have you ever experience labelling when you were a child?

Question

do you think labelling a child is powerfull ?when i was young my mother always tell my that im shy ,tellling people that im shy and i hate it ,the more she tell the more shy i become.

Answer 1

experiencing is different .. once happened is happened

u can't change it
once u become a parent try not to do the same with ur child...that is what u can do ....

Answer 2

Unfortunately all to often parents, or other family members label their children, due to this the children will live up, or down to their label, or rebel against it.

Sometimes children feel it is in some way a put down or a preference of one child over another.

When you have two kids one labeled the "smart" one, one the "boisterous" one, oddly both may be smart just in different areas, but since the first is labeled smart making the other feel less so and causing them to not always achieve as they could have.

Being shy is hard, difficult my sister was the "shy" one, but called the "pretty" one, so she was lucky. I saw how hard it is for her, and other members of my family who are shy, the desire to get things out is there, to become more in tune with the group. But it often seems as though by time you can get out what you want or need to say the subject has changed, and other reasons why being shy is difficult.

I can understand why you hate, since you do not want attention drawn to you in such a way. Your mom may be doing this to try to help you so that others will be more patient and understanding.

Try asking her to talk to you. Ask her if she really understands about being shy, it is very likely she doesn't, or if she herself was shy when she was younger it was shown in different ways than your own.

Let her know that you know you are shy, and while you don't mind that she cares to try to help but her drawing that kind of attention to you just makes you feel the need to retreat more.

She may surprise you, and really listen and stop doing it.

Ask her why she does tell people, I would guess she is doing this to help not hurt. If that is true she will be willing to hear what you have to say on how it makes you feel.

Answer 3

People labeled me as a weirdo and "a future serial killer", actually I liked both of those labels, it kept people from bothering me.

But labeling I can see as being a bad thing, (Ex. someone labels you as a bad child, then parents won't let their kids befriend you) and things like that. I don't really see how someone calling you shy could really be a problem, if you're shy then accept it or try and break it, if you're not shy and they say that just prove them wrong.

Answer 4

I think sometimes it is helpful and other times it is not. Like people would always tell me I was funny and one time this girl told me I should be on TV. So one night me and my friends were at a comedy club and I had a few drinks....I got on stage (open mic) and bombed. Very embarrassing! But I still make jokes and know sometimes I can lighten a situation if need be. It can be bad for nerds, geeks, blondes, etc... it can be both.