What do u do if Your a really SHY PERSON?

Question

How do u make frends, talk in front of groups etc.?

Answer 1

I used to be a very very very shy person. When I looked someone in the eye, my head would shake. I couldn't easily make new friends because I could hardly talk with anyone. It was a terrible situation. I felt bad about it all the time, but there didn't seem to be anything I could do about it.

One day, I said to myself, "Enough is enough!" I had to do something about it.

My approach will not be the same as yours, but you can probably use the same logic. I can't describe how bad I felt, and there didn't seem to be any other way. I went out every night thereafter and drank. I drank until I had lost my inhibitions and could talk with people. I talked with everyone I could.

The next day, I always felt tired and found it hard to work, but I would remember that the night before, I had talked with a lot of people. Gradually, I recalled many times when I had talked with people. I tried to keep this in mind all the time. One success led to another. Gradually, I was able to talk with people not only when drinking but at other times as well. And now, I am completely cured.

It was not until years later that I read about hypnotism and realized that what I had done was to hypnotize myself. Hypnotism works on the principle that the subconscious must change. The subconscious viewed myself as shy, and therefore I was shy. When I was able to change my subconscious view of myself, I was able to get over my shyness. And it hasn't returned.

I hope this helps. I know very well how hard it can be to be shy. Find a way to change the image of yourself. Find a way to meet people and then remember that experience. And duplicate it. And do it again and again until you realize that you can be outgoing. You don't have to be shy.

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Answer 2

if you have a friend already you can meet people through him/her. I met a lot of friends through other friends and their friends and there friends...etc. You can also try meeting people by going somewhere were people might have the same interest as you, ie the gym, bookstore, hobbies...etc. and if you dont like talking in front of groups, it just takes practice. The more you talk the more you will eventually feel less shy about it. I was shy for a long time and still am in a degree. But going through college has tought me a lot, classes that made me talk, have helped overcome fear of talking to others. It helps to be nice to people when you first interact with them. use a smile and be polite and say hi and goodbye. start off with chit chat and when something comes up you may find yourself talking to a new friend. hope this helps.

Answer 3

Learn about who you are- what are your best qualities? Maybe one of the things that's great about you is that you're a really good listener, or you're good at making people feel welcome, or you're really thoughtful. See the wonderful strengths in yourself and learn to affirm yourself daily.

Don't see shyness as a bad thing, just accept it as part of who you are right now, and that is totally all right!!!

Remember to focus on the positive and let the negative go.

I suggest practicing a few small talk questions that you can use with almost anyone, then you just have to learn to let the conversation flow. Most people respond well to kindness and to someone who seems sincerely interested in them. Think of questions you can ask - Where are you from? What grade are you in school? What are you studying? What teachers do you have? What's your favorite thing to do when you're not in school? What kind of music do you listen to? Who's your favorite band? What's your favorite song? etc... The list goes on and on and on. As you get someone talking about themselves, you may find yourself more comfortable answering their questions about you and thus a real conversation happens and voila! you've made a new friend.

Talking in front of groups - Depends on what your aim is. Learn to appreciate the beauty of who you are and accept yourself - this will make all of your interaction with other people a better, more positive experience! Once you accept yourself, you free other people to be who they are, without judgment, without expectation. As you are in front of a group of people trying to tell a story or give a speech, remind yourself of the positive qualities of the people in front of you - whether it's So and so has blue eyes that are really pretty or Such and such seems like a really nice person - that will keep you engaged with/in your audience and also help you distract yourself from being so shy!

There are many kind, wonderful, caring people in the world, just open yourself up to new experiences and claim a new reality for yourself! You may want to think of yourself as an actress and when you first meet strangers or you're in an uncomfortable situation because of your shyness, think of whoever your favorite actress is and try to become like her and act like she would in that situation!

Blessings to you!

Answer 4

hey i am a very shy person in front of lots of diffren kinds of people and the way i get friends that i just talk to them and get to no them and will get to no you and after a while you wont be that shy and you willl start talking to groups and people of your age ;hope this helps;

Answer 5

When making friends just start a conversation with a topic anyone would have an opinion about. And when making speeches, just focus on your words and remember these are just people and it will be over with soon. Channel your inner strength and you will be fine.

Answer 6

well, frinky, start not being shy, go to the hair dressers, get a hot new do and make your self look unrecognisable colour, style, wax your eye brows ect. just to make you realise your potential, then realise the confidence was always in you but feeling sexy and beautiful makes it a hell of alot easier, it worked for me! good luck

Answer 7

well people are shy because they are afraid what the group or the people around him /her will think of them if they say or do something a lil silly or stupid or make a mistake. well remember this be your self don't worrie if you make a mistake your only human and not perfact!

Answer 8

most probably hide a lot of things from others, i'm just imagining, i'm not a shy person actually. my list only proves that, i have around 80 friends in my list, 750+ in my hi5 profile and 80+ in myspace profile!!!

Answer 9

Try toastmasters or taking drama classes, this is what I did to gain more confidence and make friends, this also helps you with any public speaking.

Answer 10

if u r hot......then it wont be hard......if u r normal..... get 1 or 2 friends.......wen u do.... u gonna turn into a tlkative!!