2007-02-01 19:39:19 · 16 answers · asked by Brandy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Usually they say friends should not date exes of their friends.
But since she already said yes, I would say you stay out of it, because if you try to meddle they will think you are jealous and still got the hots for your ex.
2007-02-01 19:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by RIZZO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first instinct is to tell you to ask out his best friend but unless you are really interested in the guy, that would be silly and unfair. Your reaction depends on the circumstances. In an ideal world, your friend would have "asked your permission." This is not an ideal world and the human sex drive is a powerful force to be reckoned with. Cut the girl some slack. You were done with him, right? On the other hand, if she was actively pursuing him when you were still with him, find a new friend. The universe has something better in store for you. If your friend and your former b.f. can make each other happy, let them have some happiness. In the meantime, the universe can always use a hand:Try to change one of your regular patterns, while remaining in keeping with your personality, join a school club, register for martial arts lessons, etc.) so someone new may cross your path. Hard to imagine now but once there's someone new, your former b.f. will lose all significance.
Best Wishes. I'd like to know how it turns out.
T.
2007-02-01 20:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ditch them both as neither has any respect for your feelings. A true female friend would never, ever date your ex, even if you have been broken up for years, without asking if it is ok with you. To do so without asking, she has broken the unwritten rule of girl friendship and she is no longer your friend.
His motives might be just to make you jealous by pitting your best friend against you, which shows all the more the reason not to date him as is is a manipulative guy that will go to any lengths to pull your heartstrings to his benefit; not because he truly cares for you but to massage his own ego and keep it intact to make him feel better about himself the dysfuntional choices he is making.
2007-02-01 19:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your EX. It's her choice now. The question is, will it affect your relationship with your best friend if she said yes to him. If it does, you got to work it out in your mind to keep her or move on to find more friends.
2007-02-01 19:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by happykat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl is violation Girl Rule #1.
Don't date your friend's ex's!
Girl Rule #2 is
Don't date your Ex's friends!
2007-02-01 19:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butt out, mind your own business, let them mind theirs. Find someone else to date - you should focus on finding happiness for yourself, not on preventing happiness for others.
This is your ex, we're talking about, right? He's not your current boyfriend. It's not your place to say who he may or may not date.
2007-02-01 19:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then she isnt your friend!! real friends never date friends "leftovers" thats always rule #1. and he aint sh!t either if he couldnt find anybody else either! move along with ur life! u dont need that unnecessary drama!
2007-02-01 19:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forlorn's got it right, you need to get over yourself, mami. If it bothers you so much, discuss it with her. This should be obvious.
2007-02-01 19:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by Rey Gamberro Salvador 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new friends She was NEVER EVER one to begin with.
2007-02-01 19:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by SARAH D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont relly like your ex enymore than let her go for it and if you do still alittle bit than talk to her and tell her you still like him and if she doesent understand that than be mad at her and yell and dont talk to her for awail she has no right
2007-02-01 19:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋