How can I make myself feel less sensitive? I get offended and upset over the least bit thing. It's terrible.

Question

I feel rejected all the time and an outcast. How do I become strengthened in this area?

Answer 1

i was very sensitive,i got hurt with very lil thing.my life was
terrible,once i thought why i m wasting my life with meaningless
feeling.if i get upset who cares,i was just spoiling my own life.why i m getting tense and waste my life.every thing in this world is for u. strengthen ur will power.u can do evry
impossible thing in this world.u are very strong person,u get this
life once,dont waste ur life in meaningless things.enjoy ur
life,ignore those who hurts u..Best of luck dear:)

Answer 2

That could have been me talking. I have a fantastic partner, brilliant family and friends, a nephew I adore, a job that I love, and yet I feel exactly as you do. I just give myself a damn good talking to when I start to feel like that, my partner is good at bucking me up as well. I've never analyzed it too much, and I've never sought professional help for it. It doesn't ruin my life, I am a very happy person, but it does make it a struggle sometimes. I just tell myself to get a grip and be strong. Talk to someone you trust about how you feel - it's amazing how a different perspective on something can help. You will see something one way, feel upset and offended, and someone else will see it a totally different way. Let yourself be open to how else the situation could be interpreted, and you will see that yes, sometimes you were right to be upset, and at other times, you have been over sensitive. It's not a bad thing to be sometimes - I think it makes you aware of and sympathetic to other peoples troubles. I bet all your friends and family think you're great.

Answer 3

You need a way to build your self-esteem back up. Books help me feel at ease. The more I learn (any subject) the more 'ready' I feel. You can even read some books about self-esteem. But have an activity you like and an interest you can learn more about. No One Else Knows you are sensitive unless you tell them. Keep that in mind for the times when you obsess about where you were and what was said. There is enough room in this world for sensitive people. I'd hate to think everyone was made of steel and the sensitive people had disappeared. You are concerned about pleasing people. That's not a federal offense, because if it was, we'd both be in jail!!

Answer 4

I've recently started a Introduction to Counselling course at the local college. It's only 12 weeks long but it's great - it gives you an understanding as to why people are how they are, why they think the way they do and things like how telling someone how you feel about something can give you a sense of self empowerment. You also get to open up a lot about yourselves (although everything stays within the 4 walls).

I think you should do a course like this - not only will you meet new friends (its a great bunch of people) but you may learn to understand yourself better and it will also give you so much more confidence. Good luck.

Answer 5

You really are in the wrong place. If you want to get to grips with this you need to remove yourself from the impersonal, unanimated and suggestive arena of 'online' forums.

You need human contact to address this. Why do you feel rejected? Why do you feel outcast? Find these out first before trying to strengthen your resilience.

Answer 6

I don't think it's a confidence issue. You are a sensitive person. It means you get easily offended but you are also very easy to please and get happy about little things life. In this life it is always the case of giving up something only to gain something and vice versa. You can't have both things. Sensitive people are also very creative so just be happy with what gift you've been given.

Answer 7

Practice following if you can.

1) Count to 10 before you answer anything.
2) Go to the beach & look at the sea. You will observe how the waves create & ends up shore. Look at the sun set. Calm your mind. stay there for about an hour.
3) Go on a wild life tour watch how animals , birds behave.
4) At night before you go to sleep, practise meditation.
It is simple. relax your body, try to feel your breath, in & out.
5) Practise 3 G system , Good wishes, good will & Gratitude)

I'm sure your personality will changed. You will be definetly a pleasent & excepted by every one.

All the best

Regds
DK

Answer 8

I think for some reason or other, i.,e., we feel inadequate in certain situations. When we don't know anyone in a group, or, thinking that everyone else seems to know more about the topic or can perform better.
I believe one way of achieving more positive outlook is to become good at something. Whether it's academic or sports when we can perform to a degree that we feel competitive we feel better about ourselves. It's when we perceive that we're not up to par when we feel self rightously offended.

Answer 9

Repeat to yourself a few times "These are just vibrations in the air, and are not worth upsetting myself over!" Imagine yourself to be a massive rock at the ocean's edge, being pounded by waves of noise, yet unaffected by them. I would also advise learning how to centre yourself by using relaxation techniques that can be found at: www.relax7.com/7.php and view the blogs of Shan Eris on "tackling depression" at www.myspace.com Select your word or phrase and repeat it over and over (either subvocalising or aloud) when you find yourself reacting adversely in future, and you will reprogram your behaviour before very long. Increase your self esteem by helping others worse off than you, maybe by doing charity work of some kind; then you would belong to an organisation performing worthwhile work, and feel both accepted and valued.

Answer 10

I think that the best way to feel less sensitive is that when you feel offended by someone ..just take it as a joke in your mind and i am very sure you wont feel as bad but feel a sense of achievement as it doesnt affect you as much. *just laugh* in your mind. You know what i mean.