can someone please answer this?

Question

ok heres the situation..before my mom met my dad she was with another guy and she had a son whos now 33. she was 17 then. he turned out great. hes smart, has lived longer and is doing great. no problems with him..after that relationship my mom then met the guy who is now my dad..while with him, she had numerous miscarriages,..finallly she had a child who is now deceased, he was 19..he was smart, gifted..but for whatever reason died a tragic death. then she had me.i m the only girl child she didnt miscarry..but i find that i have a whole lot of issues. i have what i think is tourettes syndrome, im usually depressed, i turned out gay .etc..whats all this?? is my dad the problem?? seems like all the kids she had with my dad have issues..............................

yes he did, but my grandmother also helped raise him

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with you. You're special & perfectly planned by God. Who knew everything you'd endure, & that's why He's made a way out for mankind. You're sad because of these things you mentioned and you're trying to figure it all out & can't find the answers. First of all, there is NO DISEASE that God your Creator can't heal, if you believe that. Your choice. Second of all, the depression issue can also be taken care of by God. You know, Jesus died for people like you & me. It's simple & we all try to analyze & philosophize, but you just plain believe in God & the resurrection of Jesus who died for us to save us out of the mess we get ourselves in & even when it's not fault of our own, or you don't believe it. I say all this kindly, but you need frankness, not someone who'll just put all their views on you. As far as being gay, God wants you to have a glorious, beautiful life & if you'll surrender to Him, He will put the broken pieces of your life back together that you thought had all been spent. He tells the shoreline where to stop, he put the stars in place, He says "Rain!" & there's a mighty down pour. He's not worried about if He can solve your problems. HE CAN & you must trust in Him. God Bless you, dear.

Answer 2

If her son was 19 when he passed and then she had you, it could be because of age. Birth defects/ serious illnesses, like tourettes are far more common in children born to older mothers.
Being gay is not a birth defect, just a part of who you are, right or wrong, for better or worse. We all have issues and baggage. Don't be too hard on yourself, or your dad. While some diseases are genetic, there are still higher risk factors the older the mother is when the child is born.

Answer 3

Sometimes there can be medical issues, that can be passed down genetically, and there are even those cases when two people just are not capatable genetically, but it could also be a coincidence regarding your father.

Check with your own doctor, what ever the reasons, you are here, and obviouslly wanted, or why else did your parents keep trying to have kids?

It could be that you need to look at the issues you have, face them deal with them, both the positive and negative, and move on from there. After all at this point nothing can be changed and it doesn't seem like the issues you are referring to are ones where you need to place blame but rather deal with.

Sometimes life just happens. And depending on your spiritual values maybe there were life lessons you or your family needed to learn from the experiences.

Answer 4

Tourettes is a Neurological (or to be more specific (Neurobiological) problem in the brain. It is not a mental illness. All the junk that happened in your family cannot change your Neurological makeup that you were born with. In other words, Tourettes is like this: your software (mental) is fine, but your hardware (brain, spinal cord) is not hooked up correctly and causes tics. It is strictly physical, but the stress from having tics and not knowing what it is can cause problems that are hard to deal with. Understanding is the key. It unlocks the mystery and takes away the stigma.

The depression is chemical and another issue altogether.

Answer 5

it's not your dad's fault or your mom...it's bought because genetically they might not be compatible that's why you and the other child have problems and most of the issues are caused by the mother's genes..but it's not necessarily a genetic problem you shouldn't blame your parents for your problems because there are a lot of factors that can "help"those issues...being gay is not something your mom and dad are guilty about...but hey cheer up life goes on you'll get to see the silver lining of the cloud

Answer 6

Have ur dad done any medical check-up and is there anything wrong? It don't neccessary be ur dad's fault..cld be ur mom. Depending on family backgrounds actually...disease/symdrome might come from family of either mom/dad. Since you're depressed, i suggest that u go see a doctor or someone to talk too....depression can be suicidal...and being GAY, ain't a sickness, it's ur choice...cld be ur hormones tho...not a scientist bt i think it has nothing to do with sickness.

Answer 7

Seek some kind of therapist to discuss these questions with. Quite often, this will be at least partially covered by insurance.

The reality is that this world is what YOU make of it. Not what your parents (either one) did a long time ago. You can be powerful & make a difference in your life and in other people's lives.

Answer 8

I don't think your dad's sperm had anything to do with you being depressed and having tourettes syndrome.

We are all born different. Some kids are born with mental and physical deformaties, some with developmental issues, some are born with *none*.

We are all human.

I'm sorry you are so sad about yourself, please cheer up and get to the doctor to get treated.

God Bless

Answer 9

Did her first son live in your household? dont tell me just a question for yourself.

Answer 10

no ones perfect don't be so hard on yourself.