He will not allow me any free time with my kid, he constantly interrupts me for attention while I am helping my kid do his home work, I feel like I cant have any free time for my kid or self any more with out him constantly wanting attention from me , I feel like I am being deprived for attention all the time that I feel so annoyed , that I stay up late just to have free time to my self, I feel like he is trying to alienate me from my kid and that is so disturbing , I am about to break off our 4 year realationship, how do I let him know I need more free time to my self and son with out any interruptions?
2007-02-01 19:04:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tricia
Your boundaries are being tested. You know what you need. If you want to continue this relationship tell him that you need breathing room and you may have to tell him over and over until it registers. Tell him that the disruptions are annoying you.
The more authentic you are about who you are and what you need the better your relationships with men will be. You must respect yourself in order to command the respect you want from your other significant other.
It could be that you have outgrown him or will outgrow him soon. Being smothered is so NOT fun! One of the many reasons I let my last boyfriend go was because I had to consistently, literally tell him to "Get off of ME!" He was very clingy and it was very annoying. With this said I should mention that he is a really nice guy and we are on wonderful terms but I didn't want to have to tolerate being smothered. Life is too short and I enjoy my own time and energy too much to waste it spending my life with someone who doesn't respect boundaries. My partner has to have more of a sense of himself when it comes to boundaries.
2007-02-01 19:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by S. Schaefer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is jealous of your baby and that is mot healthy. Especially if the child is not his. A good man would not ask you to choose between them, and he is making your time an issue. I think you have to say goodbye, if you love him and think it's worth salvaging then tell him what he is doing to make you feel this way and how your child will always come first. If he changes good. If he is just a selfish man he would probably be this way even with your kids that you have together. Remedy this before your child catches on, there's nothing worse than feeling that a mom chose a man over her flesh and blood. Don't let it happen.
2007-02-02 03:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by fbarkon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure about himself, so he needs to grow-up some. Some men never grow up, no matter what you do or say, they can't understand why they do the things they do. You like to educate your son, so try educating your boyfriend too. Spend some time and teach him how to be a good boyfriend, let him know that he'll lose you if his behavior doesn't cchange, but do it in a loving way. If you let him get away with the little things, he could esculate to abuse and violence. Good luck.
2007-02-02 03:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that it would be a mistake to marry this man. He apparently has jealousy issues regarding your child. That's a dangerous thing because it could very well become abusive. Listen to your warning bells and end this relationship now. It's not worth the safety and well being of your baby to have this intrusive man around causing this problem.
2007-02-02 03:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is very demeaning of him and please try and talk it over with him and try to make him understand that you and your kid need time with each other too. Being open in a relationship is the only way to make a successful relationship
2007-02-02 03:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by geraldine k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a childish sad jerk... you need to dump him and find someone better...
2007-02-02 03:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋