i have been best friend with this girl for 6 years, we travel and had alot of fun, but 1 year ago we had an argument it was pretty ugly, i've lost my trust on her (she backstabbed me to someone). Even now we try to stay friends by emailing, we are also avoiding meeting each other. because she is very secretive about her life, i try to be the same, we all try to give minimum information about ourselves to each other, also when i email her i sometime worry if she will even bother to reply, she can be really 'busy'.Things are just not the same anymore, should i move on or should i stay ? all i am thinking about is how much a secretive person she is and how much information should i release about myslef to her so i won't lose out, is this normal?
2007-02-01 22:12:11 · 15 answers · asked by tostosh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You two have gone from being good friends to being associates. It happens sometimes, but he feelings you have appear to be mutual.
since there was a break in trust and it seems unrepairable, just consider that you are not life long associates. I think that you do not even have to say anything because the two of you have an unspoken language as neither of you are sharing personal information now.
It is ok. This happens sometimes-live and learn ok.
2007-02-01 22:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End the friendship, I feel strongly. I was just reading an article from a motivational speaker the other day about how we should occasionally "spring clean" our realtionships and get rid of the ones that bring us down with negativity, and it really hit home with me. Don't keep people in your life who disrespect you and treat you badly. You deserve better than that.
2007-02-01 22:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well.....reading your question i feel that you still miss your old friend. you want her back. you want the have the same friendship with her as you had earlier. this is what your heart is speaking to you... and i say follow what your heart says.
"should i move on or should i stay?" move on. this is what your heart answers you. you are thinking over this situation so much means that you really want to move on. you have the answer buddy.
2007-02-02 00:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by goje87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. She might not have been your best friend at all if she stabbed you at the back to someone. If you only want to keep touch with her its your wish. If you want to end it u can. But first listen to your heart before taking a further step
2007-02-02 00:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by musicinme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
real friends shouldn't doubt their friendship after a fight.
maybe you might not be as close to be "best friend" but you can still remain friends.
i have some friends i havent met for ages, but that doesn't mean we're not friends.
everyone has secrets, it's being nosy if you want to know everything about her life.
just follow what you think
2007-02-01 22:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by christine c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you get your mate and sit her down and talk to her and tell her how you feel yes its unpair she has backstabbed you and its not fair if she doesnt come out with a good reason why then tell her you dont want to be mates but in a nice way you need to talk to your friends and tell her that you have lost your trust in her and need to build it up again to bebable to trust her not to do it again
2007-02-01 22:17:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is sad to hear. try one last time to remedy your problem with her. maybe invite her for dinner or lunch. then after eating, just make your conversation light. maybe its just pride. but after this if your friendship hasnt improved and didnt move on as expected, then maybe its about time to let go...move on alone. atleast you have done your best. sh must be lucky to have a sensitive and forgiving friend like you.
2007-02-01 22:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot communicate and trust one another, then your friendship has sadly already ended. Let go of that which no longer serves you. If it is meant to be, it will all work out for the best!
2007-02-01 22:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they say give all to whom is willing to do the same and vice-versa.if she isn't willing to share,don't.it's really bad to trust someone with all you heart cos when you get broken hearted,some times,you're bound to loose your mind.
forget about her.there's alot to live for in life,just move on.someone special will soon fill her space only if you open up your heart.
2007-02-01 22:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by mailsberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication is key and it doesnt sound liek u have that. You will have more fun with a different best friend who you can trust and sahre your life with. it is time to move on
2007-02-01 23:45:46 · answer #10 · answered by bella_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋