2007-02-01 18:18:50 · 9 answers · asked by khodadad_omid 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
completing a puzzle
visiting with her grandchildren
making some food she has never made before
read a book that she has always wanted to read
go to a play/concert/etc.
to stay healthy
to keep active
take up a swim aerobics class
volunteer at various places
give to charity
basic car maintenance (washer fluid, gas, filling up the tires) my grandma had to learn how to do all that stuff when my grandpa passed away
cleaning out the house/basement...getting rid of unused stuff...donating it to goodwill or another charity (come on, everyone's grandparents have tons of stuff in the basement that needs to be cleaned out!)
go to the movies
listen to music/use a cd player
go out to eat with her grandkids (find a favorite place to eat)
get a basic computer and keep in touch with the family via email
2007-02-01 18:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she is searching for a goal means that she had finished all her responsibilities in her life and suddenly realized that she did not do anything for herself. That's really a great sacrifice every responsible parent does. Still one has to do something for his/her own life. That something should not end with her life, it should continue even after her death. At the same time it should give pleasure to her and to the people around her.
Since she has freetime throughout the day, why doesn't she practice meditation like Jesus did? It gives her immense happiness and helps get rid of all her ailments, if any, and keeps her healthy and active. It's a simple meditation which is as follows:
Sit cross-legged on a chair or bed. Keep the hands clasped (fingers into fingers) on the lap. Close the eyes gently. Now observe the natural breath that is coming in and going out of the nostrils. No need to erect your spine while sitting. Sit comfortably, that's enough. While observing your breath, numerous thoughts enter the mind. Cut them at once and bring back your attention on your natural breath. If you repeat it whenever thoughts arise, at one point there will not be any thoughts and also you will not feel your breath. When you achieve this state, you feel the real bliss lingering inside you.
Ask your grandmother to practice it at any convenient time everyday for half an hour or one hour, if possible. One suggestion - Please ask your grandmother to switch to vegetarian diet if she is a non-vegetarian. Not even eggs are allowed. Pure vegetarianism, that is, cereals, pulses, vegetables, fruits, and nuts can be eaten.
Once she had experienced the bliss within her, she could teach this meditation to others who would also benefit from it. There is no other goal higher than this in the world. Because everybody is searching for happiness outside by doing many things in this world, whereas the happiness, in fact, lies within oneself. The only thing required is how to unveil it and enjoy it by ourselves without depending on any external help.
Nothing but this meditation follows her even after this life.
If you have any questions, please mail me to ag.ravi@yahoo.com. Thank you.
2007-02-01 19:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by ag.ravi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting up there myself, so I've been giving it some thought.
Elderly folks can have a good quality of life. My own grandmother almost made it to 100 and she died laughing with friends. She was very well loved and remembered by everyone.
It's not about waiting to die, but it might be about being prepared to die. Which means being comfortable with your life, and the most important thing in your life - your relationships with other people. I guess by 85, most other parts of your legacy are (hopefully) taken care of, so you might be more concerned about how you are remember.
Of course there's always day to day life. The little things go on.
2007-02-01 18:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by Eclectic_N 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother is going to be 87 this year. Whenever I visit her, I always encourage her to live on. She simply smiles back and says something like she doesn't know when the time comes. It's not easy to help the old feel happy in the mind and keep going with his/her physical strength. Therefore, I think living a long life, that is, go as far as she can into the field of longevity without fear or worry among her loving family members is a goal for her.
2007-02-01 20:10:35 · answer #4 · answered by Arigato ne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother prepared herself for the afterlife at this age. I believe that we live on after our body dies.
I remember the day when my 96 year old grandma past away. I saw her 5 days before and she was well saying good bye to us as we went on a short holiday trip. On this day when I said bye, she what she actually never before did, asked me if I could not stay a bit longer. I am happy that I did.
On the day she died it was exactly the first birthday of my son.
I had an headache the whole day and in the evening I had a vision of my grandma and an beautiful angel waiting for her in the beyond to pick her up. I felt deep peace. Ten minutes later my parents called to tell me that my grandma was gone.
I did not feel sad, I knew she was ready for this step.
2007-02-01 18:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by I love you too! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eclectic gave a great response!
i don't know about goals per say, i know schools and preschools have needs for "grandmothers" to help with kids. when my son was in preschool there was a lady who came every day just to rock babies. i highly suggest something that would help her feel useful and needed. i also agree, get to know her history, she didn't have video cameras, write it down, videoher, interview her... we love to tell our stories.
is she open to "goals" that will make a difference as well. good luck, she's lucky to have you
2007-02-01 18:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by missy66207 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could right her memoir, go to construction project leaving something behind after her demise. write a book how to live long.
2007-02-01 18:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by wilma m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make some friends
Get to know her grandson better.
Go for a walk everyday.
Do something she's always wanted to.
2007-02-01 18:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by bigboyfatcat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she'll leave you some $
2007-02-01 18:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Bob L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋