, When people say you are too young to become engaged ,,,,it's that they are concerned about your maturity ,,,, When it's the guys maturity they should be concerned about ,,,, but that's another topic lol ,,,, Your age when you get engaged has nothing to do with your bearing children though ,,,,, that's a completely different issue ,,,, A woman's optimal child bearing age ranges from like about 25 to 35 generally but that's just a rule of thumb too ,,,, As for your becoming engaged that's up to you ,,,, Being married or being engaged is a state of mind and not a fact of law ,,,, Some people might be happy for you but then there are some that might frown on it too ,,,,,, But those that frown on it seriously need to mind their own business ,,,, But the bottom line to your question is that the optimal time for having children in a woman's life is a different issue altogether from that of the right time to become engaged ,,,, Be open to suggestions and advice but be mindful that it's you that has to make the decisions in your life ,,,, No one can make them for you ,,,, No one can live your life for you either and I'm sure no one is going to step up and volunteer to take the punishment you might get for your mistakes ,,,, Stay focused on yourself ,,,, You can't be any good for anyone else until you are good for yourself first ,,,,
2007-02-02 04:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...(I know this is a little late) but from my experience it's marriage first, then kids... so that they have a stable home to grow in! I know that the "fad" nowadays is have as many children as possible with different people all by age 20, but that's just ridiculous! I wish they'd all grow up properly and knock some sense into their heads! They think they can handle adult life at 15! what's with the world today?!!!
2007-02-03 17:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 43 now and got married at 21 and had my first child at 22. I don't regret it and am glad I was reasonably young in comparison to some of my friends. If your in love with this person get engaged for a few years and if you still feel the same marry him and have babies. It's lovely getting married and having babies.
2007-02-02 00:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its a good question. Womens bodies can only have kids for a certain period of time. So its best to have children young while you arent at a high risk. Marriage on the other hand its best that you wait until you are older, more knowledgeable. I got married when i was 17, had my son when i was 18. I am now 20 and wouldnt give back one day of it. We have provided everything for our son. Giving him the best life we can. So yes age is nothing but a number, but i think its best to wait. Make sure that you are truly in love.
2007-02-02 02:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by lanesmommy05 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Simple genetics. As women get older, the harder it is for them to reproduce. A woman can get married any time, but only has a realitively small window to have children (in relation to their life expectancy). Having a child, in some ways is like getting married, what with the commitment and all, the only difference is that a child is a permanent thing, where as with marriage you have got divorce!!!
Hope this helps!
2007-02-02 00:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally no... haviing your kids young causes poverty hardship and eventually divorce... your always broke.. and arguing because of it.
we were together 10 years before we had our kids. sylvia was 28, and then 34... were financially secure, have a good home, and a good life..with NO debt.. were not fighting with the kids because they want and we cant provide.. and as were in our 40's its not like we want to be down the pub 7 days a week.. (like we did)
my mum had 4 of us by the time she was 21... ok times were different... but i wont let my kids suffer like we did... ok we never went hungry and we had shoes... but we never ever went on holiday, dad didnt have a car... my dad was a highly skilled aero engineer, well paid and always working... but 1 mans wages to keep 7 of us (M&D + 5 kids) well, it didnt go far... (so no change there then)
ive been with syliva for 25 years, we arent married.. pieces of paper dont keep you together.. love and commitment do that.
oh i was born on a council estate
when dad was working
there was food on the plate
oh i grew up ion a council estate.
2007-02-02 00:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people are stuck in a time warp.Ignore them & if you want to get engaged go for it.No one can stop you,Good Luck
2007-02-05 19:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cos it good to gorw with ur kids i guess
2007-02-02 01:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by apple 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont no MUSY PEA
2007-02-02 00:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋