He supports her in everything, fincacial accomodation, finding her jobs and also spends time with her.
He is my husband but never spends that much time with me however much I plead.
When confronted he says he his going to stop seeing her and it was just a misunderstanding.
However he has not stopped and he keeps lying to me.
The girl belives he loves her and is cliaming for more time.
We have a son but he is not spending enough time with us.
Could my marriage be over, it is only been three years.
2007-02-01 21:07:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that he is in denied concerning you as well as the other girl
your husband have the need to be a hero
and this girl need him that is the reason while you probably not a needy person
and as soon as this girl stop been so needy he will move on
So sit the man down and get him to be honest
but you also need to be honest with yourself do you want him back because this man got the needy syndrom if it is not htis girl it will be another one
poor man wants to be someone hero what he doesn't understand that he needs to be his son's hero
Tell him that
Good luck
2007-02-01 21:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dearheart, this definitely does not sound good. It sounds like your husband is putting much more time and effort into this other woman than he does with you or his family. You should not have to "plead" to spend time with your husband, that should be given to you automatically, seeing that you're his wife.
If you've discussed this issue with him and he still continues to do this, then I'm wondering how commited to the marriage he really is. If he has given his word that he would cease doing this, but still continues to do so, that tells me alot about him. I certainly question his honesty.
If this woman claims that your husband is in "love" with her, then obviously this is not a "friend helping a friend" type of situation, but probably much more.
I'm not going to say that your marriage is doomed, because I can only base my answer on what information you've given me. But I can say that there is dishonesty going on, and possibly something more going on than should be. I would seriously re-consider the marriage. And if you're not satisfied that this woman is out of your ( and his ) life forever, then you might want to begin making some choices.
Best wishes to you.
2007-02-01 21:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by C J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband actually loves the woman he's spending time with, taking care of, and doing things for. And that ain't you! Sadly, your marriage is over and he's choosing this other woman over you and your child. He's a sick person and is only using you. Eventually he's going to get up enough nerve to leave you for this bimbo and then where will you be? Get an attorney and kick his sorry behind to the curb. You deserve better than this!
2007-02-02 08:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... you need to stop pleading and draw a line in the sand...in other words you have to tell him that enough is enough. He either cuts all ties with her (especially if they have no children together) or your marriage is over.
I'm afraid if he cant put you 1st then something is very very wrong. You need to be strong. If he does still have feelings for her...then you need to move on.
You deserve better than to be second best.
2007-02-01 21:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Could my marriage be over?" YES I wold think so. Why would you want to be with a man who has clearly disrespected you? If she loves him so much then pack his bags and take them over to her place and let her know that he will now be living there. He broke your wedding vows and you still want him? What makes you think he will not do it again after this one? Good luck
2007-02-01 22:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems so.... But try marriage counseling for you and your marriage and it he is not open to this and wants out then leave and fild for divorce... Talk with him and ask him if he wants you and his son or if he wants the other person.
2007-02-01 21:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his actions speak louder than his promises, he won't be able to be with two at the same time, as she is giving ultimatums, looks as if he has made his choice and nothing else matters.
2007-02-01 23:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like he has decided and not in your favor.
2007-02-01 21:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A GOOD ATTORNEY AND TAKE HIM TO THE CLEANERS!
2007-02-01 21:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by not chey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can live in that? I would leave.
2007-02-01 21:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋