It was 1978 when I met him....I was not allowed to date and he was alittle older....he graduated went to college..he would come home we always hooked and not in that way...just best friends threw and threw.....I got married, not to him, he got married not me, we were living our lives..for about ten years....I kept in touch with his brother just so I knew he was ok ..trying not to bother his marriage...he got divorved and we started talking again...thanks to the brother...wink...any ways I came to visit him and sparks all over again...any ways..I was not ready for a move in as he was not either. we were just once again being best of friends...I met this other guy got pregnant...ooopppssss..not mistake, just ooopps...any ways I could not out of my own selfishness punish the father of my baby so we have been togther now 11 years....my friend went and got married again and now once again I,am helping him threw a trying time...we have known each other for so long and it is hard loving him
2007-02-01 20:22:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you can't help who you fall in love with. it just happens. no one deserves to be in love with someone and not be able to express it. and your husband doesn't deserve to lay down next to someone who is in love someone else. there shouldn't be any other love that compares with the love that you have for him. if this is something that has been with you since 1978, i think its time to really try it. both you and your husband deserve it. BUT ONLY once you and your husband have seperated or divorced. hopes this helps...
2007-02-01 21:10:04 · answer #1 · answered by KTAC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that both of you have lives that are bonded. If YOUR husband is satisfied with you and trusts you then you should have no problem with having this other person that was a love as a friend.
Mr 1978 may be a good friend and a soul mate. And as everyone knows soul mates sometimes do not end up together on this earth but have deep feelings for each other. Why break the communication.
Now as for YOU. It seems that YOU have an internal problem with this relationship with mr 1978.
Ask these questions to yourself:
Is your current husband there for you?
Does your husband give you satisfaction?
Do you see yourself growing old with your husband?
Does your husband trust you?
LAST Question:
Does your husband forsake ALL else in this world to provide for you and his child?
If the ANSWER is YES to the LAST question then you have found a GREAT and LOVEING MAN.
If the answers to the other questions are yes then you found a life long partner.
Sometimes LOVE comes in the form of companionship.
The grass is not greener on the other side.
Mr 1978 has already had 2 chances at love.
NOW, If mr 1978 is asking you to leave your husband then that is NOT something that he should be doing.
Break off the friendship.
YOU need to be faithful and devote yourself to your husband and give him the love that he deserves. You will be happier with no regrets.
Seek professional counseling if you are still confused.
2007-02-01 20:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married. Quit playing with fire. This man doesn't need you to help him through his trying time. He can find others. Tend to your family and let this person go on with his life.
2007-02-01 20:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by itry007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo yo yo check it i had this problem once where i was wonderin if this girl liked me or not u no what im sayin so i axed her oneday yo u feelin me or what yo
peace out 1 luv
2007-02-01 20:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. It sounds complicated but love can get complicated i know that.
What kind of trying time? does he want to leave his current wife?
I think it is very difficult that you continue to subject your heart and mind through the emotions that come wth loving one and being dutyful to another one. I know its hard when a child is involved.
Who do you love more?
If you dont get along with your child's dad try to go to counseling with him. or if he doesnt with you.
I think you should ..ohhh myy what can I say?
If you love him ask him if he would go back to you faithfully and accept your chld?
Or do you love your husband at all?
Sometimes staying wit aman for the child's sake can ruin a ewoman's life.
I studied it in human behavior. Children move on, they do adapt to situations, but some do resent all.
My daughter gives me the cold shoulder till today because even though i am with her dad, and she now got married , she never forgets that i left her dad for some time. She can be very nasty to me. On her wedding she excluded me from everything even though I did much for that wedding , paid for it, chose the nice place for it, I didnt even get a portrait because she discarded me. Millions of photos of her and her dad, but not with me. IT IS HEART WRENCHING.
My heart is broken permanently. Now her husband told me to not contact them. And Im going to be a grandma at age 44. Not fair.
But all these came from having left her dad.
Men can come and go. But our chldren dont.
Think ofyour child too. What is it you want? your child to be there for you later on? or a man who is not your husband and keeps tugging your heart to no formality?
Only you can make your mind up. But do read well what I am telling you. Though children can move on, some dont. Mine didnt. And she has been horrid to me and I adore her so I just have to put up with all her insults , disdain, immaturity and nastyness towards me. BUT I AM HOPING THAT WHEN MY GRANDSON IN APRIL IS BORN, SHE REALIZE WHAT A MOTHER SACRIFICES FOR HER CHLDREN AND SHE COMES BACK TO MY ARMS.
I will pray for you. Its so sad. CHIN UP..PRAY..AND if you want your child...maybe you should forget the other man.
but its all up to you. WE can all give you examples, but only you can make the decision based on what you know. We dont know behind the closed door what s going on. Only you.
my heart goes out to you.
with love
a friend.
2007-02-01 20:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just remember third times a charm
2007-02-01 20:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by marfanman00000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on.
2007-02-01 20:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by ZORG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone sometimes it doesn't work out the way you want we can't have everything we want in life
2007-02-01 20:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by mickylee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to see a psychologist
2007-02-01 20:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Edrew c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question?
2007-02-01 20:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋