I'm 12 wks and not feeling very happy. Little things seem to make me either so angry i can feel my heart racing or i'm a crying mess. Even my partner is starting to annoy me.
Starting to worry myself also as i feel i'm the only person around who isn't really excited about the baby arriving and i'm starting to feel like i'm a bit of a bad person.
Also partner is drinking freely and partying in front of me and i'm starting to get jealous of people having fun. This isn't like me. Just want to feel a bit normal again. Any advice? Would really love to feel happy and excited, but just can't seem to.
2007-02-01 23:10:52 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just be patient...
2007-02-05 23:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
God I felt so alone 2! I found that once I was able to start telling people and all my friends and family knew it got easier. It has started getting better now that I feel pregnant, Im 20 weeks and the little flutters inside are such a lovely feeling. We found out we were having a boy at our 2nd scan. We feel even more excited because I can really bond with him, calling him his name etc. We are also paying for a 3D scan. I suggest anything that makes it feel more real is good whether it chats about names with ur partner, each scan! congratulations tho, I promise things will get better. Take care of yourself. xx
2007-02-02 02:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by evajolene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your hormones going berserk.
At about 12wks they change from being produced in one place to another(can't remember the specifics) BUT basically one area's producing more while the other area's reducing production-and the crossover's a git!
My other half didn't understand that I was feeling very 'wobbly' and he carried on partying etc regardless of the fact that I was sober and fed up to boot too. They don't mean to hurt you, they're just men and don't get it-especially with the first one.
If you can, sit down and talk to him, calmly and if you can't because you burst into tears or, like I did, get angry, write it down and ask him to read it. But don't panic because it's TOTALLY normal, honestly-I'll give you an example;
I went nuts-totally psycho-at about 12 weeks with my second in two years and poured away not only the glass of wine my fiance was drinking but the rest of the bottle too while screaming unintelligibly about being a drunk(he's no such thing) and inconsiderate and a general waste of space before bursting into tears and sobbing for half an hour.
And we had guests.(good friends luckily).
See? You're not a loony and you're not on your own. Talk about it-you'll be fine.
2007-02-01 23:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are not going to feel normal for quite some time and the feelings you are experiencing are quite normal, i was a complete ***** when i was pregnant, think about having some time out for yourself, perhaps a facial or a manicure and take up regular swimming you will feel better but it does take time, and as for having doubts about the pregnancy, don't worry about that, i had doubts to and i am sure a lot of women do, you're body is on a rollercoaster of hormones and chemicals and it is impotrtant that you realise you are experiencing normal emotions. I wish you love and luck xxxxx
2007-02-01 23:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by bug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone so far has given great advice. The only thing I would add is this: You can also talk to your doctor about it. Or, if your doctor is in a group practice, they may have a nurse on staff to discuss things with. (My doctor's practice had a nurse line where you left a message and they would call you back. They would help as much as they could up to the point that you needed to see a doctor. The nurses were able to help me out every time.) Talking to your doctor/nurse will give them a chance to get more details from you to see if there is anything else that might be going on where they can help you out.
2007-02-02 00:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a bad person for feelin this way.I felt the same with my first pregnancy you just feel like a machine.Its the hormones that are driving you to feel like this.I used to argue with my husband all the time and for no reason durin my first pregnancy.When he was there a didnt want ta c him and when he wasnt i did it was all to much to take. Once the hormones start to settle down youll feel better. Try and talk to your partner and tell him how you feel.Am sure he would want ta make you feel better.
good luck
2007-02-05 01:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal for you to have baby blues but try not to let it get to u.It´ll pass.Try going for a walk, try as much as possible to be in relaxed mood.Think your baby´s health cos when u aint happy it will affect your health generally and that of the baby so do anything u know that will take ur mind off all those irritations that makes u have mood swings.Dont dwell on an issue for too long. Good luck!
2007-02-01 23:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural to feel like this but i'm sure that when your bump starts to show you will feel excited.its not fair fair that your partner is out partying he should be a bit more sympathetic towards you.try talking to him and explain how you feel.
i wish you luck and hope all goes well with the delivery when the time comes.
2007-02-01 23:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nanny Bev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me, i know how you feel, and it will pass. I got so depressed in the first trimester, and people go so annoyed with me, id just got married been on honeymoon and found out i was pregnant and i was feeling so low. I didn't want to cook, clean, or get out of bed and nothing would cheer me up, i would cry for ages at NOTHING! my husband got annoyed with me and i wondered want the hell was wrong with me, but as the weeks go on you'll feel much better, try to get your husband to help out as much as possible around the house, and just try and get out, only if its for a walk. You'll feel better soon x
2007-02-01 23:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Keira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just your hormones going all out of wack, when i was pregnant i was very irritable i snapped at almost everyone for nothing it's just different for everyone...and you are normal there is no normal lol when it comes to being pregnant don't worry it will come to pass and you will feel great again
2007-02-01 23:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by Christy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hiya i was evil when i was pregnant all i was doing was arguing with my b/f anything he said i just caused an argument out of it. if i wasnt arguing with him i was crying at any little thing someone said to me it will pass i promise try going out with your friends somewhere for a meal or cinema show your b/f that just coz your pregnant it dont stop you doing things. good luck.
2007-02-01 23:20:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋