I'm crazy about this guy. I'm always there during their football practice and I can't get him off my mind. What do I do?
2007-02-01 20:46:18 · 16 answers · asked by David Koehl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all - everyone (gay or not) has had crushes in our lives. Unfortunately for some people you throw the word gay in the picture and they freak out. So I am answering your question in a way you would ask a heterosexual person. You are not abnormal.
Crushes are wonderful especially if we are young. You can imagine a whole relationship with a person without risking your heart.
Ask yourself the following questions? Does the person seem to like you? Does the person seem to be friendly? Does the person like to put down others? Does the person like to play pranks on others? How would you feel if this person turns down your request for the date and told everyone?
If you can live with the results of any of these questions, go ask the boy out. If not, I would fondly remember the feelings you have now. Eventually you will find Mr. Right.
Good luck to you
2007-02-01 22:24:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
With you being in high school it's going to be a lot tougher for you to tell him how you feel.
First though you need to find out if he's even interested in guys, if he's not then it'll make things a lot tougher. He might be alright with it and feel flattered or you will be outed before you get to school the next day.
Unfortunately if you don't want to be outed, even to a couple people, there really isn't a very good way to let him know how you feel. What you could do is send him an E-mail from a different account and letting him know that a guy likes him and depending on how he responds you can then let him know who you are, but you need to be careful. You're going to be tricky doing this but he can also be as tricky and lead you on just so he can laugh at your expense later.
What you ultimately decide is your choice but you need to think through what could happen.
With that being said I wish you the best of luck and hope he understands regardless and either becomes a friend or a special someone in your life.
2007-02-01 20:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jaymie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is a FOOTBALL player and a SENIOR. You are a CLOSETED gay. Mixed all these together, you are asking for hell. Chances of him to fulfill your fantasies is a million to one. If you want to pursue him, expect bullying from the football team and probably the entire school who will then know you are gay! You know how kids are in high school. They can be so mean and cruel. You have better chances of living a more or less normal gay life in college. For now, all I can suggest is masturbate and check out gay porn sites online.... If you are bored go online and chat with other gay people.
2007-02-02 00:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by PAXson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you probably don't want to hear this from a straight Christian female, but I'm going to tell you anyway, as gently as I can. Whether you are a closeted gay or not, you need to consider that if the object of your affection is perhaps straight, and you let him know somehow how you are feeling about him, you are opening yourself up to be hurt terribly when he or perhaps his friends, object to your feelings. I don't know if this guy is a senior in high school or college, but either way, guys this age are dealing with their own feelings of wanting to be cool, wanting to be perceived as macho/masculine etc., and unless you know without a doubt that you would be safe in telling this guy how you feel, you should keep quiet about it. If he is straight, he could very well punch you or worse, because straight guys really don't like it when gay guys show an interest in them. If he is gay, he might not be out of the closet himself, but if he is, he still may have his own struggles with being accepted at school because he is gay. I would suggest that you just focus on being his friend and nothing more. You will find out this way whether he is gay or straight, and at the very least, you will have a friend. If it turns out that he is straight, then you won't be able to have a romantic relationship with him, but you will have gained a friend who can help stick up for you if others at school persecute you when you do decide to come out of the closet. Just my own humble opinion. Take care.
2007-02-01 20:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Hmm, well... the guy is probably not gay. Even if he is, he might not be ready to come out yet, and/or might not be interested in going out with you.
So I wouldn't risk seeking him out. The first step is to come out of the closet. To do that you should try to prepare your close ones, family and friends. Then eventually you have just got to do it. Try to find out what all your family and friends really think about gays. You may be surprised to find that they support gays. Or you might be disappointed by what you find. Nonetheless, I would want to find out.
You can maybe bring something up. Example "there's this gay guy at school. I don't know what to think of him." Your parents will probably take that opportunity to say what they think of gays.
Oh and don't listen to all the people here that say being gay is wrong. This question just attracts those sort of people. Most people don't have anything against gays, and they shouldn't.
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2016-12-16 19:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready to come out (which is completely ok), you pretty much just get to watch from a safe distance. That's really all you can do that's completely safe.
2007-02-01 21:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Atropis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he plays football?, stay in the closet. guys are very secure about their masculinity. if you tell him you like him, and he is straight, him and his friends will prob come after you to prove a point. be safe and just stick to your fantasies. also you dont want to force him to become gay if he's straight, you would want someone to change you
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2007-02-02 01:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
whatever u like, i suggest you at least talk to him, i had a crush on a girl at least 2 years above me in school, i was there 5 years and never spoke to her ever, i wish i had, she was smart good lokking everything, she never had a boyfriend that i saw or heard about, so i wasted a chance, so what if you embaras yourself, i wish id at least tried.
2007-02-01 21:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋