What should I do???
I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2007-02-01 17:10:11 · 14 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Firstly, i respect u especailly the part of saving sex for marriage.
I'm also an anti-touch kinda girl.
Its not that i don't like anyone touching me. Its the fact that i don't want to be touched by just anyone."someone special" which will make the feeling more memorable.
I think she wants to be touched but she is scared, she doesn't want to regret it.
I suggest you tell her that u feel something about her and ask her if you can touch her in the way u want.
Good luck
2007-02-01 19:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by goldengirl_missevolution 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As u said u r a caring guy(that's very good most of the girls liked to be cared!) and she is "anti touch" so u have to adjust or wait untill she takes initiative.
If u r really emotional and u feel that u can spend a whole lifetime together with love, care and respect for each other despite of any ups and downs and against all odds if u feel this kind of feeling for anyone and from a long time only then u can think of marrying her.
And if u r really serious tell your parents to finalize rest of the things.Don't afraid of anyone and anything.If u r into true love u must get it that's the only right way(but first make sure love is true)
U can grow closer by getting into emotional(not physical) initimacy.
2007-02-02 01:37:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen,,,
If you want to build a relationship with this girl. You have to do something that is could be hurtful, but, the truth is the most important thing there is.
Talk to her, ask her if you hugging other girls makes her uncomfortable.
Maybe she doesn't want to be looked at as, one of your other huggie touchier girl - friends. I respect you both for waiting on sex... That is the most important choice in both of your lives.
Let me say this, when two people come together in sharing love with each other, in the way of making love, they better be ready in the event of her getting pregnant, and then you both making one of three choices.
Having the baby, aborting the baby, or adopting the baby. All three choices you will live with for the rest of your life.
Lastly, Talk to her,,, but try to be prepared if she says, i don't think of you in that way. Truth hurts, but at least you will know to move on.. And that's the tough part...
Good Luck!
2007-02-02 01:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by caasos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait, and let her know that you care about her and stuff.
Be sure to give her something for valentine's day.
I'm anti-touch too, last year this guy that liked me that i was tolerating hugged me and I completely backed off.
Give her time, and things will work out.
2007-02-02 01:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her. Whether It's through the mail or around school. A kind gentle letter about how you enjoy being around her and how you are glad you met her and tell her what's on your heart.
2007-02-02 01:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just going to have to let time pass by to gain her trust. Just keep being a gentleman and don't be to pushy or desperate about it. If you can't have physical contact then I would suggest for you to use words by telling her how you feel about her or letters to express yourself to her. Be patient...it will pay off in time don't worry.
2007-02-02 01:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start with small physical contact, like brushing her shoulder or well shaking hands. Then maybe small hugs, tread the waters. you said you think she won't like to hold hands. Maybe she's shy of public displays of affection? Try hugging her in private, maybe she's just shy.
2007-02-02 01:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I appreciate that... really
yeah just ask her for marriage,
by the way your display pic is cool man
Good luck
2007-02-02 02:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jill-mommy of a cute lil fellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been close to her talk frankly every thing what u want and what u what to do . it is not physical contact do hug her when i she happy or sad
2007-02-02 02:53:00 · answer #9 · answered by Tia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well it sounds like therz no problem except you!! can you really wait?? sounds like she's waiting for it but you need more?, Propose then live a great life, then if 1 day if u have another question on ur marriage "What should i do", then i mite understand this question!!??@@**!!!!!
um mate dunno how old u are, but spose the chicha will just make you wait,,,
2007-02-02 01:18:20 · answer #10 · answered by cookieazz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋