I don't believe so, because if this is true-I WOULD NOT HAVE CHOSE IT. I ask God every night,"Why, why God, why was I born this way"? I am a nice person and I am alone, no girl wants me and I don't know why.My last girlfriend was abusive to me and I just keep praying that I will wake up from this horrible dream.
2007-02-01 18:56:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, it is not a choice.
And you sound like a very pleasant person to spend time with.
Best wishes.
2007-02-01 23:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In relationships,We as homosapian's seem to get stuck in a rut and choose the same kind of personality over and over.You can brake the trend,Sometimes to do that you need a counselor to help you.Can I assume you are the submissive tipe and you need to be dominated.They always pick you up first don't they.I am the same way.When I pout down my foot and let the crap fly they dump me.I am 50 now and still live with my Mother, Who is a dominater.It can be a choice, Science show's us most of the time it is not.My luck has also bin that what they wonted was not in my wallet. And I don't mean a Trojan.I use to Keary them hoping for some action and got nun.My hart tels me it wants someone in their late teens or 20's.What I need is much older.That comes with luggage and I don't want luggage.
2007-02-02 07:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is a choice; someone would not choose the possibility of being fired from a job due to being gay, possibly being denied an apartment or home mortgage due to being gay in some places, being denied hospital visitation for a hospitalized partner by not being immediate family, being denied the option to file joint taxes with a partner since they are unable to marry, or being unable to inherit a partners estate without being taxed at a higher rate because they are not married.
Several scientific studies have shown biological differences between gay and straight people, so gay people are born that way.
2007-02-02 10:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is in my opinion that it was a choice you made. I feel that maybe you are bi-sexual. But if you don't like being with other women then get away from that kind of "lifestyle" and start making more friends with guys that girls and take your time to know him and I'm sure you'll find someone who will love and give you the respect you deserve. And don't misunderstand I'm not saying that being bi-sexual is wrong . I know you'll be ok =)
2007-02-06 02:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by babiboi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a choice.
As a straight male, I didn't wake up one day and say, I want to date women, it just felt better with a woman.
Many people are waking up to the fact that all holy books that show hatred are going out of style
2007-02-02 03:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by onemark1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definantly wasn't a choice for me.
When I was younger I tried very hard to deny that side of me. I thought it would kill me if anyone found out. So I tried to ignore it, I dated guys and know matter what I couldn't be happy. Then I got to the point where I finally accepted, it didn't kill me, my friends (most of them) were still my friends and I've been much happier since then. Now I love myself. And thats the most important thing.
Try not to worry, it does get better.
Always be true to yourself.
2007-02-02 03:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by shark_315 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, i believe it's a choice, i know you don't want to hear this, but i have to know why some people blame God, God did not do anything to you, the devil is, and you can change, read the Bible, pray often, and don't accept the lies the devil is telling you, because you do have a choice the devil wants to convince you otherwise, we all have those kind of temptations, anybody who says otherwise is a liar. good luck and I'll keep you in my prayers.
2007-02-02 03:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by d0wnward.spiral 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not a matter of choice to "be" gay but a person has free will and can choose to NOT live a gay lifestyle. As far as what you went through it's no different in the straight community. You just got involved with a bad person. In time you will get past this episode and move on. Use what you experienced this time to avoid letting it happen again.
2007-02-02 03:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Nope.
I tried everything I could think of to not be gay. From trying to "pray it away" to "over exposure via multiple opposite sexual partners" to even marrying a guy and having a child....anything to make me NOT be gay....
In the end... I'm still me, I'm still exactly as God made me.
It took me a LONG time to accept it, but once I did, I have truly been blessed!!
2007-02-02 02:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont believe it is a choice. I am really sorry to hear about your siuation! I'm sure that if you keep looking then eventually you will find the right girl for you. :)
2007-02-02 05:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by Katie C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋