I've been with my gf for 12 months now,She graduated High School in November,she has a job,I have a job,I'll be 20 in september,she'll be 20 in November...We're both sure about this decision,she wants to move in and I want her to move in..The Problem of course,her parents,They're treating her like she's 12,I know BY LAW,they can't hold her,but they don't care,they think they can control her forever,her dad is the redneck-type and is emphatically saying NO..My GF has talked to her mom about it,she says that she can move out (even though she doesn't need permission,we're trying to do it the formal way) but when it comes time,she goes all crazy on us,I think the dad's influence is what's stopping everything here...Seriously,what can we do? Can I get a court order or something similar stating that they cannot interfere??? Believe me when I say,this won't happen in a formal manner,they have no respect for our wishes...Thanks in Advance for any help....the more info the better.
2007-02-01 22:10:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
you don't understand,they are literally not allowing her to move out,if she picked her things up and left,they would stop her in her tracks...Besides,they treat her in a real shitty way,the dad is insane,the mom is a drunk,she hates it there,this whole "ruin relationship" thing isn't even an issue,they're assholes,period.
2007-02-01 22:17:47 · update #1
The bad thing is they know where i live,we tried to do this last August,she said she was going to spend the night at my house,her mom and dad came to my house and literally entered without consent,I think the dad is really the issue,the mom is probably just afraid of his actions...I wont hesitate to fight the dad if he ever got in my face,But I know that's not the way to treat this matter,but thanks for all the good responses.
2007-02-01 22:38:26 · update #2
Legally your girlfriend can move out any time she wishes.
It does not sound like her parents are overly concerned with her legal rights.
The parents are, most likely, going to make moving out Hell for her, including the moving day.
I would not be surprised if they destroy some of her belongings before she can get out BUT she can get out.
Call the police before moving day and arrange a time when an officer or two can be there at her house. Trust me, if a police officer is present the parents are not going to try to physically impede her or interfere with the move.
Do not even attempt the move without police present.
And yes, this is not an uncommon thing for them to be asked to do.
If you are concerned with any violence or harrassment from them after the move, have her, and you, take out a restraining order. You cannot do this while she lives with them.
2007-02-01 22:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The parents both work right? You GF should take that opportunity when both of her controlling parents are gone to move her clothing and personal belongings out. This doesn't mean furniture! If your GF is going to be on her own she'll have to leave big items like furniture behind. Personal belongings will include pictures, bathroom items, scrapbooks, anything that isn't furniture and her clothing. You'll need to help her.
Tell her when she leaves NOT to inform her parents where she is going. Your GF is co-dependant on their control that's why she insists on telling them everything. She is 19. Her parents can-not do a thing about it once she leaves.
Keep in mind there are consequences behind her moving out---she may become estranged from her parents for a time and if the relationship you and she has doesn't work out she'll more than likely not have a place to go back to.
If her father does find out where you both are living----and is threatening in any way---you may need to file and OOP (order of Protection) with your local police or sherriffs office.
Good luck----Make wise planning on this escape ---because if you don't the move will never happen.. Silence---planning ---no information is to be leaked to anyone including your parents. Just MOVE her out and that's that!
2007-02-01 22:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend makes the move, then go to the local PD and get a restraining order against her dad/mom-whichever and explain why you need it---------if it is due to the fact he is abusive and controlling then there shouldnt be any problems getting one; if it is "just beacuse" he says no it wont happen. She is old enough to move out, so I wouldnt let his ways stop her if this is what she really wants.
2007-02-01 22:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally she can do what she wants, she doesn't need a court order. You can't get a court order yourself, she would have to do it. Please think about what that would do to her relationship with her parents. Yes, at some point she will have to make the break, and all families go through it, some easier than others. Her dad is "losing" his little girl. Give him time, he'll come around.
2007-02-01 22:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Obvious! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tens of millions of single women human beings stay on my own with out being married, so brush aside their non secular reactionary education. save up stressful and flow out ASAP - your mom and dad are putting their own unhappy morals until now their daughter's happiness - basically go away ASAP. besides the fact which you do, flow waiting. the final element you want to do is flow decrease back which includes your tail between your legs.
2016-11-02 03:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to secretly pack important things and just leave with out them knowing. Then if she wants the rest of her things take a police officer with her to see if they will willingly get it to her. If not she will have to take them to court. I know someone who's going through the same thing. Hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-01 22:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by smoothsophie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she really wants to move out she could call the police have them go over there with her until she gets her things but it's all on her
2007-02-01 22:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I t appears they were hoping she would get married. That way they would not end up with a new family to raise
2007-02-01 22:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by Ibredd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her parents are just worried about her safety. They just aren't confident enough for her daughter to be living outside of home with someone else....Well, I guess u just to persuade her parents that she will be in good hands =)
2007-02-01 22:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by snowynite19 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Legally, they can't make her stay. However, she shouldn't want to damage her relationship with them. It can take years, if she's lucky, to repair any damage. I've been there.
2007-02-01 22:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋