I feel I hate my self after my husband the one I love told me?

Question

that becoz I am very sensitive, PEOPLE will hurt me and eat me up, is it tru and right what he says. trust me I can't focus and my head hurts me and my eyes can't cocnetrate on reading.
what I should do?

Answer 1

Stop thinking. Breathe. You can't find the answers in your head if your head is creating all the chaos in you.

If your thoughts bring you pain, stop thinking. That is the first thing that you need to do.

You must realise that the person who is truly hurting you is yourself. Your insecurities and lack of self-esteem, your lack of love for yourself is creating the sensitivity that is generating even more weakness in yourself. People are people; whether they have intentions to hurt you or not becomes irrelevant to how you see yourself, treat yourself, and how you let others treat you. Words and intentions only hurt if you allow them to hurt you.

Don't let your fear of others paralyse you from nurturing yourself. Your happiness and security is dependent on you and you alone. You cannot recognise love and happiness from others if you cannot recognise it within yourself.

Just as you cannot recognise the intention of love that your husband is trying to convey to you.

Are you not the one who said "my husband, the one that i love told me?"

You recognise that you love him, but do you recognise that he loves you?

Your husband loves you for who you are. But it's you who doesn't love you for who you are. This lack of self-esteem and confidence - this feeling of hate for yourself is blinding you from the love that you have. The love for yourself and from others.

It does not matter if there are other people out there who will hurt you and eat you up. You are already doing that to yourself by allowing this fear, insecurity and hatred to wallow within you.

Don't look at the others around you at this very moment and stop comparing yourself. Stop thinking. Take a deep breath. Can you see yourself within? Is it really that bad inside you? Are you really that worthless to yourself?

You are not.

That breath is the life that you are breathing in to nurture you and keep you alive. Your life. Your body. Your spirit. Your heart. So long as you keep taking that breath that keeps you alive, you must recognise the love of life that is yours that you want to keep living. There is nothing you can do to change who you are within. Who you are is beyond your control. But what you are is everything that is within your control.

Are you love?
Are you pain?
Are you sensitive?
Are you strength?
Are you happiness?
Are you sadness?

You are all these things and more. It is up to you what you are and want to become. People will come and go in your life, but your life is only one. You are the only one who can find the meaning and the strength in your life. You cannot recognise love through your fear. You must let it go.

If you can love yourself and treat yourself kindly and with love, then you can free yourself from the pain of others. Pain only hurts if you allow it to keep hurting you whether it's from you or anyone else.

Truth only hurts if you deny it.

Answer 2

Your husband addresses a very practical point. However, you mustn't feel too concerned and overwhelmed by it. Sensitivity is not an irreparable issue; through time and management, you can help protect yourself by actively seeking independence in yourself. It can be awfully intimidating, but it is a journey worth the effort, as overcoming your sensitivity will offer great advantages. Ask your husband to help you out, perhaps give you some feedback and suggestions on how to approach the problem.

Think about casual topics which your sensitivity is affected. If your peers are treating you as if you are inferior, perhaps it is best to analyze that situation and think of possible actions on your behalf. The focal point I would say is to try to get your voice heard. Stand up for your own reasons, and define them strongly. But most importantly, if you see someone who may be potentially hurting you, it is your responsibility to save yourself. Sometimes practicing with your anger can help you refine this problem. Focus on your aggressiveness and maybe you'll come through! Good luck!

Answer 3

Sensitive is good but,there are a lot of people out there that will try & cut you down like a dead tree but you must stand like a mighty oak.Either you're husband is trying to protect you from this cruel,cruel world or he's trying to keep you from doing something that you want to do.

Answer 4

I think most people would call you "Thin Skinned". This just means that you are a sensitive peson who gets her feelings hurt easily. There is NOTHING wrong with being thin skinned, hunny. It's really hard to make yourself tough and hard and numb!

It's ok to have emotions and feelings and it's ok to be a sensitive person.

You are a good person. *lots of hugs to you*

God Bless and Take Care

Answer 5

My wife was also very sensitive (still is really) but living with me "toughened her up" You usually find that this kind of person has had a pretty good life and sees things with a little bit of naivete' and innocence, then life kicks there butt a little bit and shows them how to accept negative things a little better.

Answer 6

dont hate yourself just because you're sensitive and some people hurt you without knowing it.calm down.

Answer 7

My boyfriend says that too but it's true I guess I tend to let people walk all over me because I'm too kind.
Ashley-

Answer 8

men don't appreciate good women like you. all men want to be with a bad women who would cheat, disrespect, abusive and humiliate them in public. stop being a good woman and start listening to your wild side.

Answer 9

Tell him yeah well animals are also know to eat their young. What? What? When he was young did his parents want to eat him for dinner?

Answer 10

Become confident in who you are. And yes poeple like to take advantage.