2007-02-01 22:47:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the best age to have a baby is when you and your Husband/partner is ready
2007-02-01 22:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by D 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
a good age? personally I think the time limit on having babies is up until you know there is a good chance you will still be around to see there 18th at least, what I mean is if your still able biologically to conceive at the age of 55 then great but is that best for a baby in the long run?
At 28 there is still plenty of time for you, you haven't had the desire yet but it could still come then again it may not, every body is different and ideally no body should have kids until they are truly ready for them emotionally. You have identified that right now isn't the time for you but maybe someday soon it will be, if the 'time' never seems to come then I think it is good idea to think about a future with no children, does this feel ok to you? do you think you will be able to accept that outcome? some people know that eventually they wan't kids but just not yet, others just don't know either way, think about your life as it is now, are you ok with it continuing along the same kind of path or does the patter of tiny feet sound attractive to you in the future? I think you will know in your heart when the time is right.
2007-02-02 07:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I never wanted children and lived life to the full, travelling socialising etc. I met my partner when I was 30, when I met him it was different and I wanted a baby with him, and when we had a home together and were earning enough to support a baby we had one. We started trying for a baby when I was 33, I got pregnant when I was 34 and had my darling daughter when I was 35. Its hard work but well worth it she is my life! I don't need to go out boozing etc - I have bin there done that and am happy and content with my baby. I love her so much that I sometimes wish I hadn't waited but I am glad I did. She has a home, happy stable parents who love her and can afford to buy her what she needs.
You might never want children of your own or like me you may find that you do when the time is right. There are downsides to waiting of course - fertility drops after 35 I think and it took us over a year to get pregnant and higher risks.
There are so many unwanted babies in the world if you don't want any don't be pressured into having any - its personal choice!
2007-02-06 06:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by lovelylittlemoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when ever you and your partner are ready to have a baby is the right time. I wasn't ready at 28 either. I waited and I am glad I did, but that's just me. Some people, and family members think I am crazy for waiting until I was 34! I am now 35 and have a healthy 6 week baby boy.
2007-02-02 07:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This answer is related to women only - ok.
Science and doctors say women can have healthy kids anytime up until age 35. After that the mom are considered high risk for her eggs becoming damaged. However some babies can be born with problems at any time no matter what age the mother is.
My wife had her first child at age 38. Our son is perfectly fine and healthy. But we wont be having any more. She also had several miscarriages as well.
Men on the other hand can have children at any age - 17 or 70!!
2007-02-02 06:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Granted the biological clock ticks longer than it used to with all the modern techological advances. But I ask you to concider and calculate the end of parenting. Well, now that's not quite right either. You never stop being a Mom. But what I mean is I had my kids at 20 and 23. I was 38 and 41 when they turned 18, graduated high school. Etc. Now my husband had children untill he was 32. We are now 45 with a 13 year old. Looking at being 50 before we're done with child care and can begin the next phase of our lifes. There were plans that I have had to postpone till this child is grown and no longer our responsibility. Plus, being as young as I am gives me lots of time and energy to spoil them grandbabies. Cumilatively we have six children, four his, two mine. But combined we have seven grandchildren. So see, it's a lot to concider. Where do you want to be in 20 years? How would you feel being in your 50's and still rasing your children? How much would you be able to give your grandchildren of you?
2007-02-02 07:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by drivershunnyhunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no specific age to conceive but 28 is certainly not a good age for you if you are not ready. Although doctors say the older you are the harder it may be to get pregnant but that is definitely not a reason to have a baby before you are ready.
2007-02-02 07:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by scorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband are trying to conceive a baby and hopefullly successful, I'm 24, but I've been doing a lot of reading a lot and from what I've read it's good to have a baby before you hit 31. After 31 the child has a more chance of having birth defects or other things wrong. While even an older person can have a child, its best to do it between 24-31 so thats why we are trying now. Hope this helps
2007-02-02 06:54:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that there is a certian age to have a baby, I'm 20 years old and have an 8 month old little girl, it's not like oops it was an accident, I've always known that I wanted kids at a young age just because I didn't want to be too old to enjoy them ya know, but I know people who don't have them until they're in thier 30's so I'd say just wait until you are ready and not a minute sooner.
2007-02-02 06:53:20 · answer #9 · answered by Christy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard from my grandma and mom, aunt and sisters, friends and family saying that over 30 is more difficult. your body changed after you are over 30. over 40, the worse. Even hard to conceive and not easy to give birth.
I think 28 is a right time if you are able to have a baby financially.
My cousin sister had a baby when she was 19 and she looks very young even now. she has 2 kids and she doesn't look like mother of 2 kids. My uncle's wife got pregnant when she was 40 and now she is 46. she looks older i think. it depends on your stress level as well. However, your body changes after you are over 30 and 40. so that it's better if you have babies in 20s.
2007-02-02 06:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know when the right time is. You will feel it. I'm 19 and have a 8 month. I wanted a family of my own at a young age. I have everything i want and me and my partner are actually trying for our second. Some people want to see the world. Do everything in life they ever dreamt of before settling down and having children. Kids are a big commitment so you have to be sure
2007-02-06 05:03:23 · answer #11 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋