I get along with my parents so well and I dont need a lousy, noisy, scum roomate. My parents house is paid off and I go to school. Besides I can spend my money in better things than in a rip off rent to some morgage company that employees their ceo and than I will end up paying them for their big mansions.
What do you guys think?
2007-02-01 18:17:25 · 18 answers · asked by luchoed 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I love the job I currently have while I go to school so I dont want to move anywhere at this point. I know that eventually I will move out but by then I will have my BS in computer science and a GF or future wife.
I am from Colombia so I didnt grew up with the mentality of leaving my house as soon as I could.
I am not planning on settling down any time soon. Maybe at 33.
2007-02-01 18:33:28 · update #1
Are you doing it to help your parents?
Are you doing it to save money towards your future.
Then of course it's okay.
Are you doing it because you're too lazy to cook or clean?
Then yes.
In many countries, children do not leave home until they are married.
Unfortunately, people in some countries, (America, Canada, etc...) feel that you must leave your parents at 18. Why?
Are all people so selfish that after 18 years of having their parents love and care for them, the only thing they can think of is to get away from their parents.
2007-02-01 18:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it is unusual. Have you ever been out on your own? If not, I think you are totally missing the whole idea...When you live out on your own, you learn a lot about life and how to run your own life among a million other things. If you have never been out on your own, you are going to be in for a culture shock when you finally do move out. And you may also find that you will have trouble really finding a "wife". Most women do not find a person still living with parents at that age as attractive. My ex-husband still lives with his parents and he is 46! When we got married, I was already pregnant, which is why I went ahead and got married (I was very young - 19), and he promised that we would move out of his parents house in 6 months. That 6 months never came. 2 1/2 years and 2 kids later, we divorced. We are best of friends, however. The point here is that he still lives with his mom. He doesn't see any reason to move. And one more thing, he has never, NEVER, had an opportunity to date another human being since we split in 1984. Very sad. But you know how you are, hopefully. But for your own sake, please keep this in mind and know that it can happen to you without really ever knowing anything happened.
2007-02-02 03:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you think that there is something wrong with it. Most young people cannot wait to get out of their parents' home, and it's generally considered healthy that they do so. There are many ways to live on your own if you want to, but if you're convinced that you cannot, then none of them will work.
Your standard of living drops drastically when you move out, but most people consider the independence and privacy well worth any discomfort--when you're young, you can tolerate almost anything.
In your case, it sounds like you'd like very much to get away, but you're scared. Don't be: go visit Greyhound, find a destination, and go. You'll figure it out when you get there. Distance is helpful because it adds to the adventure and prevents you from returning home the first night.
2007-02-02 02:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by 2n2222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were mooching off your parents I would say that you were a looser. You are in school - you are making something of yourself. I dont see anything wrong with using your parents as a stepping stone to help you get further in your career/life. Parents are there for just that. Now if you get your degree and remain living at home and NOT pay rent - you are a looser.
Dont be a mooch!
2007-02-02 02:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by texaspride1977 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it. More and more people are staying with their parents into their 30's. If you get along well with them and pay your way, who say you have to "disown" your parents soon as you hit 20?? Once you get studies out the way and save a bit, then consider getting out on your own. Do not listen to negative remark regarding this, if everyone is happy and it suits the current situation, take advantage of the ability to save.
2007-02-02 04:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by scorpiosa70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how you feel about it. If you feel fine with it, then fine. If not, then maybe do something about it. You can always pay rent to them or help around with them a bit if that makes you feel better. I think that you are still trying to get your degree, so don't worry too much about staying at home unless you don't like it. You can always wait till you get your degree and find a good job before moving out.
2007-02-02 03:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Raines 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only have one question about your situation. When do you get to grow up and experience life on its own terms if you still live under the protection of your parents? their job is to prepare you to handle the stresses of life and if you are still 'in the nest', you have learned nothing about life or your ability to cope with it. The fact that you are questioning if it is OK suggests that you may recognize that something is missing in you compared to your classmates. No! There is nothing wrong with it, but there is nothing gained or ventured and as a result your maturity suffers as does your decision -making capabilities, because Mom and Dad get to make the real decisions for you. To me, an adult who earned his way, you sound very selfish and immature. Perhaps your parents are too afraid to ask you for rent and board, perhaps you are too selfish to offer. Either way you ought to think that in some ways you are using them beyond the duties of a parent which is to love and nurture you until you are ready to take care of yourself. That make you selfish and immature in my book. If you were really mature, would you describe a roommate as loud and noisy before you ever met him/her? Think about the undue burden you are placing on your parents and don't ask them, because they may not be capable of being straight with you because of mixed emotions and after you have kicked the idea around, then discuss your future with them. If you are a person capable of self-honesty, then you will probably decide to leave on your own, if not then you will keep living off your parents and never grow.
2007-02-02 02:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by cuban friend 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you made up your mind pretty well on the question already; if you're comfortable with continuing to live with your parents, and they're fine with you living there, I can hardly see a reason not to. However, if it hasn't already, I imagine that continuing to live with your parents could have a rather enormous impact on your social life.
If you're going to school, though, that seems to be a pretty practical solution. Just keep checking in with your parents about their feelings on the matter.
2007-02-02 02:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by GeekGirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with it as long as your parents don't mind. I moved out at 30....moved right into my own house....you can save a lot of money staying with your parents. I'm glad I did, my mom died recently and I was so glad I got know her really well as an adult and got to spend that time with her. Work it as long as it works for everyone.
2007-02-02 03:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by LegalEnviroGuy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some may want to label you as a leech and momma's boy who, though able to afford it, is too irresponsible to take care of himself and not mature enough to finally leave the nest and go out on his own....
but, don't listen to them, they don't know you as well as your parents do.
2007-02-02 02:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by GeneL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋