I feel I have given so much in past years that since I don't have anything in return I have given up. I hate the way I have become but I jut feel what is the point.
2007-02-01 21:08:49 · 24 answers · asked by KANGA 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your expectation is real & just but don't expect much.
2007-02-01 21:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be right . But is it really true that u have got nothing back ? Ask yourself positively what good things you have received back ,and you may not feel the way u are feeling. Life is always about giving and no one can run away from it , what you receive back is immaterial if you start feeling the happiness that lies in giving.
Warmth and love are all there, you have to start feeling it and appreciating it.
Remember that Life is beautiful if you don,t expect too much from it and whatever comes to you is bonus. Once you start expecting whatever wealth you have is not enough and you feel like a poor man.
Start feeling warmth and love around you and you will never start expecting it and start feeling wrong for expecting it.
2007-02-01 21:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by sanson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kanga,
I feel just the same, as if all I do is in vain. All the women I meet crap all over me and play stupid games, I think that women are not emotionally capable of love and affection and only want to shop and give vent to the nastier side of themselves as some sort of "theraputic" catharsis. I try not to be bitter, but it is an uphill struggle. I wish you luck and may you find stability in a tumulturous world.
2007-02-02 01:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving is all about giving things but not expecting things back. You are sayin like u have given much, but no man says this if he/she is really in love. Don't go other way b'coz love is not a simple word, like many saying i'm in love. Its very hard to love somebody. Love is something to loose ur'self for some body for wt all he is or for wt ever he is. Probably it sounds n it is immpractical. But u can be practical. Think twice for one step, b'coz any thing will come back but love doesnt.
2007-02-01 22:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by bindu m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not. The main problem with people 'looking for love' is precisely that, they are looking. Just chill out and what will be will be, you'll find as soon as your not obsessing about it that something will turn up. Just make new ground rules for yourself of what you want in a relationship, don't put up with anything less. You'll find that once you know what you want and aren't obsessing about it that you'll be more confident and happy as a person, people will probably find you more attractive and want to woo you.
Know what you want and don't accept any less!
2007-02-01 21:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by jarf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships should be reciprocal, if you are indeed in love you should receive more than what you put in.
You deserve happiness, maybe you should discuss your feelings with your partner and if nothing changes then find someone who will love you the way you will love them.
All the best.
2007-02-02 02:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Craig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the same for me. Our expectations can and often do fail us so wouldn't it be good if we didn't have any expectations. It happens but it takes experiences like yours which kind of stinks. Life is a beatch.
2007-02-01 21:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find someone that will give back instead of you draining yourself just to woo or keep someone's attention. Hmm this is listed in the marriage and divorce i just realized... talk to him about how you feel. If he wants to save the relationship then he will try to work with you. If not its time to start talking about finding someone else that will make you happy.
2007-02-01 21:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is definitely a give and take(nurture and receiving nurture) bank. You need to make enough deposits to be able to withdraw. Esp mom's need lots of deposits into their banks so they can effectively withdraw for their little ones. Also one needs to not always rely on others to deposit You may need to deposit into your own by taking care of yourself-making it clear that you intend to spend time and effort into your own life regardless of others actions.That could mean making time for a doctor visit, exercise, paying attention to your nutrition etc. Also evaluating your perosnal goals and taking action-spiritually,career wise/social circle wise etc. Taking charge of your life by re-evaluating what is helpful and positive and adding more of that and eliminating negatives-such as unhealthy arguing/nagging others to do things/people pleasing activites/enabling....time wasting like TV watching/excess talking on phonewhatever. Others in your life will then respect you more and see you are a person in your own right and a quality person not easily had or used.
2007-02-01 21:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by FoudaFaFa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was always raise to believe that good things tend 2 happen 2 good people, it takes time but good things will come.
2007-02-02 03:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It simply means you're an optimist. And luck tends to follow an optimist. So keep up the good work - and the good fortunes will surely follow! x
2007-02-01 21:14:14 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋