i'm also a virgin too... it's being a long struggle and i'm just not sure hiding in coursework and work please please give me some help!!
2007-02-01 22:41:35 · 19 answers · asked by gavster88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The truth of the matter is.... you are you!
why rush to put a label on your self?
You have not had sex yet and there is no hurry to have sex with the first person that comes along, you will know when the time is right if you want to give your self to another person or not, it happens to most people at one point or another in there life, we all wonder about the opposit sex, it's natural, give your hormones a chance to settle down, enjoy school, and most of all enjoy being you.
*hugs*
2007-02-01 22:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this a problem?
You say you're 18; you can do anything you like within some pretty broad limits. Relax, go to a few social events. I don't know what kind of person you are; maybe you want to go dancing, maybe you want to go drinking, maybe you want to go to the library -- a great pick-up zone. Hang out with people you like and be open. Sooner or later, somebody will ask you to come home. If you get a good feeling, do it. *Use protection!*
Even if you are straight, it will not do you any damage to have sex with somebody of your own gender; the reverse is also true: Gay men's weenies will not drop off because they have sex with a woman. You may decide you like it, you may decide you don't.
These are very progressive times and you can pretty much do anything you please, openly, in any major city. If you live in a small town, you may wish to take a short trip before experimenting.
Don't get heavily involved with anybody, no matter how friendly, beautiful, or wealthy. Have fun, get grossed out if you want, get passionate, but go home when it's over. It may take you a few years to decide what you like -- and you may look for decades before you find that one special somebody.
If it's any consolation: If you *are* gay, there is probably nothing at all you can do about it except to find a boyfriend and deal with it -- or make yourself miserable. Look on the bright side: These days, if some idiot harasses you, you can sue.
2007-02-01 22:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Xiong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a virgin, you are basically none of the above. Until you get into experiencing sex, and begin to understand your sexual preferences you will not know what exactly you are where it pertains to sexual orientation.
Given you are only 18 and a virgin, you ought to be praised as you are one of those rare individuals who've not yet strayed into the rhelm of sexual activity.
I was a virgin until i was 19, and have experienced just about everything in my lifetime. You'll figure it out soon enough, don't be afraid to explore your desires.
2007-02-01 22:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and only you know your sexual orientation. Stating that your a virgin has nothing to do with your sexual orientation.
Maybe you should venture out a little more and see what the world out there is like---Hiding behind your studies and being so absorbed in studies is not healthy. Make some friends and enjoy like and find yourself!
2007-02-01 22:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what are you attracted to? Which one would you see wanting to get close to? It will come to you. I know you want easy answers. But there are none. Some people are one way and curious about going the other way. Some are confused like you and go both ways. Some are one way but unsure about it, becasue they had an encounter with someone when they were young. Sometimes you just have to try both to see which one. You'll know then. As you grow your tastes will change so be patient with yourself. I wish you well and hope you get the answers you need on your own soon.
2007-02-01 22:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what labels other people give you. You either are or are not attracted to certain individuals and there isn't much you can do about it ( unless you want to be repressed and miserable ). Only bigots and idiots condemn people for who they choose to sleep with.
Stop trying to pigeonhole your sexuality, relax and enjoy it. As long as you are not hurting or misleading people you can do whatever feels right.
2007-02-01 22:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by penny century 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak from experience, but I never questioned my sexuality.
I also was not a virgin at 18, so that may be playing a factor in your confusion.
2007-02-01 22:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by im_friggin_sleepy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with straight if thats good for you add in gayfor twice the dates.. get out there and find some friends..its to easy to get buried in work or school...sometimes living life if work. but u will be happy when u meet someone. oh what a feeling...
2007-02-01 22:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the opportunity to experiment with both (without ruining your reputation) You will be able to tell which on your most comfortable with. It's normal to fantasize about both, but with some experience, you'll find a place. The question is, who do you love? (Please always use condoms)
2007-02-01 22:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Baw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you weren't straight you wouldn't be asking this question, sexuality comes from deep within, you must be frustrated as may be you haven't got the right partner till now, stop listening to what others think , you are who you make youself, go out and get them tiger! ( i mean get a partner whom you like).
2007-02-01 22:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋