Having problems concieving at 20!?

Question

I'm married to a US soldier...we're doing incredibly well and we're ready to have a baby!...we've prepared ourselves physicly,mentally,financially..we thought making the baby would be the easy part! But how wrong we're we..it's been over seven months now with unprotected sex and nothing. I've searched and searched over the internet.I've article after article on conception.Generally couples at this age have no problem concieving in a window of six months...now that's we're past that I can't help but to worry...I know that things happen at the right time and there's a reason for everything...but I can't help but worry that maybe we possibly can't have children.Doctors generally don't even want to see you until you've past the one year mark and the worst part, being a military wife seeing all your friends get pregnate day after day. Although I know I'm not, I feel so alone in this issue. Is there anybody out there with anything to help?

Answer 1

girl, we're on the same boat,,i'am married also to a us soldier and been TTC for 9 mos. now. I'm having some lab exam with my ob-gyn about infertility. everybody i know tells me that we shouldn't stress our self too much coz the more we want it, the more it will not be given. try to relax, make love not just an obligation to make a baby and beside we're still in a honeymoon stage, enjoy the moment.! i feel the same way that you do..don't worry ur not the only person who experience this

Answer 2

I can't say I necessarily know how you feel, but I think it will probably happen in its own time. Keep trying and then if it doesn't happen maybe after a year or a year and a half, go to the Dr and see what they say. We got pregnant with our first one when I was 17, and then I was on birth control for about 6 months. After that, we didn't use any protection. We went just over 5 years before I got pregnant again. For the most part, things just happen in their own time. I think people stress over it too quickly. I mean, I do understand going to see a Dr after a while, but don't rush into it. Nature might take its course and give you a little surprise. I know that there are instances where people need help. I mean my sister tried for prob. almost 10 years before they got pregnant and even then they had to have invetro. Just give it some time and just enjoy practicing getting pregnant. Don't stress, cause that will make it harder for you to get pregnant. Best of luck!

Answer 3

It took me 4 years for my first pregnancy and a month after stop birth control for my second pregnancy. Try www.fertilityfriend.com for great info and advice on how to track your cycles. If you have problems ovulating the program on there will help you find out and a doctor will be more willing to help you. You can also keep very close track of you cycles and it will help you and your doctor better identify the problem. It's never too early to have his sperm count tested.

Until then, start on day 8 of your cycle and try to have sex every other day. Having too much sex on the wrong days can lower his sperm count and make it harder.

www.webmd.com has a lot of things on getting pregnant and they also have some great message boards.

Have fun trying and good luck!

Answer 4

THERE'S SEVERAL FACTORS TO LOOK AT....
WERE U ON THE PILL PRIOR TO TRING? IT CAN SUMTIMES TAKE AWHILE IT U WERE.
DO U HAVE NORMAL PERIODS? IF NOT, THAT WOULD BE THE 1ST STEP TO GET FIXED.
IF U HAVE CYST, THAT CAN B A PROBLEM. START ON THE 1ST DAY OF UR PERIOD AND CHECK YOUR TEMP B4 U GET OUT OF BED. WHEN U SEE A RISE N UR TEMP, THEN U SHOULD START TO HAVE INTERCOURSE EVERY 2 DAYS. ALSO, USE A PILLOW TO PROP UP ON TO TILT YOUR UTERUS BACK SO THAT THE SPERMEES CAN HAVE A BETTER FLOW. IT WILL LOWER THE SPERM COUNT THE MORE OFTEN HE DOES IT, SO DON'T DO IT MORE THAN 1X A DAY, BUT SHOULD BE EVERY OTHER DAY. ALSO, TELL HIME TO USE BOXERS INSTEAD OF UNDIES AS THIS ALSO HELPS THE SPERM COUNT.
IF THAT DOES'NT WORK, U OR HIM OR BOTH MAY NEED TO BE CHECKED. DON'T STRESS UR SELF OUT CUZ STRESS CAN REALLY DELAY THE PROCESS. IT TOOK ME OVER 5YRS ALOND WITH TESTING, D&C, HUBBY BEING CHECKED, TYE RAN THRU MY TUBES AND FERTILITY PILLS.
BUT, MOST OF ALL PRAY..... GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN DOING SO....

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling bad. I read your question and I know exactly how you feel. I find it so hard to muster up the strength to be happy for all of my pregnant friends. I wonder how it is so easy for them and why it is so hard for us. All I can tell you is what people have been telling me...try to relax. I know it is hard. I feel like my mind can't stop thinking about it. I feel like all month is "hurry up and wait" and then i feel so sad when i get my period. It will happen for you. You just have to believe that it will happen and try to stay positive. Try to have fun and just remember how lucky you are to have a loving marriage where you can lean on each other. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

my past co worker had problems having a child with his wife until they heard of a ovulation kit. they got it from a pharmacy shelf. allows u to know when u r more fertile. But as u say there is a reason for everything. I say that to myself all the time. keep ur head up and i wish u all the luck
http://www.drugstore.com/search/search.asp?search=ovulation+kits&aid=333321_&aparam=ovulation_kit

Answer 7

whats up, sorry you havnt had any success yet at conceiving yet dont provide up attempting. all you are able to truly do is have intercourse daily your are actually not on your era and end utilising lubricants as this might harm the sperm. in case you had to purpose his sperm with out going to the medical expert and attempt which you your self are ovulating then you might desire to purchase a attempt kit from asda for only below £30.00. solid success x oh please initiate taking in case you havnt already preconception supplements, folic acid, flaxseed oil and use theory plus lubricant from boots to assist alongside with your possibilities of being healthful for a sprint one ..quit caffeine and booze too x

Answer 8

it took me like 8 months or 9 some people take like 5 yrs i got pregnant at 17 and im pregnant again at 19

Answer 9

You need to stop looking over the Internet, stop reading and worrying.
Your husband and you need to go out for a romantic diner have a couple of wines (no need to go over board) and let things happen naturally.
I know its hard my parents tried for 5 years. the moment they gave up and decided to use a condom and not 'try' the condom ended up breaking and 3 weeks later she found out she was pregnant!!!
You need to mentally let go of all your thoughts about this.
RELAX.
ENJOY YOURSELF AND YOUR PARTNER!
Good luck. you will appreciate your baby so much more for all the trying, trust me!:)

Answer 10

Don't know what to tell you but I am in the same boat, only my husband and I have been trying for 4 years now. Good luck.