All my friends went to uni and moved to new jobs or found new friends where as I'm left living at home I relied on my gf to be my friend too but she has left me so i have no one only my brothers and a few friends that dont want to do anything fun just mope around and drink beer, I want to do all kinds of fun stuff but I don't know what and where. I have tried randomnly talking to people but they just answer my questions then walk off like not make a connection or anything. I know you will say what are your interests but if im honest I don't really have any sad i knowbut not much seems to intrest me i am a boring person if people are doing stuff i will join in but I have no idea how to start things or plan? im 21 and feel depressed someone please help me.
2007-02-01 19:13:11 · 13 answers · asked by Cantona_King 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Change your name. Having played for Manchester United it's a bad opener to a conversation.
2007-02-01 19:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, i do not have a friend now. So i think i could ask the same question. But u can make friends by knowing the kind of person u are, u do not make a friend that the both of u cannot share things in common. U choose ur friends and not them choosing u. If u see someone you like and u feel the person will rhyme with u, then walk up to that person and express ur feelings. It will make u feel better i swear it. And as for ur social life, you will enjoy it when u dont have too many friends. Those friends u have choosen will always be there for u and u can always get all the fun u want and also share.
2007-02-01 20:51:36 · answer #2 · answered by jcz4u2nv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like what John Becker said to you, i agree. Things will get better..and dont be hanging around with boring friends and drinking beer, you could get hooked on alcohol, just because it makes you feel good and loosen up...You should try to make new friends, but with people that have the same interests than you or that makes you feel good...I dont have a lot of friends either, but like my mom says, better alone than badly accompanied...Dont worry, its just a fase...plus you age..You must get out and do a course, or take some classes or join a club, workshop..something in your area or a neighborhood close to you, so you meet new people. You will want to do it all the time.. God bless you and shine on your path and give you wisdom...Peace
2007-02-01 19:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by tabushi11209 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try doing some volunteering, perhaps as an instructor with a youth organisation. At first everything will be organised for you and gradually you will learn how to organise events for yourself. You not only meet people and do things, you also give something back to the community and helping someone to achieve feels great too! Add to that the fact that you gain some useful skills and possibly qualifications and it looks great on your CV and it really sounds like a good idea!
2007-02-01 19:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi no simple solution to this i am sorry you feel this way its upsetting you have family you have friends but not near you so you must be ok to have friends nothing wrong with you why dont you get a dog take him out for walks you meet lots of people that way i did. then i had my daughter same thing met new people at playgroups etc no dont get pg just to make friends but seriously a dog is a good idea or how about a pen pal you could meet ne w friends from all over the world. or a club dance books whatever rocks your world good luck
2007-02-01 19:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by LINDSEY C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here are some ways of getting too know people:
1: start a job, get a job that you enjoy and wont sulk all way through the shift, that way you will enjoy what you are doing and you will shine through and people will notice that you are a happy person
2: you should go to gigs(as on music) or start going to a grama group. this way you will have more confidence and you will meet people, and as for the gigs you will have a great time and meet loads of new faces, thats how i got new mates when i first moved to my present place.
i hope these are any good for you
2007-02-02 03:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by avenged sevenhold rocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can join a gym, a YMCA. or sign up for a night school. Take up dancing, then you can even have girls or guys as friends. You can go out and socialise even at a bar so you can meet other new friends. Watch others so you chose the right friend. In today's society it is hard to trust strangers, so people shy away. Hope I helped.
2007-02-01 19:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Stars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in college right now too, and I have the same problem. I have no girlfriend or friends to hang out with. I am either on my computer or studying, that is pretty much my life. E-mail me if you would like. Good luck and just keep thinking that one day your luck will turn around. That is what I do, but it has not worked yet.
2016-05-24 04:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i had answered a question you had about you not being where you wanna be at your age! i am just writing this since i checked back at the question and noticed you added some comments.... then i viewed your other questions. i cannot write anything since i already answered that question. all i want to say is that you should allow ims or email...im sure there are many people on here who would love to be your friend! you seem like a nice person and dont feel awkward since you dont have too many friends because i dont either! feel free to email me anytime!!! : )
2007-02-04 15:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Thats Hot! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something YOU are interested in and follow that up. That way, you'll meet new people with something in common. It could be photography, yoga or whatever. Check your local paper or noticeboard. It might be scary going along at first but nothing ventured, nothing gained. Good luck.
2007-02-01 19:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋