Well here is my problem. My husband and I are madly in love with each other and agree on just about everything except when it comes to our daughter. It seems like everything I do he has to run and ask his mother if I have done it right. And of course if it is not how she would have do it so itis wrong. Then that starts an agrument between us and one of us usually my husbands ends up on the couch for the night. And also here is the real kicker everything that my mother mentions he just blows out of proportion about and says he knows what he is doing and he can take care of his child! Like I had nothing to do with it. What I am asking is when is it ok to put my foot down and when do I need to back off?
2007-02-01 19:59:03 · 8 answers · asked by Mudduck 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Sounds to me like it's time to put your foot down and explain to him what you've just so clearly explained to me. (And yes, I am a father of 2 small ones, aged 1 and 3)
2007-02-01 20:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by Shane M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In laws cannot run your life its is a unhealthy mix! You and your husband need to take responsibility for raising your child WITHOUT the influence by your mother or his mother. If you have a serious issue which you and your partner cannot resolve that is when you seek further advice from outsiders. Until that day the raising of your daughter should be solely you and your husbands decision and outside influences need to be spoken to as soon as possible as it is causing conflict in your marriage.
2007-02-02 04:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by race_shift_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the advice to get a book. However, don't just get a book. Get a lot of books, do internet research (at reputable places), and talk to your doctor. Find your way together and don't turn it into a battle of the mother in laws.
Some old advice is just wrong now and just because your or his mother raised a couple of kids doesn't mean they are giving you good current advice.
2007-02-02 04:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Freya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are her mother and he is her father and you need to learn together and make decisions regarding your daughter together....without the help of the inlaws....unless you really need it (which you rarely do)
2007-02-02 04:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl. I have the same problem. When you get a really good answer let me know.
2007-02-02 04:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a good child care book and agree not to take any parental help, you are parents, act like it.
2007-02-02 04:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well........everything isnt perfect.
Also, marriages aren;t perfect.
Ppl gotta forgive in a family..^_^
2007-02-02 04:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by Romeo (The Original) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think mommyofboys view looks ok
2007-02-02 05:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by david j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋